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SweetMegan20 -> Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 4:04:29 PM)

I'm a very open minded person.  I'm open to alot of things.  But a guy has been telling me he wants me to pretend I'm 13 years old... and I just think thats way too bizarre and perverse.  When I said this to him, he said I "don't understand age play".

I can understand playing the role of someone young and innocent.  But I don't understand playing the role of a CHILD.  I think that people into this, without any offense to anyone here, possibly have a problem.

What does everyone else think?  Am I just ignorant or is there something very weird about age playing so young?



Casie -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 4:14:30 PM)

I wish I could be of more help. Maybe some of the responses will also help me better understand. Like you I fully understand playing the role of someone young and innocent. However when it moves to age play of a child I get very uncomfortable, because in essence isn't that acting out a childmolesting fantasy? I mean yes it is role play, but being a mother it CREEPS me out. And makes me wonder would this person ever really act on the fanatasy ext. Maybe the fantasy is just about having someone roleplay but I can't help but wonder. You aren't alone in those feelings tho.
I do appoligize if I offended anyone. Just how I feel, and what I am able to comperhend with limited knolege in this area.



NakedGirlScout -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 4:16:49 PM)

I don't think that my age playing is a Problem (except to people who can't stand it!). So long as it involves people who are capable of consenting to it, it is still in reality two adults playing together. I feel my sexiest and most "myself" when I can come home from work and finally get to stop pretending to be a grown-up!!!



SweetMegan20 -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 4:17:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Casie

I wish I could be of more help. Maybe some of the responses will also help me better understand. Like you I fully understand playing the role of someone young and innocent. However when it moves to age play of a child I get very uncomfortable, because in essence isn't that acting out a childmolesting fantasy? I mean yes it is role play, but being a mother it CREEPS me out. And makes me wonder would this person ever really act on the fanatasy ext. Maybe the fantasy is just about having someone roleplay but I can't help but wonder. You aren't alone in those feelings tho.
I do appoligize if I offended anyone. Just how I feel, and what I am able to comperhend with limited knolege in this area.



Yes thankyou, thats how I feel.  Like its a child molesting fantasy.



FelinePersuasion -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 4:19:53 PM)

I think you don't know enough about ageplay or people into it to make judgments about the people who want to play young ages. I am myself a toddler of about 2, and It's entirely healthy and benifitial thing to my well being. And no it's not child molestation fantasies. Or about enacting molesting fantasies.
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ORIGINAL: SweetMegan20


I can understand playing the role of someone young and innocent.  But I don't understand playing the role of a CHILD.  I think that people into this, without any offense to anyone here, possibly have a problem.

What does everyone else think?  Am I just ignorant or is there something very weird about age playing so young?



daddysliloneds -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 4:23:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetMegan20

I'm a very open minded person.  I'm open to alot of things.  But a guy has been telling me he wants me to pretend I'm 13 years old... and I just think thats way too bizarre and perverse.  When I said this to him, he said I "don't understand age play".

I can understand playing the role of someone young and innocent.  But I don't understand playing the role of a CHILD.  I think that people into this, without any offense to anyone here, possibly have a problem.

What does everyone else think?  Am I just ignorant or is there something very weird about age playing so young?


you only give us two choices for an answer, so based on those two choices:

definately yes.
no.

as the old saying goes, ignorance is bliss...
now who is it that possibly has a problem again?



OedipusRexIt -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 4:23:41 PM)

It isn't always necessary to "understand" something in order to know that it doesn't meet your preference.

You instinctively know you don't like the idea.  While it's possible that the right scenario or partner could change your mind, why should you? 

Someone's insistence that you prefer their preference doesn't make you ignorant.  If this someone is a quality "someone", perhaps he'll be open to discussing some of the other absolutely delicious possibilities that still remain open to the two of you.

Or perhaps you'll just tell him to get lost.  Oh, and for those people who do enjoy ageplay, the OP wasn't meaning to diss it, I'm sure.



Celeste43 -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 4:24:32 PM)

I don't understand boot worship. I think licking a boot or getting off cleaning one is weird but I don't denigrate others.

With that said, why that age? Is there a life experience he is trying to relive? Does he also want to be that age? Two naive types fumbling and exploring, acting innocent?

I go a little older, mid/late teen schoolgirl, pleated skirt and all. He pretends to be the exasperated teacher who puts me over his knee and punish me for not getting my work done and spending class flirting with boys. Then he shows me what a real man can do that a boy can't and I promise to do better in class.

We've talked about a cheerleader/football player role play scene where we would both be young and I would get dragged under the bleachers.

We both have daughters about that age and it is irrelevant. He is a superb father and father figure. He does not relate sexually to minors. He is protective of his and my offspring. No pedophilia going on.

