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Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 8:07:58 PM

Tarenmor

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Greetings,

I am fairly new to the site. My fiance/submissive and I have been members for approximatly a month. I'm curious though. How do you others attract attention to your profiles? I have of course, attempted to send messages to others who use the website. However I've never recieved a response. I realize, of course, that these women quite often recieve a few hundred emails a day, so I am not holding out. But it's rather irksome, spending the time with my Tandy, putting together an Email asking assorted questions, and of course, telling a bit about ourselves as well to someone. Only to not recieve an answer.

I realize, that people are quite busy, and that I should be patient. And I assure you, I am patient. I'm simply curious how to attract more people to my profile. Should I add colour to it? Should I keep it short, and simple? Are there some questions that I may want to answer on my profile? Or should I increase the detail that's currently on it? What did some of you all do, to attract attention to yourselves, and get more people interested in you?

Regards,

T&T

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 8:27:25 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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As another poster has said in here many a time..this is the internet..expect the worse and be pleasantly surprised by the best. With that being said, first off what you seek is not a voluminous resource.Secondly, you both are rather young and many a sub/slave seek experience of a few more years.Many may also wish to relocate to a more established, poly home.There have been many poly couples seeking additions who have gone years before one entered their life, I say persistance, patience, and a possible reality that it may never happen..Have you tried your local groups?Seeking in R/L , one in your area would be your better option.How to attract attention to your profile?..I think you did just exactly that by posing this question...How did I attract attention to my profile?..LOL..I am female, submissive ,novice....need I say more?...Tempting

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 8:30:19 PM

FukinTroll

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I don't know... I am utterly ignored here.

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 8:41:06 PM

Tarenmor

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That's an excellent point. I realize we're both quite young. We are novices in this field. Her especially. I have at least read quite a bit in regards to the scene, it's the practice that I lack. Thank you for your suggestion.

As for you, Mister Troll. =) Being a man who regularly browses forums including World of Warcraft, and assorted Roleplay, and technical forums. I learnt long ago. "Do not feed the Trolls." I have neat pictures that i'll show you sometime if you're interested, all saying the exact same thing.

T&T

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 8:45:49 PM

marylynn

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Honestly, I don't know. .. I wish you luck, though -
I'm submissive and get tons of emails that I can't get to all at once.
Good luck with your search :)

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 8:49:23 PM

FukinTroll

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tarenmor

That's an excellent point. I realize we're both quite young. We are novices in this field. Her especially. I have at least read quite a bit in regards to the scene, it's the practice that I lack. Thank you for your suggestion.

As for you, Mister Troll. =) Being a man who regularly browses forums including World of Warcraft, and assorted Roleplay, and technical forums. I learnt long ago. "Do not feed the Trolls." I have neat pictures that i'll show you sometime if you're interested, all saying the exact same thing.

T&T

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 8:52:19 PM

greeneyes1962

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Personally, i'm not really interested in attracting much attention to my profile. Actually, it's pretty empty. However, many people who read the forums then go on to look at profiles of people who post on the forums, so that may be a way to get some attention.

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 8:54:17 PM

jayded34

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well i really dont have much on my profile.........so i cant help ya there.......i do wish you much luck though. patiece seems to be the one and only virture i dont have, as far as "feeding the Troll"......i would pick up the tab for dinner anyday!

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 9:29:04 PM

FukinTroll

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jayded34

well i really dont have much on my profile.........so i cant help ya there.......i do wish you much luck though. patiece seems to be the one and only virture i dont have, as far as "feeding the Troll"......i would pick up the tab for dinner anyday!

This Troll or another Troll?

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 10:15:23 PM

Jevousadore

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

I don't know... I am utterly ignored here.

Laughing.....this is the most likeable statement I have, for me personally, seen you post! I can actually see the man behind the troll.....I think.

jevousadore

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 10:33:45 PM

corsetgirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

I don't know... I am utterly ignored here.

Yeah, but you are still the SLURPIEST of them all!

< Message edited by corsetgirl -- 4/18/2007 10:34:06 PM >

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 10:40:44 PM

Owned1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

I don't know... I am utterly ignored here.

I am shocked and stunned!!! How could a fukinTroll be ignored on a website so obviously dedicated to just your kind.

Owned

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 10:42:04 PM

Owned1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tarenmor

Greetings,

I am fairly new to the site. My fiance/submissive and I have been members for approximatly a month. I'm curious though. How do you others attract attention to your profiles? I have of course, attempted to send messages to others who use the website. However I've never recieved a response. I realize, of course, that these women quite often recieve a few hundred emails a day, so I am not holding out. But it's rather irksome, spending the time with my Tandy, putting together an Email asking assorted questions, and of course, telling a bit about ourselves as well to someone. Only to not recieve an answer.

I realize, that people are quite busy, and that I should be patient. And I assure you, I am patient. I'm simply curious how to attract more people to my profile. Should I add colour to it? Should I keep it short, and simple? Are there some questions that I may want to answer on my profile? Or should I increase the detail that's currently on it? What did some of you all do, to attract attention to yourselves, and get more people interested in you?

Regards,

T&T

Perhaps if you offer cash for each response you get you maybe more sucessful??
<shrugs>

Good luck in what you are searching for.
Owned

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 10:45:04 PM

Vendaval

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(cough) Bullshit!!! (cough)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
I don't know... I am utterly ignored here.

