crouchingtigress -> RE: Doms stop the BSing (4/19/2007 9:44:07 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Satyr6406 EXCELLENT idea, Amy! Officer thinking! Instead of getting mired in negativity, we can try and be pro-active examples to the "new ones coming up". Unfortunately, the same things that make "boys" think they are dominants is the same thing that will keep that from happening; self-centered self-interest in the Nth degree. Let's face it: a dominant, taking one of these "boys" under their wing is, essentially, service and mentioning service to a dominant (most of the fake ones, anyway) is like driving across Texas with a Bumper sticker that reads: "We're gay communists and my boyfriend and I are here to confiscate your guns". It doesn't go over, very well. Most of these "dominants" are busy trying to "train" or "protect" a submissive; not for themselves, you understand for the submissives' own good. I agree that focusing on negativity isn't going to get anything accomplished (it never has) but, it's definitely a Catch-22 or "chicken-or-the-egg" thing. Peace and comfort, Michael i hear you Michael, and i think you are right if the elder strolls in and say son let me tell you a thing or two about bdsm....that newbie is gonna say fuck off old man.... but a man does not get to the stage of a master in my estimation with out having acquired numerous human behavior skills, leadership skills, listening skills and personal relating skills. ( sorry justheather, bow hunting did not make the grade this time *grin*) any way i think that if a man really wanted to effect change in his community he could offer an ear, pay a compliment, and gain some trust...not un like wooing a female in many ways...and we all know how accomplished Doms can be at that! PS what is officer thinking?
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