What you are missing is that it is pretend. The same as if you pretended to be asleep and he pretended to be a burglar who tied you up while sleeping and then took his time ravishing you. Or a police officer who caught you speeding and 'allowed' you to escape a ticket if you took his punishment. Or an IRS auditor who interrogated the money launderer as to where she hid the drug money, with various tortures and sexual usage. Or a pirate wearing a Halloween costume and you the headstrong daughter of a wealthy plantation owner. Dress up for adults.

Now if you get weird vibes from him, not just from this scene, that's something else. But you may find that it was at that age he hit puberty and really just wants you to wear white socks and mary janes, that he has a fetish for the trappings. If you otherwise like him, ask him what and why in detail and be honest that you are having trouble with age play as a concept. But please don't write us all off as sex offenders.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 4:51:41 PM)

You might be ignorant, but that's why you're posting here, to become not ignorant!

However, that doesn't mean your feelings will change.  We've all got things we love and things we hate.  We all have things that change over time on how much we love or hate them.  Sometimes we learn to both love AND hate something more over time.

Here's stuff to read up on, but please, feel free to say no to anything that makes you uncomfortable until you've educated yourself and feel you want to try it.  If you never want to try it, that's fine, too.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_959296/mpage_1/key_ageplay/tm.htm#959441
Ageplay...a switch thing?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_668543/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#668698
Age play dynamics

http://www.collarchat.com/m_580865/mpage_1/key_age%252Cplay/tm.htm#580890
Ms and age play

http://www.collarchat.com/m_546688/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#546972
Another daddy dom question

http://www.collarchat.com/m_541638/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#541832
How does a dom decide to be a daddy ?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_540044/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#540129
Daddy's Girl

http://www.collarchat.com/m_278285/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#278992
What exactly is a daddy dom?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_259176/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#259184
Are there any daddies here?

Daddy/Daughter Roleplay

Daddydoms and Babygirls

Daddy?

Daddy/little girl

Hiding Daddy's Belt

Daddy doms

Daddy's little girl

Daddy? (2)




Stranger1 -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 5:02:41 PM)

People like to play things not themselves.

It's an escape, like any sort of game. I have a hard time understanding people who so totally lack imagination as to see that as somehow......uwell.



blushingflower -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 5:09:04 PM)

Maybe I'm weird, but I don't that 13 is that young.  I mean, it's not really a child, biologically speaking.  When I was 13 I'd had breasts for at least 3 years and been menstruating for 2.  I actually had my first sexual experience at 13 (and then didn't have anymore till I was 20).  I would have a problem with an adult engaging in sexual contact with a 13 year old, but I also have a problem when people confuse pedophilia with Ephebophilia (aka hebephilia).  It's not the same thing.
That said, I understand why you think it's creepy.  I'm not entirely sure how I feel about it myself, because I don't really know much about ageplay per se.  I get the Daddy/little girl dynamic, certainly, since I deal with it every day, but I'm not actually all that familiar with how ageplay really works.
As with anything else- if you don't like it and don't want to do it, well, then, don't.  It's that simple.  Not everyone has the same kinks, and as long as everyone involved is legally an adult who has consented (and is legally capable of consent), it's all good.



raevnn -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 5:32:17 PM)

I've never really liked or understood puppy play.
I, however, don't think the people who want to be puppies or like to keep puppies "possibly have a problem."



onestandingstill -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 5:43:29 PM)

I personally with the right approach get hotter than an acetylene torch to pretend I'm young and naive again.
I think some of this springs from molestation that occurred to me from age 12-16.
From what I've read on the subject & experienced in my own life it helps you heal the emotional void you were left with in your ability to trust men.
Knowing you're an adult and doing all those dirty little nasty things bantering about oh my goodness my Kitty's really throbbing, maybe I haf ta pee or something, it's tingly and such can really stoke a protective warm spirit and energy in an erotic exchange.
There are also some who's dynamic is that a Dom steps up to the Daddy role and never ever would consider doing something sensual in nature with that sub when she's in younger role or ever if it's a deeper exchange.
At one time we had a woman in here with multiple personalities due to sever abuse from like age 5.
Maybe LA can remember the term for it, the girls name, or find the blogs I mention here.
She said one of her personalities was a five year old child that was so scared of everything she when stressed, in her mind would hide in his house behind a chair.
She'd gotten to a point this personality was controlling more of her active thought time in this hiding place.
Her husband thought maybe she should stop seeing this other Dom real time and the kid personality would calm down.
There's lots of exchanges in control and energy that actually are beneficial and healthy in my mind as long as it's done between consenting adults who do not try to cause the other emotional damage.
suzanne





Casie -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 5:57:40 PM)

When I said child I ment pre-puberty. Yes, I admit there is nothing wrong with consenting adults engaging in role play. But I can't help but wonder where the fantasys come from. I can't help but think that there is a possiblity that the person has fantasied about childern, wheather or not the would act on is a whole other senrio.I understand the teacher student thin completely, and the pretending like both are younger. And doing it for theriputic reasons, I have experince with this. 