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So in this gray haze we'll be meating again, and on that
great day, I will tease you all the same."
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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 10:48:55 PM

Vendaval

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Hello Tarenmor and welcome to the boards.

Be patient and give yourselves more time to know the regulars.
Participate in discussions and make some new contacts.
Do be aware that couples looking for an additional female
are common and that the available females looking for
that type of situation are in the minority.

Check out the Poly forum and do a search for related topics,
you will find this is a common problem.

Regards,

Vendaval

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So in this gray haze we'll be meating again, and on that
great day, I will tease you all the same."
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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/18/2007 11:07:32 PM

BondageTopJere

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Start using the journal feature on collarme. I basically no longer send messages myself, other than compliments when i see something that catchs my ete. Since I started the journal, my recieved numbers jumped quite a bit, even started seeing a sub here because of my journal entries

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/19/2007 12:08:57 AM

WhiplashSmile

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval

(cough) Bullshit!!! (cough)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
I don't know... I am utterly ignored here.

I Wonder What TROLL SHIT looks like... MMmmm....

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/19/2007 12:20:20 AM

CuriousLord

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tarenmor
I'm simply curious how to attract more people to my profile.

CuriousLord's Patent-Pending Simply 'n Easy 3-Step Process! (R) (C) (CC) (TM)
1.) Take lots of Viagra. As much as you can do without risking your health.
2.) Take a picture of your penis.
3.) Post it and send it to everyone on the Internet.

On a serious note, I've actually taken a slave from this site. From that experience, I'd like to note a couple of things.
-Upon looking into her account, I noticed she got a LOT of mail. Sometimes, my computer still logs into it (not very often, but it seems bugged). When it does, and it shows she's online, she gets nearly 10 message instaneously. I'm not even going to count how many within the hour, or the day!
-Her display picture made her look great. She didn't. Not that this is a big deal, but, point being, they can be deceptive.
-She never mentioned anything about her blood play, which I'm not into. She also didn't mention pot. Yeah. It didn't work out. (She's back on this site. She's corrected her profile with regards to the blood play.)
-I'm -not- in a hurry to meet anyone new from this site (though I had with one since her. Also a less-than-satisfactory experience.)

For getting more hits? Don't worry about it. Females are often out with specific criteria in mind. Very specific. And, while many don't seem to realize it, they actively accept and reject, rather rigidly, based on these criteria. If you happen to be what they want, they'll let you know. If you're not, don't take offense, you're just not what they were looking for.

Personally, as much as I despised the waiting game, I'm coming to accept the advice my mother always gives me when I break up with a girl (as she has for years now).. "Don't worry about it, as soon as you stop looking, the perfect one will come along". So, I did. I have two slaves now I'm rather pleased with.
While I'm still looking for another- (I like having several different types, and that leaves me with two vacancies)- I'm content.

To return to, and elaborate upon, the point about being what they want..
Kinks are, in many cases, as in important as sexual perference- they're part of it. The "slave" I mentioned above (probably was a sub, really) was into blood play to a large degree. While she didn't hate me for not also being into it, it was important enough to her to have to leave me for it. I don't know if she thought about it before meeting me, but, if she had, I doubt she'd have had wanted to be mine.

Oh, and a commanding voice can be important when dealing with subs. It's funny, though.. so many show me messages they get. "When we meet, you will be wearing (black blah blah thong blah scanty blah), I will be in My (blah blah pink tutu blah blah) and you will procede to the bed and...". Heh. I'm sure it works on some subs. But, when you message others, I recommend a more.. subtle.. approach. Think of it like a single's bar. Ultimately, most are there just to hook up. Still, walking up to a girl in a drunken stupor and blurting out, "OH YEAHHH BABYYYY, TAKE IT OFF!" isn't likely to get you far, even if she is there for the sole purpose of getting laid.

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/19/2007 12:30:50 AM

Tarenmor

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Greetings,

Thanks for all your friendly advice, ( and banter. but I won't get into that now. ) I truly appreciate it. I don't mind playing the patience game. It's more my fiance thats the impatient one. ( You should see her playing games that take time. So funny when she get's frustrated. Anyways.) I take all your advice, and i'll do what I can to improve my profile. And I know what you mean, about the bloodplay thing. I find personally that many of my own kinks change on a rather steady basis, I used to not like the idea of Knife play, but now I find it's something I don't have a problem with. Provided, of course, you're careful.

On that note, I would like to once more thank you all for your kind responses. You are quite right, I do need to get into the scene here in my town. However I'm rather...reclusive. I enjoy my privacy, and to be honost, I can be quite shy. Heh. So I haven't done much research into the local scene. The only persons I know who are "involved' in it, I um, rather try to avoid. They're your typical gotha-be's who shop at hot topic and walk around trying to freak as many people out with their leashes and such. 'course. In the bedroom their completely 'nilla. But that's a rant for another day and another time.

And i'm babbling again. I really do need to stop. =x Thanks for reading!

T&T

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RE: Attracting Attention? - 4/19/2007 12:41:56 AM

BeachMystress

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If you're in a hurry to meet people, perhaps you should try a local munch. http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgs.html

And as to not getting a reply to your mail, notice the "mail controls" button in the top right corner of your mail page. It allows people to set their mail options so that mail from anyone who doesn't match their criteria goes straight to their bulk mail folder. Most of us never check our bulk mail folders. This may be what is happening to your mail.

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