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FelinePersuasion -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/17/2007 11:04:25 PM)
We'd not be compatable, I am a switch but I have known for a long time when I got a dom I would not want to switch with him. Daddy allowes me to playfully spank him and swatt him now and then, but I have no desire to top him. quote: ORIGINAL: Aubre I often hear subs/slaves say "I will do anything for my dominant." Here's a curve ball: What if your dominant wants you (the submissive) to tie them up, and do very specific things to them ? The dominant stays in control and you obey their commands, you are doing whatever they want you to do how and when they want it done. I wish there was a good name for this type of scenario.

swtnsparkling -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/18/2007 2:21:29 AM)
LOL This has sorta happened to me. my Dom and I had this conversation and I teased I could top him so he let me try. I had him tied up-sure I could that. But then I went totally dumb lol I couldn't think of anything next. So I tried to mimc with the same things he has done to me- failure! I felt ridiculous- that is soooo not me at all. We actually laughed our butts off because I was so bad. He knew I wouldnt be able to pull it off- I think that is why he said Ok lets give it a go. Made for a very funny time. Now if He was a switch and I was ordered to do this- I would of course and obey him with out hesitation- but I doubt there would be any pleasure on either side. If I cannot feel comfortable with what I am doing no maater how much I try or wish, it is going to show. I'd be more like a robot just following orders- that would suck

sting516 -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/18/2007 3:09:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissDiscipline I feel that might cause some confusion in the submissive. Maybe that dom/me should seek a dominant out side of their D/s agreement. This is exactly how i'd feel in this situation...to give myself, really give myself, i need to feel a lack of control...while in theory, i'd be acting on the wishes of the Domme, while the Domme was tied up, no matter what the mindset behind the play was, i'd really be the one with the control. When i first got started in bdsm, i ran into quite a few "dommes" who after a little bit of play, would often ask me to spank them...this was totally confusing, as Miss Discpiline indicated, and really put a damper on the entire experience...needless to say, i never saw anyone who asked for this a second time.

ownedkitten -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/18/2007 3:26:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub While Valyraen has no interest in being tied up (heh - we tried once upon a time. It wasn't too long before he was free and I was tied), he instructs me to claw his back or whatnot during a scene. We don't really call it anything except me obeying and providing him a sensation that he enjoys. I really don't get the idea that only submissives are allowed to enjoy the receiving end of physical sensations produced by biting, scratching, cupping and so on. Agreed! At his request, I have flogged Master on more than one occasion. I consider it providing a service he desires. Grace in Service, caitriona

jauntyone -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/18/2007 4:29:25 AM)
Greetings Honestly, if Master were to suddenly one day tell me that; I would do it but it would send me into a state of confusion that I don't think I could get out of [&:] I wish you well melissa

slaveish -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/18/2007 5:13:51 AM)
Hm. I was going to say "I would suck at bottoming from the top" ... but if it were something Master wished of me, I would try very hard to please him. On the surface of it, I don't like the idea but if it were a command I would cease to think about it and simply perform.

daddysprop247 -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/18/2007 8:42:43 AM)
this sort of command would confuse, horrify, sicken and depress me. i would be torn between wanting to do as i was told, and not reacting from the realization that the Man i had given myself to was a total and complete stranger, that our entire relationship had been based on lies, that he was not a Dominant at all. eek. to me, simply because one person gives an order does not make them a Dominant...and likewise, simply because a person obeys an order does not make them a submissive. the way we define the terms, a truly Dominant person would not even have certain desires (such as the desire to be tied up or whipped). so if he were to express those desires it would be a clear and loud sign that he was not a Dominant, not a Master, not the Man i thought was the love of my life. fortunately such a scenario is totally out of the realm of possibility for us.

ownedgirlie -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/18/2007 8:50:05 AM)
I'm going to echo melissa and prop here. It's a good thing it will never happen with my Master, because it would confuse the hell out of me, too. But it will never happen, so it's not something I need to think about. Our dynamic is such that I will never top him in any way imaginable. We both need it to be like that, and it's not going to change.

proudsub -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/18/2007 12:53:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aubre I often hear subs/slaves say "I will do anything for my dominant." Here's a curve ball: What if your dominant wants you (the submissive) to tie them up, and do very specific things to them ? The dominant stays in control and you obey their commands, you are doing whatever they want you to do how and when they want it done. I wish there was a good name for this type of scenario. My first dom did just that and wanted me to flog him with a riding crop while he was in over the door cuffs. That was very hard for me, couldn't do it as hard as he wanted.

