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krikket -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 3:46:41 PM)
May i quote you???? LOL!! quote: ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress this is a post to inform you that the excuse ..."i have been busy" or "i am too busy" no longer holds any weight, it is tired and played and you need to come up with something better....at least be creative when you lie...no one is too busy to text or email a small note saying why they are not keeping thier end up.....and.... if its not a lie and you really cant manage your time effectivly....um dont quit your day job, because being, you know, a Master, you sort of need that skill set dont cha think? as i have said before:"i am too busy" is the ultimate one size fits all excuse, but what it really means is that "i have no interest in managing my time effectively enough to prioritize you". it is a tale told by and idiot, signifying nothing.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 3:54:18 PM)
quote: That a dominant's time is what is of more value. um yeah...i am not buying it.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 3:59:38 PM)
jeff time is great, but ill bet the 2 mins it takes to send a text could be slotted in to jeff time to keep a relationship in ballance and harmony quote: ORIGINAL: mstrjxWe ought to be prepared, don't you think? Jeff

Satyr6406 -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 4:02:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress quote: That a dominant's time is what is of more value. um yeah...i am not buying it. Good. I'm not selling it. It's my belief (unless you're doubting that that is what I believe?) Peace and comfort, Michael

crouchingtigress -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 4:03:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll Dear passionate one, I fear the time I have invested in harnessing the atom has kept me from you. Mind you, you are always present in my thoughts, the drive to find a cleaner, safer fuel source and method of mass destruction is so prevalent that I am remiss on responsibilities to your emotional needs. Our time together has affected me more than you would think and has actually spawned some radical thoughts and ideas, which I may actually put to pen. This morning really got me thinking; I grabbed a hot skillet and although I only held on to it for a second it really felt like an hour. Then it occurred to me that when I hold on to you for an hour it only feels like a second. I will muse further on the relativity of this. Love always Albert yanno trollie, i think the whole alternatative energy problem could be solved with you and a couple of troll buddies and a big ol batch of refried beans....

crouchingtigress -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 4:06:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: krikket May i quote you???? sure...[:)]

FukinTroll -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 4:06:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress yanno trollie, i think the whole alternatative energy problem could be solved with you and a couple of troll buddies and a big ol batch of refried beans.... [sm=biggrin.gif] Yes, however if I pull your hair are you gunna pull my finger? Slurp!

crouchingtigress -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 4:07:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Satyr6406Good. I'm not selling it. guess that means all bets are off?[;)]

TigressFL -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 4:09:05 PM)
If there is no realtionship between the two people I do not see how anyone has to make time for each other period. If there is a relationship I can certainly see how not having time does not cut it! Tigress~FL

CypherEnigma -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 4:13:38 PM)
As a fulltime student with a fulltime job i find relaxation time very rare. Prioritizing has become manditory, and neccessary to get things done. i do find myself short on freetime but always manage to make time for the more importiant people in my life.

Satyr6406 -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 4:20:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress quote: ORIGINAL: Satyr6406Good. I'm not selling it. guess that means all bets are off?[;)] I didn't know we were gambling? LOL! Okay. That was silly but, I really think that some of the basic elements of this lifestyle (as I learned and see them) have gone out the window. That's problematic for me. I think the idea that a dominant, in any way has to "answer to" a submissive flies in the face of the very beings we claim to be. If I were to come home, late and my submissive were to ask me "Where have you been?", in my mind, any answer more polite than: "None of your business" is given out of the kindness of my heart. True enough, my response usually is more polite than that but, that is because I believe in treating people well. I know. I know. Many people think I'm "all wet" but, I just don't see how TPE has come to mean delegation of power as opposed to actual submission. Anyway, back to the gambling ... I'll bet ya the METS finish higher than the Yankess, this year? Peace and comfort, Michael

