StellaByStarlite
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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord To be blunt with you, I'm quite into the D/s dynamic, to the point of it being M/s. However, I haven't adopted the s/m dynamic, nor do I think I'll ever, as it does not appeal to me. However, I must reconize that this community supports the s/m dynamic, despite whatever reservations I may have in seeing it as potentially unhealthy with regards to edge play and breath play, despite the typical and, at times, considerable precautions taken. There's a huge difference between the edge play in the bdsm community and the ana girls. For the most part, safety during edge play is a big consideration. There are outreach groups, books, lectures. I mean the safety information is right there for anybody who wants to reasearch it. Compare that with ana groups, whose main objective is hiding an unsafe lifestyle. ( yes, anorexia and bulimia are lifestyles in that they take over your whole existence. ) Ana groups promote secrecy. They encourage the unstable mindset that drew these Ums to eating disorders in the first place. Haven personally known some ana's before, I'm well aware of the potential dangers and apparent mental illness of the community. Back when I was sixteen, one of my first and former subs was hospitalized due to numerous starvation-related issues (she dropped from about 155lbs to less than 77lbs). She was on online communities, particularly from LiveJournal, where those who starved themselves took pictures of themselves, empathizing the "beauty" in seeing one's bones clearly through the skin and the 'utterly-disgusting' nature of seeing anything that resembled flab, even if that flab wasn't fat, such as an organ. She was hospitalized for the better part of a year, having complications with keeping food down, blood sugar, blood pressure, maintaining consciousness, etc. To some degree, the starvation drove her to madness. This said, I can understand that it's considered an eatting disorder, and it can be distructive. My point is simply that this community remains phobic of passing judgement when there may be a valid case. And, I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that some ana's just may a somewhat balanced life with the condition for reasons I can not hope to understand at this time. How could there be a valid case for advocating anorexia? I think the OP's question was whether or not this chick was stable enough to be a domme. If she's part of an ana-group, then quite truthfully, no.. she's not stable enough. Unless the OP can give us more information, I'll stand by answer. =) Now, the whole promoting-it-to children thing, I would find objectionable. Still, I place my faith in balanced inputs allowing for intelligent decisions, hoping that parents would educate their children well enough that a distant community would be unable to win over the family's influence. Then again, I do realize this is idealistic and neglects the fact that such a community, even if it should be manevolent in intent, would be able to target girls in broken and unloving homes; this would have to be addressed. If this girl is really into ana, then her parents have initially lost the battle. Or she could be over 18, but that doesn't make a difference as to how mentally or emotionally stable she is. When all is said and done.. she's still part of a group that supports eating disorders.
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