WilliamWizer -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/19/2007 1:03:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: proudsub quote: ORIGINAL: Aubre I often hear subs/slaves say "I will do anything for my dominant." Here's a curve ball: What if your dominant wants you (the submissive) to tie them up, and do very specific things to them ? The dominant stays in control and you obey their commands, you are doing whatever they want you to do how and when they want it done. I wish there was a good name for this type of scenario. My first dom did just that and wanted me to flog him with a riding crop while he was in over the door cuffs. That was very hard for me, couldn't do it as hard as he wanted. can I ask you why you weren't able to do it? because I'm sure you wanted to obey your dom. another question. how did reacted your dom?

slaveish -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/19/2007 2:59:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie I'm going to echo melissa and prop here. It's a good thing it will never happen with my Master, because it would confuse the hell out of me, too. ~big grin~ It would confuse the hell out of me too, but Master delights in a good mind fuck and in keeping me off-balance. I find that in this way, in the constant travel to find level ground, I have gained and continue to gain great strength and flexibility. This particular dynamic works well for us.

ScreamerGirl -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/19/2007 3:02:31 PM)
Been there, done that, called myself a switch and enjoyed the hell out of the experience - went on to top many more willing girls and boys for the last several months I lived in California. What would I think about it? I'd think I was doing something he wanted, and something I enjoyed.

proudsub -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/19/2007 4:07:06 PM)
quote: My first dom did just that and wanted me to flog him with a riding crop while he was in over the door cuffs. That was very hard for me, couldn't do it as hard as he wanted. can I ask you why you weren't able to do it? because I'm sure you wanted to obey your dom. another question. how did reacted your dom? Good question. I guess because i was very uncomfortable striking him, even though it's what he wanted. He said he understood and didn't press it, then we changed places and he showed me how to do it right but never asked me to do it again.

ownedgirlie -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/19/2007 6:26:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveish quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie I'm going to echo melissa and prop here. It's a good thing it will never happen with my Master, because it would confuse the hell out of me, too. ~big grin~ It would confuse the hell out of me too, but Master delights in a good mind fuck and in keeping me off-balance. I find that in this way, in the constant travel to find level ground, I have gained and continue to gain great strength and flexibility. This particular dynamic works well for us. Oh trust me, he screws with my head all the time, lol. But it will never be with me topping him in any way, pure and simple. :)

joshslave111 -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/19/2007 8:51:15 PM)
There have been a number of times where a Domme has asked me to top. It's not natural for me in any way, but i have done it just to please. At first i was very nervous about topping but after seeing how much the Domme enjoyed it, i enjoyed it more. Though i enjoyed being punished for topping her later even more:)

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/19/2007 10:20:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aubre I often hear subs/slaves say "I will do anything for my dominant." ... Well I'm real clear I won't do "anything" for him. Not in the least. But this? Sure. Now he doesn't like rope. Doesn't restrain me in any way so I cannot imagine he'd want to be restrained. Just today I was lying on top of him. Grinding away, which we both love. And sucking his nipples which we both also love. But I do like to bite much harder than he desires. So I gotta modulate. Especially when I'm cumming. And we did talk about it today. Not his thing. But if it were? Oo la la.

jauntyone -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/20/2007 4:36:39 AM)
quote: Oh trust me, he screws with my head all the time, lol. But it will never be with me topping him in any way, pure and simple. :) Greetings slaveish I am going to echo ownedgirlie here. Master loves to mess with my mind also, but it would never be in a way such as this. It does not fit in with our relationship at all which is why I said that it would confuse me greatly if he ever requested such a thing. I wish you well melissa

xxblushesxx -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (4/20/2007 11:10:55 AM)
I will do it, and even pretend to enjoy it, but...it does squick me ALOT!!! I have to pretend to enjoy it, because, every once in a while, it's something He wants, and, if I didn't do it...well...that's not very pleasing to Him, is it? This IS all very confusing...

calcaneus -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (5/3/2007 1:17:26 AM)
if these actions please your Owner, do them. If they are pleasing you to, let your Owner know. Silently enjoying is not half as good as letting Your Owner know how you feel.

myobedience -> RE: What if your dominant wants something a little different? (5/3/2007 5:40:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aubre I often hear subs/slaves say "I will do anything for my dominant." Here's a curve ball: What if your dominant wants you (the submissive) to tie them up, and do very specific things to them ? The dominant stays in control and you obey their commands, you are doing whatever they want you to do how and when they want it done. I wish there was a good name for this type of scenario. As long as in my mind and soul I KNEW he was in control. But it wont happen ! LOL He needs unbound control!

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