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New Group - 4/25/2005 5:23:33 AM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		Hey everyone, I just wanted to let everyone know that the groupd that I have been trying to get off the ground for the past 6 months or so is having its first meeting this coming Friday (at last).
If anyone has any advice or words of wisdom they would be much appreciated, I really don't know how to run a group, there is just no one else to do it
Thanks
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RE: New Group - 4/25/2005 8:01:42 AM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		Congrats siamsa!!

My advise would be to make sure that you greet each and every new comer to the group, try to avoid letting it get "cliquish", it's hard enough to go meet strangers in this lifestyle without having to try to break through that kind of wall as well. Other then that, have fun!

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RE: New Group - 4/25/2005 9:01:03 AM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		So far I am the only person that is going to be there! Maybe others will show up, but if not I can just have a wonderful and educational discussion with myself

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RE: New Group - 4/25/2005 9:09:41 AM   
Mercnbeth


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I assume this is within your college environment?

From ancient times when I was a corporate training director the first day of a seminar with any group was always the most difficult. Keep it as informal as possible and as the group facilitator adopt the Socratic method. I would suggest a blind survey (no names) be distributed to all the people with a few basic questions such as these:

1. Why are you here?
2. What do you hope to learn from this group?
3. Do you have experience in the lifestyle?
4. Do you identify yourself as a Top/Bottom/Switch?
5. What aspect of the lifestyle appeals to you most? (Type of play - Bondage/Role play/pain)

Keep this in reserve so that if the general introduction and conversation doesn't get off the ground you can use the survey to generate discussion based on some of the responses. If you don't have to use the survey this time, it's a great way to get people coming to the next meeting where you can report the results and establish a group discussion curriculum. You may even solicit some community people to come in and talk on some specific subjects that the group has common interest.

Good LUCK!

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RE: New Group - 4/25/2005 9:16:04 AM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		Yay! Go you!

We're about there with ours, too. We're gonna try to have the first meeting in a few weeks. I am -excited-

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RE: New Group - 4/25/2005 9:21:40 AM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		Thank you, this survey is excellent and I think that it may help me get an idea of what kind of people are in the group.

Thank you everyone, I will let everyone know how it goes.

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RE: New Group - 4/25/2005 10:19:26 AM   
sub4hire


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quote:

Hey everyone, I just wanted to let everyone know that the groupd that I have been trying to get off the ground for the past 6 months or so is having its first meeting this coming Friday (at last).


Unless you invite your friends to go have lunch with you expect a good solid 6 month's for people to hear about it. Know it is going to be where you have it. Etc..before you get any real sort of following.
Don't get discouraged and don't move it. People need consistancy. Each time you move it you're going to lose some. Of course there will be the one or two who complain that your time is not right for their time....etc. As time goes on you will notice that your time is their time.
Don't let one or two people ruin the whole group in other words.
You'll be fine. Word of mouth is the best advertisement you can find.

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RE: New Group - 4/25/2005 10:20:24 PM   
proudsub


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quote:

just wanted to let everyone know that the groupd that I have been trying to get off the ground for the past 6 months or so is having its first meeting this coming Friday (at last).


Good luck with it siamsa, hope it works out.

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RE: New Group - 4/26/2005 12:20:18 PM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		I wish you wonderful luck siamsa. Let us know how it works out, I have been on the boards to find info on starting a group of those in the lifestyle also. I hope to hear it's an enjoyable experience. I will tell you though, I started a group on another site, a swingers site, in December 2004. As of today, we have 215 members. It is much easier, I imagine, (although still time consuming) than starting one without a core group of people that you have some type of access to(emails, profiles, etc). It's taken a few months, lots of pr, but first meet and greet, had less than 10 show up in December , and had 75 show up at last one. I am still trying to figure out how to get this new one going, so hope you'll keep us informed, and maybe be able to give some of us pointers. Again, good luck!!!!

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RE: New Group - 4/26/2005 7:03:53 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		Where is the meeting taking place? Other that what Mercnbeth had to offer, I'd like to suggest an open forum that offers food/snack and some simple drinks. Via student center, bar, or resturaunt; don't allow the muchies to cutt the meeting short.

