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notlooking2 -> Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 3:27:15 PM)
Hi all, I'm pretty sure I know the answer to this. However, I would love to hear the opinion of others. Should I be careful with a Dom who wants to have sex on the second date? His reasoning being "So he can get the sexual frustrations out of the way and can concentrate on being a Master". Thanks in advance for all of your replies.

bandit25 -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 3:28:54 PM)
Are you kidding me? Yes, you know the answer..why ask?

SirDominic -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 3:32:11 PM)
Hi not, Your instincts are just fine. What a load of crap. Although sex is not part of the D/s experience for everyone, for many it is intimately involved (no pun intended). It's not something a Dom would want to "get out of the way". Namaste, Sir Dominic

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 3:34:37 PM)
Look, people will blow smoke up your ass on this subject but here's a simple fact. This "lifetsyle" isn't any different then any other. So you have to ask yourself would you fuck'm if you weren't in the lifestyle. If not, why would you start now?

HutchGarahl -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 3:34:58 PM)
Can't for the life of me think as to why one would want to go ahead and get the sex out of the way. Makes it sound too much like an unliked job. Not sure about others, but for myself and I know for some others...taking it gradually to sex makes it all that much more exciting. Stick with your instincts hun....otherwise you may be biting off more than you would care to eat.

spanklette -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 3:37:50 PM)
Well, the question actually has more merit than I think I gave it at first glance. First of all, I'm not one for waiting a specified amount of time to have sex...if the chemistry is there and I feel good about it, why not? I just find his reasoning to be the equivalent of the often repeated high school phrase, "But, I'll get blue balls and it'll hurt me if we don't." Sex on the second date is fine, as long as you're fine with it...I just don't follow his reasoning.

notlooking2 -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 3:39:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bandit25 Are you kidding me? Yes, you know the answer..why ask? Yes, I did know the answer. Thanks for all your replies. And to answer your question why I would even ask. After looking for 4 years, a girl get's to doubt herself every now and then. Thanks again

countrygirl69 -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 3:42:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline4. So you have to ask yourself would you fuck'm if you weren't in the lifestyle. If not, why would you start now? I have to agree if you were dating in the vanilla world and you would do that its your life but I have the feeling its not you and dont let anyone talk you into doing something is totally against your nature he may be a Dom but he isnt your Master yet

countrygirl69 -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 3:44:00 PM)
wow spanklette those were my exact thoughts even the high school thing

Kinkypupper -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 3:47:45 PM)
sounds like a horney person who wants sex only

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 4:20:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: notlooking2 "So he can get the sexual frustrations out of the way and can concentrate on being a Master". Oh Snap! I am SO gonna use that line. Think I'll get laid? Master Fire - HNG tonight chuckle

notlooking2 -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 4:26:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam quote: ORIGINAL: notlooking2 "So he can get the sexual frustrations out of the way and can concentrate on being a Master". Oh Snap! I am SO gonna use that line. Think I'll get laid? Master Fire - HNG tonight chuckle laughs I wish you luck, and let me know how it turns out.

aldompdx -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 4:27:52 PM)
Such a person has failed to master their own sexuality. How could they possibly master your's? One can only share that which they have already found and know within themself.

Liiaa -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 4:30:09 PM)
I could be wrong here but i dont think so...from what im learning about a Ds relationship is you need to build a connectivity with the person a mutural likeing too them , agree on hard limits and where you Both want it to go..and most of all Honestly and Trust..as you will be in their hands. and not to mention the taking it slow part.....this should not be a fast Track experiance for either of you

FukinTroll -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 4:33:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: notlooking2 Hi all, I'm pretty sure I know the answer to this. However, I would love to hear the opinion of others. Should I be careful with a Dom who wants to have sex on the second date? His reasoning being "So he can get the sexual frustrations out of the way and can concentrate on being a Master". Thanks in advance for all of your replies. What we don't know is what the dynamic is. Where the relationship is heading. How much interaction you have had online, on phone, on cam, etc... Answer those and you are going to get sum friggen awesome answers!

FukinTroll -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 4:35:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam quote: ORIGINAL: notlooking2 "So he can get the sexual frustrations out of the way and can concentrate on being a Master". Oh Snap! I am SO gonna use that line. Think I'll get laid? Master Fire - HNG tonight chuckle Oh hell MFM, you just show up and your getting laid. Slurp!

notlooking2 -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 4:38:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Liiaa I could be wrong here but i dont think so...from what im learning about a Ds relationship is you need to build a connectivity with the person a mutural likeing too them , agree on hard limits and where you Both want it to go..and most of all Honestly and Trust..as you will be in their hands. and not to mention the taking it slow part.....this should not be a fast Track experiance for either of you Thank you for your reply.... that is so what I am thinking as well. As far as I'm concerned, a D/s relationship takes a lot of trust. And trust is not achieved in 2 dates. I'm glad to see other's out there who have the same ideas as I do. And nothing against sex, but if I just wanted to get laid, there is always the local bar.

notlooking2 -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 4:45:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll quote: ORIGINAL: notlooking2 Hi all, I'm pretty sure I know the answer to this. However, I would love to hear the opinion of others. Should I be careful with a Dom who wants to have sex on the second date? His reasoning being "So he can get the sexual frustrations out of the way and can concentrate on being a Master". Thanks in advance for all of your replies. What we don't know is what the dynamic is. Where the relationship is heading. How much interaction you have had online, on phone, on cam, etc... Answer those and you are going to get sum friggen awesome answers! That's a valid question. We've been communicating mostly with emails over the last month, gone out to Dinner once. I'm currently getting ready for a national exam, so my time has been limited. He has mentioned that once I've completed my studies we would need to spend more time together. To which I agree. What also raises the red flag is the fact that he doesn't have any questions for me when we communicate in IM. Wouldn't you have a ton of question for someone if you're truly looking for a commited M/s relationship?

FukinTroll -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 4:51:34 PM)
Methinks he wants to wet his winky and that will be about the end of it. So if didleing is on your agenda, there ya go! I generally spend about a month in c-mail and if I am comfortable I will give out my IM. Eventually we will get to the phone and start working to a meet. I move slow and carefully because I am here for a commitment and there is a lot to absorb and factor in.

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Immediate sex? (4/13/2007 4:51:35 PM)
This applies to a lot of things in D/s relationship, but don't do anything YOU are not comfortable with or ready for. I understand about the self doubts, but think of it this way. Wouldn't you rather wait till you get to know each other better and the trust is built further...... and know he's with you because you are you? Rather than taking the plunge for the reason he stated and you wake up to realize that he just wanted a quick lay or he goes poof and no more contact? It happens. Not saying that's what will happen with your situation. But if you are not ready to have sex with him, or have concerns, then don't do it. You have to look out for you. There are risks involved in anything we do - so if you're willing to take the risk, then do it. Good luck in whatever decision you make!

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