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RE: Experience versus age, young"sub"looking? - 4/20/2007 3:03:39 PM

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Well, stirred up a hornet's nest with this one lol. Certainly wasn't trying to offend anyone, expected a lot of flack from the young ones lol. It's not just the bdsm I'm talking about, it's emotional maturity, stability, and life experience. Think, what is generally the most important thing to a man in his 20's.....that's a general statement and certainly doesn't apply to everyone....I sure don't "know it all", no-one ever does. The master doesn't exist that is master of all. Just seems that the younger subs, and even doms that restrict due to age are missing a lot is all....

I'm not talking solely about BDSM either. Nor am I getting my boxers in a bunch over your opinion. The battle between young and old doesnt have to do with logic so much as it has to do with two very different perspectives on life. I'm showing a different viewpoint for the purposes of discussion.

They would be missing a lot by dating an older man. They would be missing the heartbreaks, the relationship problems, the attitudes and perspectives of younger men. All the experiences that made all the older women wise, experienced, and mature when it comes to dating, relationships and men.

All the mistakes we make when we're young make us into the people we are when we're older.

I could relate and sympathize with your viewpoint better as well if it hadnt come as as an attempt to steer in younger women in the direction of your profile.

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RE: Experience versus age, young"sub"looking? - 4/20/2007 3:54:01 PM

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When i started exploring this (in my 30's) i made friends with several men in their 60's online. I didn't want to judge based on age and often we were exploring before i even knew their age. But eventually with each i found that we just did not have enough in common. Their life experiences were so much different than mine. Our musical tastes is a good example, etc.... And then trying to be with one of them in person was very difficult. Yes, I felt like i was with my father when we were out. I was very uncomfortable holding hands etc. The thing is i was always attracted to men in their 50's at least even as a teen. Maybe it would be different with the right person, but the thing i learned the most was that i was not being fair to them to try and fail them.

On the flip side i have a 16 yr old daughter and guys closer to her age than mine do whig me a out a bit. Just a personal taste thing.

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RE: Experience versus age, young"sub"looking? - 4/20/2007 4:04:25 PM

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When I was 25 or so, I came onto the Internet after doing 8+ years of BDSM. I was tying up boyfriends as soon as I was old enough to date. While I didn't have the huge arsenal of gear and stuff that I have now, through experimentation, communication, and a variety of relationships I had developed a really solid sense of self, of my own kinks, of pushing buttons of men, and of seduction. I also had a pretty good grasp on a lot of toys stuff - bondage, some pain, teasing and denial, etc. I probably engaged in a "bdsm encounter" on an average of once a week from the age of 18 until 25 - it wasn't just something I "did", it was part of my sensuality, my sexuality, and how I conveyed lust.

At 25 I was still considered "young." There was no shortage of older submissive men that would be happy to overlook my "youth" and ask me to engage in activities with them. There is no nice way of simply saying I was NOT attracted to older guys. I recoiled at the come-ons from older guys at bdsm events or sending me pictures on the Internet. These men were not my generation, had nothing in common with me, and most importantly I had no kind of connection or attraction to them.

Even very polished, clean cut, attractive older men could not interest me, because I felt we had nothing in common and there was just a sort of "creepy" feeling to the idea, especially considering that there were plenty of men around my age to consider for prey (I was happy and content to meet and seduce 18 - 25ish year old guys at fetish clubs, dance clubs, in my own social circles).

Now, at 38, the tables are turned, and I am the "creepy older woman" (heh) seeking young, nubile submissive men from time to time. But I'm not going to gripe or groan if it doesn't work out - I can totally "get" that a young guy feels there's just not enough in common to relate to someone my age. The age gap is glaring to me, and I can easily recognize that. It still doesn't stop me from wishing I had my pick of guys in their early 20s to be my own personal harem.

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RE: Experience versus age, young"sub"looking? - 4/20/2007 5:02:02 PM

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I agree everyone has their own preferences. I have had inquiries from 20 something to 50 year olds. I have also not written someone like sweetmeagan20 because she states in her profile she only wants someone 20 to 25. I may think she should push it to 30 but it is her choice. If everyone that has an age preference would just indicate it in their profile and everyone looking for someone honor that statement in their profile, we would not have any arguements about age.
Some young ones I do not consider because their profile makes it clear they just want a sugar daddy to pay for everything for them versus a true relationship. They can say they want someone older but adding rivh and one foot in the grave and another on a banana peel indicates their real desire.

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RE: Experience versus age, young"sub"looking? - 4/20/2007 6:15:39 PM

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There is a group that I relate to that transcends age. Some are youngish, some are oldish. I'm not saying I want to fuck them, but I do relate on many levels, regardless of the age. But, all in all, for a relationship, I want someone near my age for many reasons. Heh, it just looks better when you are out.

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RE: Experience versus age, young"sub"looking? - 4/21/2007 1:14:11 PM

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Im not attracted to older men and such is my right.. as for the experiance thing well Master is young and has some experiance not a hell of a lot but I dont mind we learn and grow together what is wrong with that???

I agree with MadRabbit How do you get experiance if no one will play with you because you have none??? What about when you had none maybe you should have told the subs playing with you then that they shouldnt be playing with you and sent them to go find someone older and experianced??

point is Im intitled to like what I like.

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