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RE: Sometimes - 4/27/2005 6:09:07 PM

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OK, I'm missing the point here, you do, you don't--you will--you won't--I get a kick out of "vanilla to the world"--like we apply for jobs--and add it to the resume as special skills--although it is nice when One can come out to vanilla friends and they love ya anyway--ok so where were we? You do you don't, you will but not in a room full of slaves??

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RE: Sometimes/ AAkasha - 4/28/2005 2:57:38 AM

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AAkasha understood my post almost perfectly. I am very vanilla. I have had a couple of vanilla women try to domme me. But these women, I believe, were all submissive sexually. After Domming them, I'd talk them into try Domme-ing me. They either weren't into it, or weren't in touch with that side of themselves. The women that I am attracted to in the vanilla world are strong women. In their professional lives they are successful. In conversations they are opinionated and well researched. That is the type of people I enjoy being around. Men and women. I have fought hard in the world and in my profession to earn a certain amount of respect from people. And I don't want to give a bit of that up just because I enjoy serving a beautiful woman *my idea of a beautiful woman. *

I was trying to emphasize the fact that the few times it went well I enjoyed the *mundane* tasks - like washing the dishes, cleaning the house, drawing her bath, washing her car, lighting her cigarette as soon as she put it in her mouth without having to be told, filling her glass as soon as it was empty without having to be told. As much as I enjoyed being told to strip naked lay on the bed and have my ass and the back of my legs beat for the mistakes I had made. As much as being told to service them sexually. Elements lacking - was that all those things were mostly all my ideas and suggestions, because these women weren't experienced in Domme-ing and
I've only read about it.

What I meant by do Dommes ever *sometimes* Domme? is. is it a possibility that I might find a Domme that, for whatever her motivation might be, who would Domme me as a one time thing. Kinda like there are gay guys that like to be a straight guys first gay sex partner.

I don't want to mislead any women into thinking that I am definitely down for the long haul. I just want to explore this part of myself and see if, and/or to what degree I would enjoy it.

Thank you all very much for your responses.

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RE: Sometimes/ AAkasha - 4/28/2005 4:50:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: lickenforyou

I have fought hard in the world and in my profession to earn a certain amount of respect from people. And I don't want to give a bit of that up just because I enjoy serving a beautiful woman *my idea of a beautiful woman. *

There is no reason why you would have to give that up just because you choose to be submissive behind closed doors. Being submissive does not negate being strong and assertive and having respect from people. It's very possible and often necessary to keep D/s and vanilla life separate.

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RE: Sometimes/ AAkasha - 4/28/2005 4:57:30 AM

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I was trying to emphasize the fact that the few times it went well I enjoyed the *mundane* tasks - like washing the dishes, cleaning the house, drawing her bath, washing her car, lighting her cigarette as soon as she put it in her mouth without having to be told, filling her glass as soon as it was empty without having to be told. As much as I enjoyed being told to strip naked lay on the bed and have my ass and the back of my legs beat for the mistakes I had made. As much as being told to service them sexually. Elements lacking - was that all those things were mostly all my ideas and suggestions, because these women weren't experienced in Domme-ing and I've only read about it.

Well this is a much clearer post. To be honest, your first post did not come across this way at all.

You probably will find a Domme to have a little fun with as some will allow themselves to have casual play partners. I know I do when the chemistry is right.

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RE: Sometimes/ AAkasha - 4/28/2005 9:32:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: lickenforyou

What I meant by do Dommes ever *sometimes* Domme? is. is it a possibility that I might find a Domme that, for whatever her motivation might be, who would Domme me as a one time thing. Kinda like there are gay guys that like to be a straight guys first gay sex partner.

I don't want to mislead any women into thinking that I am definitely down for the long haul. I just want to explore this part of myself and see if, and/or to what degree I would enjoy it.

Thank you all very much for your responses.

If it is truly a one off situation you want maybe going to a pro domme would be the best and the quickest solution.

If you think it may be more that you seek...well there are all types of Dommes, some who just want casual play, some who play with friends, some who like to go slowly with a sub and see where it leads etc etc ( I could go on and on). Keep patient and honest about what it is you seek, be thoughtful, caring etc and I am sure you will find it. Often the more you put into something the more you will get out of it.

