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Abused into submission - 4/12/2007 12:31:11 PM

CuriousLord

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In replying to WhipTheHip's "What I Find Hard to Understand." post, this sort of came up, and I'd like feed back on it. This is not a common interest thread, nor one I expect many to reply to. This is a delicate topic. I realize it touches upon the illegal-taboo on this board. However, illegal activities are referred to only with reference to the victims of the crime, and all said activities have already occurred in the past. Neither I nor any I know have been criminal in said crimes. I would advise those with an emotionally-charged, yet similar past, to take a breath of air before both reading and response. I would ask those who are unable to relate to give this one a pass.

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A young Master, my slaves have also rather young- mostly eighteen to twenty-one. Some older subs, but none of them apply to this post.

I will not claim a complete understanding of as to why females of more years may chose to take up this sort of lifestyle, but I would hazard to consider it may be for every different reasons than their younger counterparts.

So far, I've had about six or seven slaves in the past several years for a term I would consider substantial enough to grow to understand their respective backgrounds and motivations. I would point out, here, that six or seven is not large enough of a sample to be scientifically reliable- part of the ambiguity in the analysis. However, this half dozen has maintained a constant trend: past abuse.

In this following- I'm considering the slaves I know from real life, as opposed to simply the ones I've collared.
Most have been raped. (Over half.)
A fair number have been beaten or otherwise physically abused. (Somewhere between a third and half, roughly.)
Almost all felt worthless. (All but.. maybe, one? Two?)
Most felt shamed. (Two thirds?)

I can not account for their pasts. I do not know how many have been abused in a control population, such as Virginian girls of my generation- nor would I trust official figures.

There's not much that needs to be considered about their pasts. They're sad, but this can't be helped. In this regard, I would ask one not to consider this an angsty post.. I'm looking for answers for the future.

Three things I'm looking for understanding of.
-How has past abuse effected their respective personalities?
-How common in this issue for younger females?
-How might this problem be addressed for potentially future-victims?
-How might victims recover, if recovery is necessary?
-Would they have always enjoyed submission, just it being forced on them gave them a chance to see this?

Of this sample, only one has taken her rapist to court. She was unwilling to state she had raped her- twice. Instead, she made the claim that, one drunken night, he had attempted, and she had been successful in doing away with him.

Almost all raped sympathized with their rapists; the most notable exception was the one taking her rapist to court. Odd, too. While extremely difficult for them to admit it, in many ways, their respective rapists had been their first boyfriends, carrying on abusive relationships. ..some had even come to love these abusers.
..do they seem to mimic these relationships later on?

As a final note, this is not unique to my life. I've found a lot on CollarMe.com who claim a similar experience from the past. Some even do in their profile. While I'm inclined to take things on the net with a grain of salt, the apparent seeds of correlation are worth noting.

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This applies to BDSM because, in my view, this is what brought me here. Most slaves and potential slaves I have gotten to know have a sad story to tell. I feel there's a problem here, or, at least, something that's not understood. I have a strong interest in growing to understand this issue.

Despite a great deal of thought and concern, I find my knowledge in this area lacking. I am unaware of any one specific community which has both the interest for such a topic and the stomach for it.