Stranger1 -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 4:45:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Satyr6406 quote: ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress quote: ORIGINAL: Satyr6406Good. I'm not selling it. guess that means all bets are off?[;)] I didn't know we were gambling? LOL! Okay. That was silly but, I really think that some of the basic elements of this lifestyle (as I learned and see them) have gone out the window. That's problematic for me. I think the idea that a dominant, in any way has to "answer to" a submissive flies in the face of the very beings we claim to be. If I were to come home, late and my submissive were to ask me "Where have you been?", in my mind, any answer more polite than: "None of your business" is given out of the kindness of my heart. True enough, my response usually is more polite than that but, that is because I believe in treating people well. I know. I know. Many people think I'm "all wet" but, I just don't see how TPE has come to mean delegation of power as opposed to actual submission. Anyway, back to the gambling ... I'll bet ya the METS finish higher than the Yankess, this year? Peace and comfort, Michael Amen. We all have our own personal prefferences in behavior. The best part is when we find another who appreciates them without the masks.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 4:49:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Satyr6406 the bet comment was just a quote from the movie Snatch....robber robbing a bookie who has just been told there is no money..."iam not buying it"...bookie girl: "i am not selling it..all bets are off." but i hear what you are saying about TPE, quote: I just don't see how TPE has come to mean delegation of power as opposed to actual submission. i think it always has been though, as with everything in life: varying degrees. now i dont think you are all wet, i think you have every right to live in a way that gives you the most satisfaction and joy and if you find a partner in that then that is a wonderful thing. but not every one believes that the dominants time is more important then the submissives....there is simply no one true way to do this thing we do.

Sinergy -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 5:33:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SunNMoon normally a reason why would be nice I hear what you are saying, but conversations on this subject seem to go like this. Sinergy "Sorry I have not been around, I have been rather busy." Person A "What have you been doing?" Sinergy "When I am not working in the harbor doing manual labor stuff in order to pay my bills, or working my self defense job since we have the same number of classes we had 2 years ago and 3 fewer mock assailants, or sleeping or shopping or..., one can frequently find me trying to regain my sanity by going out dancing. Person A "Why dont you ever make time for me? I feel really hurt that you dont ever seem available to do anything with me because you are doing all those other things, and it makes me wonder if I am not really a priority in your life." Sinergy "Well, I did ask if you wanted to do something on Saturday and something else Sunday morning and if you wanted to go dancing last Tuesday... and you said no." Person A "I was busy" Im not sure that helps, but I would like to point out to those griping at me for using the "I was busy" excuse should probably remove it from their repertoire of excuses to not be available to me. Goes both ways. Sinergy

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 6:07:13 PM)
Maybe for you, but not for every one. My dominant and I do not subscribe to his wants before mine, We give equal time to each other. quote: ORIGINAL: Satyr6406 I thought, in this lifestyle, that the dominant's wants and desires took precedence over those of the submissive (Please to notice, before you jump on me, that I did NOT say "needs")? I don't know. That's always what I thought this lifestyle was supposed to be about. Peace and comfort, Michael

SusanofO -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 6:32:15 PM)
I have been "busy" because I was too scared to talk to the person in question about how I felt about them. I was really, really falling for them and was afraid they didn't maybe feel the same way (or at least w/the same intensity). That isn't very "Mistress-like" of me actually (I am a Switch), and the truth may work, maybe even much better. For men I can't imagine why this circumstance can't arise, too- only for them, it's probably more (to some) seemingly "macho" to just fib to the person, and say "I've been busy, sorry, etc. ".... Maybe that is not what is happening in this case, I dunno. Might be possible in some cases? I agree that as a non-prioritizing, catch-all excuse, it lacks imagination, and generally sucks. I can be kinda ignorant and non-chalant, too, sometimes, about answering mail in a timely way, and spent way way more time on these boards. However, some of the complaints about that I've read here lately have convinced me I should try to change my ways, and that these complaints are valid (if someone is really, really slow about answering it). - Susan

hawkwolf7 -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 7:14:26 PM)
* edited for "if you can't say something nice..." *

Sinergy -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/15/2007 8:10:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hawkwolf7 * edited for "if you can't say something nice..." * Dont hold back, say what you feel. Sinergy

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/16/2007 12:28:47 AM)
Fuck that. It's called He's Just Not That Into You : The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys <image removed>

LadyPact -> RE: Attention players and dingleberries (4/16/2007 1:41:01 AM)
BSB, We must be reading each other's minds, because I was thinking the very same thing! Ok I realize not everyone on the planet has one, but.......... Welcome to the wonderful world of technology! Consider for a moment the amazing cell phone. The most incredible thing about them is they work almost everywhere. I'm not going to bore everyone senseless on the various times/places that a simple two minute call can be made. I'll even go so far as to say sometimes voice isn't appropriate in all places, so send a text. Does the phrase "common courtesy" have a place here?

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