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ORIGINAL: knowshisplaceCT

since we are on the small penis topic...there seems to be a fair amout of interest in a couple of previous posts.....how do You Dommes feel about cuckolding if there is a real relationship and the sub has a tiny penis?

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ORIGINAL: Elorin

Cuckolding does not appeal to me simply because I'm not that promiscuous.
Cuckolding fantasies seem to demand that the Mistress be screwing around, going out to pick up men, and that the men are willing to be watched. Or they assume that the guy cums inside the Mistress to be licked clean.

I am poly, but not promiscuous. I am not interested in going out to pick up men. I'm not interested in letting anyone other than a committed partner cum inside me unless it's in a condom. I don't think many men really would feel comfortable coming home so another guy could watch him fuck me, especially if the guy watching wanted to suck him hard to start or suck him clean after.

I think cuckolding is a great fantasy. It would ~not~ work in my world, for me.

~E

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ORIGINAL: lockedaway

i think cuckoldry can be done without destroying the relationship between the Domme and the sub.  Ultimately, the sub has to feel secure that he is the one that is truly loved by the Domme and not the other guy she is seeing.  

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Sure, but if the Domme has to give up her hot new toyboy for the weakling cuck, who is controlling who?

Remember the cuck really wanted the Domme to "be into it".....so why should he then have a power of veto if she really prefers the new guy?

Never under-estimate the power of a new D/s relationship and/or great sex to shatter an existing relationship.  Some fantasies are much more fun to plan and talk about than really do.

I have cuckolded slaves in the sense that they were non-sexual and they knew I had a male partner (living elsewhere) who always took priority over them.  I never slept with two men at once or let a slave watch (no thanks!). 

Did it make the slaves happy?  Not at all.  IME it is every live in slave's fantasy that his loving devotion will eventually one day win over his Mistress' cold heart.  Men who identify as subs and slaves are hopelessly romantic.....:)

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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes
Honestly, from your posts, I had assumed that you had a cuckolding-type relationship with your sub(s) ... you only have sex with your Master, you don't have sex with your subs.   You may not see it that way, but I would bet that I'm not the only one who would see your arrangement as being a cuckolding one for your submissive(s).

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

Male sexual perversion - what fun!!!

My guess without knowing you?

You feel (sexually) inadequate.  And you want your Domme to prove it to you by enjoying herself screwing someone else. 

But there's more.

You still want to be near her, right, not told afterwards "hey  I am screwing someone else and you are dumped".  You need to be with her, even though she is obviously a horrible, humilating person

In a lot of these submissive fantasies woven around the Bitch Goddess type Dominatrix, the male projects all (his) negative traits (selfish, cruel, faithless) on to the woman and chooses to see himself as the good person (loyal, docile, obedient, victimised). 

This suspension of disbelief doesn't work unless the Domme is really convincing in the role of Wicked Witch, right?  Hence such elaborate humilations in the fantasy such as fluffing and clean up

In your fantasy, the woman has to enjoy having you there watching and she has to enjoy belittling and humilating you, right?  That makes her "the bad person" and gives you permission to - deep down - feel sorry for yourself and really hate her, doesn't it?  In your fantasy you act like an adoring slave, but you know she is a complete  bitch and you could quite rightfully really hate that slut.  Everyone else would agree if you told them what she did.  Sure, let her humilate you all she likes: you are morally superior to her, aren't you? You are the good little boy and she is the Monster.

I am not a shrink, but do you get along well with your Mother?

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Hi Ms C,

I agree with quite a bit of what you've said. I do feel sexually inadequate and also am somewhat small. However, I would never think of my Mistress as evil. Rather, suffering humiliation of any kind in order to pleasure her would be the ultimate gift to her, and reward for me. There would be no point to it if she did not derive pleasure from it. Yes, I am an adoring slave, but would never think of her as a monster and would never complain to others. It would be heaven for me.

My mother is deceased, but it was a bit of a love hate relationship. She did have a habit of making me strip and kneel in front of her when she whipped me. We got along much better when I became an adult.

Thank you so very much for sharing your thoughts. I look forward to hearing more.

need

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