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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/21/2007 9:06:58 PM

switchsecrets

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

In fact my ex-husband doubled almost now tripled his income, because I am the type that WILL motivate YOU to be successful.

Each couple can pick what is best for them!
Viva la difference.

Isn't there an old saying (something to the effect) "behind every successful man there's a good hard woman" ?

I've been single for many years and have done fairly well career wise, but i know i would have done a hell of a lot better at my job if i had the right woman in my life during those years. motivating me and i wouldn't have wasted alot of energy thinking and trying to meet the right one; instead, focusing more on climbing the ladder. i see it all the time at my company. the high achievers tend to be in good stable marriages.when the marriages sour, so does the career. but, there are financial benefits to being single too, if you know how to manage money. i've also seen couples each making six figure incomes go down the drain. it's not always how much you make, but what you do with it and invest it that makes a difference.

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/21/2007 11:54:28 PM

SDFemDom4cuck

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

As all things in life AAkasha, to each their own.
I have business projects that will allow me to retire early,and run my business from home.
I have always planned to retire EARLY, with or without a mate so that has ALWAYS been my
plan/dream.
That said, the TYPE of man I enjoy is the TYPE that really needs to get OUT of the house, work and make money.
In fact, I will be retired for years {running my business} and he will continue working.
I probably will have to MAKE him stop.
Again, this is MY preference and the LIFE that I want.
I tend to like men that are professionally driven and can afford to pay for a maid service, lawn services, etc.
Aren't good maid services and lawn services great? I tend to prefer successful men at my age, not someone poor, just starting out or struggling to eck out a living.

I also am working on adopting, so IF anyone stays home, again it will be me.

Something does not set right with ME working, and the man at home unless he is sick, handicapped or disabled.
Again......that is ME.
It is something that I am not interested in, I enjoy a man that is career driven.

As always to each their own.
I am fortunate to find men that want to maintain their day jobs AND be my wife.
In fact, I will make his lunch and cook him dinner.

Would it not be great to have my wife work to make OUR lives better and I stay home?
When I was married my vanilla husband gave me his check and I gave him an allowance and took care of the bills, and the running of the home.
I ENJOY controlling the home, and the maid services, lawn services, will help me maintain it.
Some women prefer to keep their wife home, Some {as I do} want him to pursue and be SUCCESSFUL $$$$$ in HIS career, isn't it great to have a choice!

**Lets see, you can QUIT your 6 figure income job that you love, so you can stay home to cook, clean, and do yard work? and I freaking have to work?????**

AH that would be, no! Let me add, HELL NO!!!!!, unless you are sick or disabled. I am NOT supporting any able bodied grown ass man, that is not even a relative.

In fact my ex-husband doubled almost now tripled his income, because I am the type that WILL motivate YOU to be successful.

Each couple can pick what is best for them!
Viva la difference.

Whoot! It's back. The male wife thread. I do so agree with you. I prefer a driven and successful man as well. Driven in one area usally means they are driven to succeed in all areas. Ditto on the dishes. LOL

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/21/2007 11:56:18 PM

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::winking:: lol

If anyone stays and home and takes it easy, it will be ME.

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/22/2007 12:04:28 AM

SDFemDom4cuck

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

::winking:: lol

If anyone stays and home and takes it easy, it will be ME.

Check your mail. What are you still doing up?

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/22/2007 6:53:14 AM

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interesting

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/22/2007 8:42:56 AM

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OMG....the idea of being the wife appeas to me sooo much. i work alot out of my house ayway so it would make it work een that much better. i have to say that for me, being the wife also includes feminization. There are obvious limitations to it since i have to work and live in the vanilla world, but at home i would like to try and always be dressed, feminine and obedient. Pampering, pleasing and serving are so fullfilling to me, its like i was meant to be a wife all along. i would love to stop work and be waiting at the door when She got home to get Her a drink, massage Her feet and listen to Her. Keeping Her house clean, the laundry done and having dinner ready for Her also are very important to me. As a female i could only pleasure Her as another female could, so i would be ok with Her dating real men. i would be there to make sure She was fullfilled emotionally. i would beHer confidant, bff, gf. i would be the one She could tell anything to and i would love Her unconditionally. Unfortunately i could not bear Her children but could possibly breast feed them.
Maybe one day a nice Domme will ask me to be Her wife:)
lauren

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/22/2007 10:16:32 AM

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and my little lauren no one deserves that more then you-you are a very good girl

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/22/2007 12:48:36 PM

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Although it didn't start out that way, I ended up as a sort of wife in a relationship with a girlfriend. After years being a sub to my wife, she divorced me for another. Heartbroken, I finally found a girl who looked up to me instead of the other way around.

Things changed, they had to considering my bent, and I struggled to maintain control. Lisa took over one evening as I massaged her back. Not able to resist the impulse, I was soon demonstrating my devotion by kissing her lovely rear end. Once that symbolic act had taken place, Lisa changed. Her attitude about me changed. She no longer saw me as the one in charge, she began treating me with a lot less respect. Of course, this fed my masochistic tendencies and I started doing all the chores around the place. Soon, she did nothing and did all the work. It began with the laundry, naturally, and being caught licking her panties only added to her new opinion of me.

