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RE: Any tips for a frustrated husband with subby wife t... - 4/17/2007 9:15:37 PM

Mustardseed

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ORIGINAL: robwilling

After 28 years of being together, my 48 yo wife has lost a lot of libido and willingly subs to me for my photo and video fetish but I want her to do more. Have got her massaged by two guys I met on the Net and she thought it was legit. Want her to go further.

I'm with everyone else: I don't see the problem here. If she "willingly subs to" you, then why are you frustrated with her, exactly? Unless you define willing submission as responding with, "Gosh, I'd love to but that just doesn't make me wet anymore."

"and she thought it was legit" means ... what, exactly? That she thought you were gifting her with a nice, no strings attached massage because she may be going through menpause and needed to have her rather confused-feeling body pampered? If so then, yep, it sounds like you really put one over on her. If not, then ... a little more detail would be nice, here.

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RE: Any tips for a frustrated husband with subby wife t... - 4/18/2007 10:18:21 AM

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Parsing out the sentence from context, it is possible that robwilling mistyped "messaged" and got massaged instead, which gives the sentence a wholly different timbre:

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Have got her messaged by two guys I met on the Net and she thought it was legit.

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RE: Any tips for a frustrated husband with subby wife t... - 4/18/2007 10:37:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: Suleiman

Parsing out the sentence from context, it is possible that robwilling mistyped "messaged" and got massaged instead, which gives the sentence a wholly different timbre:

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Have got her messaged by two guys I met on the Net and she thought it was legit.

Could be but from the 'do more' I get the feeling that he's looking for her to have sex with other men and thought a male massaging her might lead to the other man touching genitalia.

And that's wrong. Because basically it means he's setting her up to be sexually assaulted which is what unwanted sexual contact is.

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RE: Any tips for a frustrated husband with subby wife t... - 4/18/2007 1:09:11 PM

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"to get her to do more"--you might try taking her to a sex store and pick out some new toys and bondage videos together. That does wonders for us.

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RE: Any tips for a frustrated husband with subby wife t... - 4/18/2007 11:58:20 PM

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proudsub,

I like your little tagline. Also, those are good suggestions, but I can't help but wonder, with the lack of response from this guy if we didn't kinda scare him off or something.

I really would like more clarification as to what he meant by what he said, rather than other members' speculation on the matter, cause that aint gettin us anywhere.

At any rate, peace folks.

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RE: Any tips for a frustrated husband with subby wife t... - 4/19/2007 7:42:21 AM

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proudsub,

I like your little tagline.

Thanks, i like yours too.

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RE: Any tips for a frustrated husband with subby wife t... - 4/19/2007 7:51:51 AM

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I would buy him the plane ticket, and let the wife enjoy her life now.
At 48, she is in perimenapause or maybe already in menopause. With that statement, hormones are doing a number on her.
She is also at the age where she is getting ready to stand on her own to feet. Be careful what you wish for. You may be the one flying from your own home when she gets it in court.

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RE: Any tips for a frustrated husband with subby wife t... - 4/19/2007 7:59:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: Invictus754

A couple of things:
Define: I want her to do more. "Do" more K9s? Have sex with the Pope? What exactly is the act you want more of?

Define: it & legit. 'She thought it was legit' could mean that she thought the $200 you paid for two youngs studs to rub her down that you found online was a good price for an hour of massage.

Lastly - have you ASKED her what would turn her on? Maybe she wants a three way with a clown and an Appaloosa. Or maybe she just wants you wearing a clown nose.

If so - make it happen, stud.

Thanks. I thought I was the only one scratching their head. If the OP communicates with his wife as "well" as he communicates here ... oh, I see the problem. (smiling)

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RE: Any tips for a frustrated husband with subby wife t... - 4/19/2007 9:28:55 AM

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I normally do not post to these forums but I saw one common thought in this thread that kinda irritated me.
First he says his wife subs for him. Please define subs. I have spoken to many who say they want to be a sub.

Does that mean they want an outboard motor shoved up their ass and a snorkle in their mouth??
So does she submit or is she just posing to make her husband happy?? Or is she getting turned on
by posing??

He wants to do more? More what? Eat more pizza? Watch more football?
MSS really hits this on the head in her post.

This is not only a problem for Invictus754 but in general. I want you to use me?? or I want you to Dom me??
So what, there are so many rooms in the dungeon and few seem willing or able to define what they feel they
want or need.

Ok, I will use you. You can start by fetching my coffee, then start cleaning the bathroom, cutting the grass, etc...

Oh that is not what you call being used? then tell me.

So enough blathering, the issue is if you can't express it, how can you define it??
I am an engineer and tend to deal in concrete concepts, if you can't define it then it does not exist.

So can anyone define 'IT'?

Moving on I asked the one who kneels to me and understands. She smiled, then lowered her eyes, knelt
before me offering a cup of perfectly brewed coffee exactly when I needed it.

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