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RE: Sometimes/ AAkasha - 4/28/2005 9:40:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: lickenforyou

AAkasha understood my post almost perfectly. I am very vanilla. I have had a couple of vanilla women try to domme me. But these women, I believe, were all submissive sexually. After Domming them, I'd talk them into try Domme-ing me. They either weren't into it, or weren't in touch with that side of themselves. The women that I am attracted to in the vanilla world are strong women. In their professional lives they are successful. In conversations they are opinionated and well researched. That is the type of people I enjoy being around. Men and women. I have fought hard in the world and in my profession to earn a certain amount of respect from people. And I don't want to give a bit of that up just because I enjoy serving a beautiful woman *my idea of a beautiful woman. *

I was trying to emphasize the fact that the few times it went well I enjoyed the *mundane* tasks - like washing the dishes, cleaning the house, drawing her bath, washing her car, lighting her cigarette as soon as she put it in her mouth without having to be told, filling her glass as soon as it was empty without having to be told. As much as I enjoyed being told to strip naked lay on the bed and have my ass and the back of my legs beat for the mistakes I had made. As much as being told to service them sexually. Elements lacking - was that all those things were mostly all my ideas and suggestions, because these women weren't experienced in Domme-ing and
I've only read about it.

What I meant by do Dommes ever *sometimes* Domme? is. is it a possibility that I might find a Domme that, for whatever her motivation might be, who would Domme me as a one time thing. Kinda like there are gay guys that like to be a straight guys first gay sex partner.

I don't want to mislead any women into thinking that I am definitely down for the long haul. I just want to explore this part of myself and see if, and/or to what degree I would enjoy it.

Thank you all very much for your responses.

This makes it even a bit trickier, because if what you want is a relationship with a woman (ie your longterm girlfriend) who will just dominate you once -- a "one time thing" I don't know that you can have her both "be really into it" and do it passionately -- but just never do it again. I think those of us that are into it, are into it. We can't just shut it off.

At the same time, if you get an otherwise non-kinky woman to do it, she's not going to have the style, the self confidence, the ideas, the passion, and most importantly get off on it. She'll just be trying to figure out what you want.

So the "one time thing" baffles me. Others have recommended you see a pro -- that's a great idea, because she will have the skills and can explore any number of kinky activites with you. However, there won't be the emotional connection that you get from a girlfriend, and there won't be the sexual intimacy. If your dream of your "one time" dominance includes sexual intercourse or sexual pleasing, that won't be a part of it.

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RE: Sometimes/ AAkasha - 4/28/2005 11:42:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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I was trying to emphasize the fact that the few times it went well I enjoyed the *mundane* tasks - like washing the dishes, cleaning the house, drawing her bath, washing her car, lighting her cigarette as soon as she put it in her mouth without having to be told, filling her glass as soon as it was empty without having to be told. As much as I enjoyed being told to strip naked lay on the bed and have my ass and the back of my legs beat for the mistakes I had made. As much as being told to service them sexually. Elements lacking - was that all those things were mostly all my ideas and suggestions, because these women weren't experienced in Domme-ing and I've only read about it.

Well this is a much clearer post. To be honest, your first post did not come across this way at all.

You probably will find a Domme to have a little fun with as some will allow themselves to have casual play partners. I know I do when the chemistry is right.

- LA

I totally agree, this post is much clearer, and as such, also think you might have a good chance at succeeding, as long as you express your desires in THIS manner, rather than the first.

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RE: Sometimes/ AAkasha - 4/28/2005 7:24:24 PM

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Even with my poorly written post several ladies were able to answer my question. And because of those answers I do feel confident that I will get to enjoy some aspects of this life style.

You probably will find a Domme to have a little fun with as some will allow themselves to have casual play partners. I know I do when the chemistry is right.

- LA

I totally agree, this post is much clearer, and as such, also think you might have a good chance at succeeding, as long as you express your desires in THIS manner, rather than the first.

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ORIGINAL: kc692

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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I was trying to emphasize the fact that the few times it went well I enjoyed the *mundane* tasks - like washing the dishes, cleaning the house, drawing her bath, washing her car, lighting her cigarette as soon as she put it in her mouth without having to be told, filling her glass as soon as it was empty without having to be told. As much as I enjoyed being told to strip naked lay on the bed and have my ass and the back of my legs beat for the mistakes I had made. As much as being told to service them sexually. Elements lacking - was that all those things were mostly all my ideas and suggestions, because these women weren't experienced in Domme-ing and I've only read about it.

Well this is a much clearer post. To be honest, your first post did not come across this way at all.

You probably will find a Domme to have a little fun with as some will allow themselves to have casual play partners. I know I do when the chemistry is right. - LA

I totally agree, this post is much clearer, and as such, also think you might have a good chance at succeeding, as long as you express your desires in THIS manner, rather than the first.

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There is no reason why you would have to give that up just because you choose to be submissive behind closed doors. Being submissive does not negate being strong and assertive and having respect from people. It's very possible and often necessary to keep D/s and vanilla life separate.

Be well,
Julie

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Thank you all so much!

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