mystiquenz
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Greetings A/all
Reality, yours or mine or theirs?
You have had some very good responses TantricOne, and for my two cents at the start of my Tuesday, online is a tool for many, to make the connection, to discover whether two people want to take it from virtual to real. That is where i am at, at this time. The Master that i am speaking to lives in the same country, but He is not just an hours drive away, in fact, He is several hours away, and a large stretch of water. But why would either one of us travel if there was no *draw factor*?
I would be very disappointed if I discovered at a later time, that he had no intention of meeting me.
There are many who live their D/s or M/s only online. I nearly fell out of my chair when i met a slave online who told me that she had been in her Master's collar for the last 12 years. 12 years, and never having had a face to face meeting, 12 years, of being in relationship with a computer and a telephone? To me, that is a relationship that spans more than many real time vanilla marriages. As to why they had not met, or chose not to meet, I cannot answer that, as I did not ask those questions. Maybe he was married, maybe she was married, maybe they both were married and the online experience enhanced their real time relationships. A whole lot of "maybes".
Where online falls short, in my opinion, and mine alone, is that you can give of one's time and one's energy for nil return. You extend apart of your own being, you give of your energy and your time, and yet, life keeps moving on by. For some, and not all, they live for their online friendships, whereas their real time relationships suffer as a result. There is a balance.
I do believe, that online is a safe way to explore mindspace. Maybe it takes a lot of courage, for many, to make that transition from online to real time. Maybe some will never make that journey, for reasons only known to them. Is it real? Yes it is real in a limited sort of way, but there are limitations, for example, not being able to be touched, not to feel his breath, not to feel the warmth, only keystrokes and pixels can provide that mechanism.
The Master that i am speaking to said to me just the other day, two things that I will leave as a closing thread:
- If a girl cannot comply with a direction online, then she is unlikely to comply in realtime. That has been his past experience, so he takes things slowly, before moving from virtual to reality.
- He shared a quote from one of John Norman books the other day, which is abstract in form, but if you think about the words, it is pretty amazing.
"Do not ask the stones or the trees how to live; they cannot tell you; they do not have tongues; do not ask the wise man how to live, for, if he knows, he will know he cannot tell you; if you would learn how to live, do not ask the question; its answer is not in the question but in the answer, which is not in words; do not ask how to live, but, instead, proceed to do so."
In the end I am a realist. Who knows if there will be the chemistry when I meet this Dominant in the flesh. If there is nothing more than a greeting of hello, and a thanks but no thanks, then it will be time to put up the profiles again. From the virtual reality, I have enjoyed many hours sitting after dinner at my keyboard, sipping coffee or tea. Sharing with him about what has been happening in my insignificant world. But still living.
Online is mindspace, and it should be honest. Where people come to grief, is when they are not honest, where checklists and likings have been protrayed are not accurate. But then, so too, some people in real time can be not as honest and portrary their situation which is not really accurate too.
Although others will say, it is merely fantasy. Yes it could be fantasy, but how does anyone know, that the person that they are speaking to, is not the one that will be "the one". I met a dominant face to face in January of this year, and I wished I had taken the time, to "get to know him" in a virtual capacity before meeting with him, before playing with him. If I had taken the time, i would have saved myself a lot of grief. There would not have been the deception and the hurt. So there are pros and cons on both sides of the debate. People can say anything they choose to say, but some how, you have to have the discernment that their truth is the truth and not just a figment of someone's imagination.
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~mystique~
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if (hello dismal housing market) I can sell my house I am skedaddling (sp) to Texas to be with him. Yay. 
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