subcheryl
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ORIGINAL: MsMacComb
darkprincess21,
In many cases for some people "talk therapy" is useful. Not so much that the councilor actually does anything for you but the person often figures things out for themself. Over time by hearing their problems and possible solutions coming out of their own mouth, they are able to fix, decide or resolve issues on their own. Oddly enough hearing it out loud is sometimes not the same as "hearing" it inside their head, so to speak.
I'm not suggesting that you could or would benefit from this. Just trying to point out that the fact they dont understand and probably never will is not the main issue. If on an off chance it did help, even if its you fixing yourself, it was worth it. The point is to try to have as much of a happy productive and useful life as possible. How you achieve that is somewhat irrelevant. Anyway, good luck and I'm sure there are many people here who would be willing to help if they could, even just to listen (myself included).
I agree here with MsMacComb and with darkangel, first off let me tell you I lost my biological mom when I was 2, and gained a stepmom when I was 3, Lost my dad emotionally when my mom died, by this I mean he was in the home but more like a visitor and not a parent. The stepmom by todays standards was abusive, locking I and my two sisters in closets, extreme punishments, bed early at night like 6pm, we did all the housecleaning growing up, those kind of things. But anyway, when I became an adult, I was looking for the love and exceptance that I did not get at home and ended up having my oldest and my twins outside of marriage, ended uup marrying the father of my twins and having another child, the man was on the outward appearance a wonderful man, but he was a jykle and hyde type of personality, I ended up filing for divorce to keep my children safe from his abuse, and before the divorce was final he died, putting me in financial ruin, with 4 teenage boys to raise and no real support system to speak of. I say all this because of a loving woman who was my youngest ones teachers aide at school, and turned out to be my would be pasters wife, reached out and nurtured me. She saw the hurt and damaged spirit and she did not judge or pressure me. She talked and held me when I needed to cry. Then I met her husband and their very special son who has downsyndrome, and my world began to heal. Both she and her husband where there when I was angry and hurt and needed someone to talk to, the special son was given the beautiful gift of hugging and loving unconditionally, and the most infectious laugh a person could ever hear, between their love and couseling and support my world started to become right again, I did see councelors up to that pt to no help, but then was connected to a christian group of councelors who more or less did talk counceling and never pushed beyound what I felt comfortable with, and as I did talk yes began to see my worth and also some of the solutions to my problems and who I was. I too suffer from depression and will probably be on meds my whole life for them, as part of the depression is a seasonal disorder, I am a sunworshipper and if that sun doesn't shine for a few days I have problems, But anyway my pt is, talk therapy can be helpful, (in someways you have started just by sharing here) finding mature loveing, excepting and nonjudgemental support system that you can turn to when your world starts rocking out of control, we all get some rocking, but sometimes it rocks so hard you feel like you are going to fall over the side of the boat so to say, that is when you need someone to hold onto to keep from going over the side. And you have to want to trust and to heal emotionally for it to work, read alot. Read books from people who have been knocked down and gotten up, people who have had very horrible lives and found ways and innerstrength to go on, they have written books about them and grew just from the sharing. Find out who you are, like the strengths you have in yourself, and those you don't work on to make better, noticed I said better not perfect, cause some things will always be very tender scars. And it was said, don't look for anyone right now, first become your best friend, grow to love yourself first, you do have strengths and gifts and talents that can be used to make your life much better, when you reconize them, build on them and gain confidence in yourself then you can be appreciated by the right man in your life even if he is a Dom, he will see this in you and it will be what attracts him to you, and will make your relationship grow. I wish you well on your journey of self discovery and if I can be that shoulder to cry on, you can either reach me on collarme as subcheryl or in yahoo at [email protected] would be glad to listen. Take care and good travels to you.......
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