The first meeting is normally slow but it's good as it gives everyone a chance to start meeting each other and determining what to do with the group.

I've started a group here in Tyler, TX. We call it T-Whip (craking the Whip in Tyler) and thus far came up with 5 rules.

1. No one under the age of 18 may attend.
2. No illegal substances
3. No animals
4. You're an adult so act like it
5. No meand NO!

The main thing that always worries me about making groups is when the drama of politics makes itself known. People want a name, a duty, a role to play that envolves votes and such. Some get depressed when there idea dosen't fly with the rest. Others start back talking. Best of look in keeping this type of politics from happening. To many Cheifs and not enough indians is a phrase very close to the truth.

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RE: New Group - 4/26/2005 7:09:58 PM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		We are (I am) having the first meeting in one of the lounges in a residence hall. Most students do not have a car on campus (there are only enough parking spaces for about 1/3 of the students and first years are not allowed to have a car on campous at all) so I felt it was best to have it on campus.
I don't have any extra money so no food and snacks, maybe someday.
I have stated on the flyers that I made that anyone acting in an inappropriate way will be asked to leave. If they do not leave then security will be called. We are hoping this will cut down on the drunken jocks (as much as I love them, this will not be the place to play grab-ass).

All that I am hoping now is that I am not the only one that shows up

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RE: New Group - 4/26/2005 7:39:15 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		If we were closer, we'd come and support you *hugs* good luck :)

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RE: New Group - 4/26/2005 9:14:56 PM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		Awwww, thanks girls. I really hope that I get to meet you two someday, I think we would have a blast.

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RE: New Group - 4/27/2005 12:26:14 AM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		You know what? I think you are kinda Crazy,
Siamsa....Like you don't already have enough
going on in your life...Now you are starting a Group!!

Actually...I admire your tenacity and energy!!
Hope it evolves into something really enriching, fun,
and sucessful on campus!
Good Luck with this endeavor, Siamsa!

*Brightspot


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RE: New Group - 4/27/2005 12:49:32 AM   
SweetDommes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: siamsa24

Awwww, thanks girls. I really hope that I get to meet you two someday, I think we would have a blast.


Hehe, you better believe it ... it would probably make the papers

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RE: New Group - 4/27/2005 8:52:09 AM   
Jacen


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Status: offline 		In the immortal words of a book... Don't Panic

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RE: New Group - 4/27/2005 9:17:34 AM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		No panic here, just the fear that I will be sitting the meeting room alone. Or that it will be me and the girl on campus that has pictures on a porn site and dresses in "fetish clothing" all the time (because that clearly means that you know everything about BDSM, at least, according to her) will be the only ones that show up

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RE: New Group - 4/27/2005 10:33:45 AM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		hehehe, if you are the only two who show up, start asking her questions to see what she really does know - then start telling her about all of your experience - that shuts most people up (I thought Holly was going to kill one concieted ass at one of the munches we went to when we first started going - this dumbass was 20, no r/t experience, minimal online experience, but thought that because he was a Dom that he knew it all ... ug - but a few questions and he got really quiet lol)

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RE: New Group - 4/27/2005 11:50:18 AM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		Hehe, that's a good plan. The only thing that I would worry about is the fact that her parent donate tons of money to the school (in addition to tuition) and she has amazing pull in the administration. She can basically do what she wants and have the school do what she wants.
Ahhhh, politics, the rich will always win

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RE: New Group - 4/27/2005 12:36:56 PM   
sub4hire


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No panic here, just the fear that I will be sitting the meeting room alone. Or that it will be me and the girl on campus that has pictures on a porn site and dresses in "fetish clothing" all the time (because that clearly means that you know everything about BDSM, at least, according to her) will be the only ones that show up


Could happen. Although you could ask her why she is dressed that way? Nobody dresses that way when going to munches. Some do when attending parties..but not munches. So, you may ask her if she was trying to stick out or something.
On the east coast it is a little different than it is on the west. If you dress in leathers out here you're just out of place.

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