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WhiplashSmile -> RE: Doms stop the BSing (4/20/2007 12:06:00 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
The most irritating "master" I know, used to crow about how most other doms were just players and wannabees trying to get laid. In his opinion only HE was a real dominant. Which is funny cause he got laid more than anyone I knew. Maybe people who say they are dom are not? Perhaps people who say they are better than all those other people are just wrapped in their own fantasy. I don't know. But if you cast the first stone don't be surprised if it bounces off the wall and smacks you back.
Kyst
I think it's different for every Dom, some will want to get laid all the time others will not simply fuck anybody that comes along. Think it all depends upon what the Dom is looking for. For me, I've turned down many opportunities to get laid for various reasons. For me it's a matter of self respect and self control. Also, I'm not into having mindless sex with strangers. Who the Hell knows these days HIV, HEP and other fun things. I don't look at myself has being any better than other Doms. Well, save the ones that really are abusive or narcissistic. Do I myself have an EGO at times, you betcha I do. An Ego is not really a bad thing to have, but it's something to keep in check as well. I don't feel I need to go out and get laid over and over again to feed my EGO and somehow inflat my own image. Can I get laid, oh hell yes! I guess this fact alone feeds my Ego a little, but really it's not worth feeding my Ego at other peoples exspense. Well almost true, there are times when I feel good about putting some asshole or bitch back in their place. There are times when I feel good about putting people that try using me back in their place. Recently I caught somebody that Lied to me so much, that it reached a point where I had enough. I snapped and ended up putting them back in their place. I had a little bit of a Ego about it when I did it, however I really found no enjoyment in doing so. I just know that if I let them walk all over me without putting them in their place, I would have felt like shit about myself for not standing up for myself. Cold Day in hell, before I let people walk all over me. It only reinforces their bad behaviors and lies, while it damages my own sense of self esteem. This can be really tricky ground to work in when you're dealing with somebody you Love or care deeply about. Does this make me any more or less Dom? Mmmm... I know one thing, it makes me human.
Am I a good Dom or Bad Dom? I'm a Dom, and I'm a human being. There are good sides and bad sides about me. I'm not always right nor fully perfect since I'm a human being. OH Hell, then again who really is. I think too many people online here get wrapped up into playing a Scene or a Scene Role of Dom, sub, slave or switch. I suspect some of these Doms that can't play nice at meeting submissives online have a bitch interacting with other Dom/mes on a healthy level.
We can pick on all the meek submissives/slaves that keep telling all the Dom/mes things they think the Dom/me wants to hear. The sub/slaves that are too uncomfortable about speaking what is really on their mind. This is just as bad behavior as the Dom/mes trying to Boss or be pushy online when trying to get to know a prospective sub/slave. Again, I think too many people get caught up in feeling they have to act out an online role over simply being an Honest Human being first and foremost.
If you have not figured out your value as a human being, how the Hell are you going to manage to figure out how to best be a DOM or a Sub or a Switch? Being a Dom is not a substitute for being a human being. I actually believe some people gave up on trying to be a human and are trying to wear the mask of being a DOM or a Sub or a Switch.
Whoever I'm in a relationship with I want to know they are a human being, even if they end up becoming my foot stool or something. For my next relationship I don't know if she's going to be a sub,slave,Domme or switch even. I know it would not make me any less Dom being with a Domme as opposed to a Slave. Do I require a slave to make me feel more Dom, not really. Actually a Dom/Domme think tank can be an Awesome experience in a relationship. I'm not going to let me being a DOM go to my head to the Point my EGO is so damn big, that I might rule out a relationship of a life time. That would be pretty self defeating, would it not?
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