Although I am a manager at work, at home, she is in charge and I treat her with devotion and care. Usually, a foot massage when she arrives home, with a drink and dinner, and then I'm sent on other chores. She's taken to entertaining people at our house, with me filling the part of part butler, part maid, so I'm sure it won't be long before someone else is taking my place in the bedroom.

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/22/2007 5:06:05 PM

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We're still looking. I was talking to one up in Michigan ... and his profile was suddenly deleted

So I guess we're back to square one again.

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/22/2007 5:32:06 PM

submgreenbay

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

I want a "male" wife, but I want him to be all man.

I guess this is always what I envisioned. I always agreed for the most part with Lady Misato, Emily Addison (Around Her Finger), and Goddess Lorena. Their perceptions made the most sense to me I guess.

Know a couple guys who seem to be in that position and envy them.

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/29/2007 3:17:17 PM

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Greetings A/all! i would like to share a few personal thoughts about the “male wife” concept. my first posting here on CM, and i hope it contributes to the discussion.

Where overwhelmingly most here seem to agree on the general concept, the discussions seems to center on some of the more subtle aspects.

W/we are stuck with limits of the English language and the associated meanings of these words as has evolved in our 21st century society.

For myself, if i was lucky enough to become male wife to the Goddess that i loved, i would bring some assumptions. Why would i not work? I have over 20 years experience in my profession and if my working outside of the home was able to contribute a significant salary to the household, that salary may well be worth it to my D/Partner. On the other hand, She may have a value system where my staying at home was of greater value then the salary I would contribute.

W/we need to understand that this is not simply role reversal. No two marriages are the same as no two (or more) people in a relationship are the same. To my way of thinking a D/s relationship is based on a mutual agreement that One is superior or at least in charge, over the other(s). In the case of this discussion the Woman will have to decide what is best for the Family; if She does this unilaterally or after consultation with the s/partner, is a dynamic of the individual Family, but regardless in the end, She makes the decision. i know that in my case, i can barely cook to save my life, so that cooking is not a skill that I can bring into a relationship. But my ability to earn “six figures” may out weigh that deficiency. In fact, if I was to go to work, while She did not work, would not that be Her choice? Would the fact of my being “sole breadwinner” take away from Her position, Her authority, Her control, etc.? AAkasha wrote that in Her case the male wife working was a problem. She corrected it. She adjusted the dynamic of the relationship to what worked best for Her and Her Family, but that does not mean that other D/s Families can’t be happy with a male wife earning a salary.

MzMia has written that She enjoys doing grocery shopping, an errand that most of society associates with the non-dominant member of a relationship. But in the case of a D/s Family, W/we must spurn the general assumptions and labels of society and create what works best for the specific D/s family. Gender assumptions and stereotypes are a product of society and W/we each grew up with them, O/our challenge is to rise above and find what works best to A/all of U/us.

Best wishes to Y/you A/all,
Tony

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/29/2007 9:22:05 PM

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i am ready if any one is interested

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/29/2007 9:24:01 PM

chains314

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i love it i would do it in a flash for the right Mistress

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/29/2007 9:28:58 PM

MzMia

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What a wonderful first post Tony!
I think you made your point well.
You seem like you will make some lucky little lady a wonderful wife.
Welcome to the message boards!

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/29/2007 9:54:34 PM

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i am ready to be a wife

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/29/2007 10:26:43 PM

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I wanted to thank you for your well-reasoned and thought-provoking first post as well.

I have been approached a few times about "role-reversal," and idea that seems fantasy-based and overly idealizied. What you are suggesting is to put your assets to work for a lady that support her authority, but which may not mirror the reversal of Ozzie and Harriet.

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/29/2007 10:40:42 PM

Eru

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I am blown away by so many people being so backwards in what a wife is, especially with mistresses and modern attitudes. I feel like I've dropped in on the Flintstones.

Only read the first of 13 pages

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/30/2007 8:05:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: Eru

I am blown away by so many people being so backwards in what a wife is, especially with mistresses and modern attitudes. I feel like I've dropped in on the Flintstones.

Only read the first of 13 pages

Instead of the sarcasm why dont you voice an opinion of what a male wife is. That is the title of the thread, not " What is a wife "
I am sure many here will be interested in your views, as and when you have something worthwhile to say.
Like all sections of the board, anyone is free to post but not free to bash a whole section of the community.

Yours thoughtfully, Mr B Rubble

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/30/2007 9:13:36 AM

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I am a male wifeand it sucks maybe call me the male soccar mom i pick the kids up do the chores ,laundry cook the meals , keep the house clean and all the traditional male chores outside and there is no Kink here

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RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? - 7/30/2007 12:47:37 PM

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Damn! Me too! I want a male wife! If thats what it takes to get the job done! I want to marry a man whos as good a wife as I am for sure! Or maybe I want a secratary for the paperwork, and a poolboy for the sex. Hmm, male wife secratary pool boy. Some times its hard making up my mind.

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