Trying to understand this fully
Casie



HouseofBear -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 6:00:08 PM)

There are many types and styles of age play...almost as many as the people who engage in it.  We have done so on occasion, with a submissive who wished for a time to be a little one again.  However, we have a problem with the molestation thing ourselves, so for the period of time the adult is roleplaying a child with us, they are treated exactly as we would a child.  Which means, no sexual references or activity.  For some who have sought something different, of course they were disappointed.  For others, it was going back to a time where they could feel innocent, loved and protected.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 6:03:13 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetMegan20
I can understand playing the role of someone young and innocent.  But I don't understand playing the role of a CHILD.  I think that people into this, without any offense to anyone here, possibly have a problem.

What does everyone else think?  Am I just ignorant or is there something very weird about age playing so young?

13 is not "so young".
Angel is my baby, our age play includes diapering and bottle feeding. We do not have a PROBLEM.  We enjoy it. For us, at least, it is al about regression and relationship building.
But no, it realy does just sound like age play isnt for you.  It isnt for everyone.  If the idea of acting younger than legal age offends you... then you need to find someone who is into other aspects and who doesnt want to explore age play. Easy.

DV



Invictus754 -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 6:04:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetMegan20
I'm a very open minded person.  I'm open to alot of things.  But a guy has been telling me he wants me to pretend I'm 13 years old... and I just think thats way too bizarre and perverse.  When I said this to him, he said I "don't understand age play".

I can understand playing the role of someone young and innocent.  But I don't understand playing the role of a CHILD.  I think that people into this, without any offense to anyone here, possibly have a problem.

What does everyone else think?  Am I just ignorant or is there something very weird about age playing so young?


You need to read up on your history young lady (couldn't resist the "young lady" part [:D]).  In the United States alone, LOTS (as in tens of thousands) of "children" have been married at 13, 14, and 15 years old in the last 200 years.  Don't you consider them children?  (I would bet even in your own family)

If you visit Wikipedia [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent] it states:
The age of consent varies widely from jurisdiction to jurisdiction.[1] The median seems to range from 14 to 16 years, but laws stating ages ranging from 12 to 21 do exist. Some jurisdictions forbid sexual activity outside of legal marriage completely. The relevant age may also vary by the type of sexual act, the gender of the actors, or other restrictions such as abuse of a position of trust. Some jurisdictions may also make allowances for minors engaged in sexual acts with each other, rather than a hard and fast single age. Charges resulting from a breach of these laws may range from a relatively low-level misdemeanor such as "corruption of a minor," to "statutory rape" (which is considered equivalent to rape, both in severity and sentencing).
 
So this "age play" isn't really delving into the hugely illegal in most aspects.  Also, for those who are a little more forward thinking and well traveled, we know that the age of consent is 13 in some countries [http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm]. 
 
So, you are squicky about it only because you have been told that sex should only begin at 18 and you believed somebody else before you formed your own opinion. Shame on you.
 
(you must REALLY hate breath play - where they might be thinking of choking someone to DEATH...)



Invictus754 -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 6:10:41 PM)

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Well, crap!  I hit Quote instead of Edit.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 6:18:47 PM)

A) Plenty of people in and out of the scene DO have fantasies about being with people less than legal age.  Whether you think drooling over Britney Spears on MTV is ok and drooling over Britnet Spears on the Micky Mouse Club isn't ok is up to you- but it happens.

B)  Very little age play has to do with wanting to actually be with someone act that age- but SOME IS.

Deal with it.

As long as the people themselves are fully informed consenting adults, nothing wrong is occurring.  It might not be your kink, it's not even most AGE PLAYERS kink, but it's out there.



misspage -> RE: Age play - what do you think? (4/17/2007 6:24:19 PM)

The bottom line folks is ageplay is about two (or however many involed) concenting adults.  This has nothing to do with either partner being a real child or child molestation.  There are several things that i find i don't like in the lifestyle but i don't belittle those who like them.  I just don't participate.

Some info on ageplay.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daddy%27s_girl_fetish
http://www.fetishculture.com/Age_play.html
http://www.ageplay-my-way.com/
http://www.theghidrah.com/handouts/AgePlay-101-Handout-v02.pdf



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