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What Do you want??? - 4/23/2005 2:54:36 PM

dmarc

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A Simple post, for those of us that have had any experiences and even if you have not, what do you really want in a D/s relationship that you either have never had or get so little of.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/23/2005 2:59:30 PM

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Sincerity, Passion and Communication. I'm a newbie by the way so I'm talking mostly out of my ass.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/23/2005 3:12:53 PM

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There good qualities, Passion and communication, such a wonderful gifts yet not always fully used.

I also have found that integrity of what a person says they are and want they turn out to be in time, is often a let Down.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/23/2005 4:15:17 PM

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1) Satisfaction I'm never experienced before in any relationship.
2) Trust that allows me to be guided to try things when I don't have the courage.
3) Release from my own inhibitions and insecurities.
4) Joy from my master's pleasure and satisfaction.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/23/2005 7:06:45 PM

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1. To be pleasing and to obey, even when it is difficult to do so.

2. To know that he won't show me the door when it is difficult or I do fail but rather will be patient enough to help me to change.

3. To be loved. (Probably not a necessary ingredient for some people but having been loved deeply by my owner for 7 years, I don't believe I could go on without it.)

4. To feel consistency in his upper hand as the alternative makes me feel a bit lost. Boundaries = security for me.

5. To always know that I can tell him anything - that I can be completely and vulnerably honest and emotionally naked when I am with him and that he won't blame or punish me for how I feel as opposed to how I react.

6. To know that he will always be honest with me, even if he knows the truth may hurt.

7. That he will continue to explore and push our relationship to new levels & heights.

8. Most importantly, I want to belong to him for the rest of my life. Sounds a bit corny but its the absolute truth.

***edit - I didn't read the original question properly and didn't realize that it was asking for us to list things that we want but don't ever get or get very much of. The above things that I listed are things that I do experience in our life together and have found fulfillment with.

As for things that I want in my relationship that I don't get enough of - I would say time. I want more time with my owner - time where the stresses of daily life don't interfere with the purer, more demonstrative aspects of our relationship.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/23/2005 9:34:03 PM

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The freedom to be who I am.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/23/2005 9:39:17 PM

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I want what ally has (or at least, my own Dominant - not hers) I want what she shared.

(Very nicely said)

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/24/2005 5:50:52 AM

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oral sex *grins*

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/24/2005 6:33:34 AM

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Freedom to be what I am, who I am and the potential of such.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/24/2005 8:36:32 AM

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quote:

what do you really want in a D/s relationship that you either have never had or get so little of.

I want painfree joints so we can try all kinds of bondage positions, but that won't happen. I would like Hubby to be more of a sadist, but that won't happen either.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/24/2005 3:03:24 PM

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I would like a sub and myself to experience a great bond, of trust, respect and really going in depth with each other, (though not experienced that level of bonding yet). I don't want bad communication, yet that’ seems to be more common these days.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/25/2005 9:46:24 AM

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What I am looking for most is a relationship to explore and be free to express my need to please, something i have never had in a one on one relationship. My husbands had no more idea what to do with my need to be pleasing than i had about what my real needs were at the time. I would keep trying to get them to take control and they didn't want it lol. It was frustrating and left both feeling empty. Since discovering the lifestyle and learning to understand some of the reasons I feel the way I do the pressure itself has lessened. I no longer feel like I am abnormal and have been able to channel my needs well for the most part lol in ways that are not as self destructive as they once were such as over working. ok lol getting wordy better end this but one last thing, since discovering this life I have become more open minded and tolerant of all different kinds of views and opinions, my growth has been phenomenal and in a way even without having the relationship yet, D/s has given me so much already

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/25/2005 9:51:00 AM

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I want TIME and the ability to have unlimited energy...and free airfare for the rest of my life.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/25/2005 5:19:34 PM

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i desperately want more time with both of my owners together. i live with one, the other lives far away, they pass me between them like a football, i'm forever either tucked securely under one quarterback's arm or the other or up in the air or getting exquisitely crushed under the pileup, but more than anything i want and need more time with all four of their hands on me. i adore them both, it would tear me apart to choose between them, and it tears me apart a little every time i say good-bye to one of them. (We're all together right now, but not for much longer.) They are lifelong best friends and they are together as much as possible, one place or another, and i am always always with one or both of them, but if there's one thing i could wish for in my life it would be that. The emotional and intellectual chemistry when the three of us are together is so indescribable, the sexual connection is like nothing else i've ever experienced in my life, and they turn every day and night with them into an amazing adventure, a rocketship into the wild blue -- i would give anything, even major body parts, if we could all be together forever. (This is an idle plea, of course, my body parts aren't even mine to give, and i think they'd prefer to keep me all in one piece, but you get the idea.) This is a wish they share with me, but there are obstacles, family and professional and personal, that seem insuperable; but this is what i pray for every night and day...

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/26/2005 9:41:56 AM

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You could not have said it any better.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/26/2005 9:48:38 AM

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Oh and while we're wishing for the stars, I wish I could have absolutely unprotected sex at any time with anyone with no negative consequences.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/26/2005 8:33:59 PM

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It's simple really: shoes.

Shoes are the way to my heart.

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/28/2005 3:21:54 PM

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i want what ally wrote, 100% of the time

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/28/2005 7:21:24 PM

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Perhaps it’s very shallow of me…but I would like to always be beautiful for the one that I submit to. To exist physically in this world in a way that…when my Dom/Domme looks at me, they are not disappointed. In all other ways I know that I can grow and change to become what my Dom/Domme desires…but physically I am able to do only so much. I am by no means unpleasant to look at (at least…I don’t think so?), but I know whatever beauty I do have will eventually fade …and there will be a time…that my body becomes a disappointment to the one I care about so very much. From that point on, to always know that how I exist physically in the world can no longer satisfy my Dom/Domme… It is a bridge I am afraid to cross…

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RE: What Do you want??? - 4/29/2005 12:42:01 AM

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i want Him to need me like i feel i need Him...

i want to know that there are things that only i can do that noone else can do for Him... is that an unrealistic expectation?

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