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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/3/2007 5:50:31 AM

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Specific commands . His will , i am obeying his words. that is what I'm for . I will never doubt my place as a slave and his as my Master. it will never happen not with him or any other . i'm not allowed to tie any one up and do things to them. *sigh* his specific command.

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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/3/2007 5:53:33 AM

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I have done this a few times with my dominant and at first it felt a little strange to me. But just like everything else I had to set my mind to thinking that what I was doing was pleasing him. I think it's like a lot of other things, the first few times you try them your nervous, but once you get over that it's not so bad. In fact my Dominant and I have had some real fun doing this and as long as it is not something he wants very often I have been just fine with it.

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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/3/2007 6:06:39 AM

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I had my sub try spanking my ass once (I swear I am not a maso). It made him uncomfortable but excited. He requested never to do it again, and since it wasn't a thrill for me I doubt I'll tell him to do it again. His problem with it was lack of experience, fear of hurting me in a non-good way, and it felt too dominating for his comfort. I didn't feel the least bit submissive requesting it or doing it, which showed me that a bedroom act is not how I define our D/s relationship. He's working into that.

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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/3/2007 7:11:53 AM

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Amen :)

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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/16/2007 7:56:03 PM

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I wouldn't have an issue with this. One of my key principles as my Domme's submissive is 'Whatever floats her boat'.

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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/16/2007 9:47:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aubre

I often hear subs/slaves say "I will do anything for my dominant." Here's a curve ball:

What if your dominant wants you (the submissive) to tie them up, and do very specific things to them ? The dominant stays in control and you obey their commands, you are doing whatever they want you to do how and when they want it done. I wish there was a good name for this type of scenario.

I've heard the term "Service Top" used to describe this.

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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/17/2007 3:20:57 AM

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While i always say i would do what i was asked. I would be uncomfortable if a Domme asked for a hard canning, its juts not in me to hit a Woman. I guess i could do light spankings ect though.

One possible outcome that would worry me is this. What happens if you have a wonderful relationship and switch in this way. Then suddenly the Dom/Domme wants to be submissive more and more, or vice versa. Would this not put an intolerable strain on the existing dynamics ?

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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/17/2007 4:19:00 AM

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Sir requires, on getting a new weapon of ass destruction, that I test it on him. He thinks it is important that he has knowledge of how an item feels before he uses it to inflict pain or pleasure on me.

I HATE doing it, but I follow his instructions. If I didn't there would be a punishment for me :: sad face ::

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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/17/2007 5:31:56 AM

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It's refered to as simply Topping, be it sexually, service or whatever. ( and not with the negative assertions).

I would never define it as purely masochistic topping, simply because when I top, I am not masochistic and always defined myself as primarily sadistic (and quite a few s-types are). I am rarely masochisitic and never was until I met Darcy and discovered the joy of recieving pain.

Topping is completely different from domination/dominance. I find it amazingly freeing and have no problem with topping my partner as it is his desire and his desire - to me - is paramount.

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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/17/2007 6:51:33 AM

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I guess that falls under the context of 'anything'...
But it doesn't mean the sub has to like it!

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RE: What if your dominant wants something a little diff... - 5/17/2007 7:47:05 AM

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As long as it doesn't breech anyone's hard limits, I think it should be done. Adding to your experiences is how we learn.

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