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RE: Threatened, but not given... - 4/19/2007 4:03:49 AM

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I agree with every thing you have said Marylynne.A master doesn't have time for an attention slut and the girl should waits for the proper time...IF a MASTER truly doesn't have time for a " beating"then perhaps he doesn't have time to own a 24-7 slave,maybe they both should evaluate the whole relationship..as always just the views of this ol" master

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RE: Threatened, but not given... - 4/19/2007 7:06:53 AM

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What about when a master clearly gives an expectation that he will do X activity at Y time (as well as clearly making it known that it was a serious thing), and then is unable to do it NOT because of some family emergency or unexpected intrusion...but because he spent too much other time playing around?

There IS imo a responsibility on the doms part to follow up WHEN he sets clear expectations. There IS a loss of trust and confusion when he doesn't follow that responsibility.

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RE: Threatened, but not given... - 4/19/2007 7:12:13 AM

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I agree with lucky, the submissive needs consistency, and it shouldn't be so much the threat of punishment, it should be the knowledge that punishment or even pleasure, when you give the submissive expectation of such, must be delivered. A person is as good as their word else they've no business in the relationship.

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RE: Threatened, but not given... - 4/19/2007 7:22:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: damia

i don't see this as a petty thing, marylynn, and i find it a bit insulting that you assume it as such.

Please accept my apologies if i offend. i'm a bit on edge worried to death about my pet, and tired from a long day at work.

~jewel

#1 rule - it's your opinion, you are entitled to your opinions
#2 rule - don't apologize for your feelings, because JUST LIKE opinions, you are entitled to them.

You did not explain fully the situation, or else you would have gotten a different reply than what I had said.
I don't know how to advise you correctly, especially now that we have the "full picture" .. the only thing I can offer you is:

Try to be as understanding as you can. Both of you are under a lot of stress, both of you need a time out, and both of you need some better communication. If it's a "daddy/child" relationship, I can see where you would be very very upset.. consistency is the key word.. consistency is something that everyone needs.

I think the two of you need to sit down and communicate on equal grounding and find out what isn't working and what is working.

Best of luck to you

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RE: Threatened, but not given... - 4/19/2007 9:29:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

What about when a master clearly gives an expectation that he will do X activity at Y time (as well as clearly making it known that it was a serious thing), and then is unable to do it NOT because of some family emergency or unexpected intrusion...but because he spent too much other time playing around?

There IS imo a responsibility on the doms part to follow up WHEN he sets clear expectations. There IS a loss of trust and confusion when he doesn't follow that responsibility.

Ditto to that. I think the word ‘confusion’ is probably the best word for this sort of situation.

Damia, I think its time you for you to temporarily come out of slave mode and sit down with this guy and tell him how you feel. When you went into this contract or agreement you chose him as much as he chose you. You have to ask yourself if he is reaching your expectations and although some may slate me and say that a slave should not have expectations, the only thing I can say is, if a Master does not have his slaves head then he no longer has a slave and if a slave is not controlled then he/she is not a slave.
Do not become a general dogsbody for this guy. I have seen far too many slave Master/Mistress relationships where the owner is just a lazy git and not worthy of having a slave.
I am also wondering if your Lord is having a bit of self doubt about his own capabilities of being a Master. Believe it or not us dominants do worry about things like that and it can have a different effect on each and every one of us.
At times like this you have to come out of your present mould and talk as two intelligent individuals.
It is so much easier for a submissive to get things right because a submissive gets much more opportunity to communicate than a slave.

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