julietsierra
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Interesting responses and some were exactly as I expected. I think that many that took offense are those who have the problem. I think the best was the guy with all the hair and a nine-inch cock. I guess what his idea of being a man is stuck between his legs. Seems Dan White is right, you can’t fix stupid. For you boys that missed the point, it is about lying and the repercussions from doing so. Controlling physically is easy but capturing the mind and heard is a much more challenging and you don’t do so with bullshit. Integrity is a word some of you need to look up, then see if that there is any way you could possibly apply it to your life. The flaming is amusing and merely proves how insecure some little boys are. The flamers are not the least bit interesting because that is the only weapon they have in their arsenal. They haven’t learned that when you live in a glass house you shouldn’t throw rocks.
Trolling now that is interesting. If challenging someone to think is trolling then I suppose I’m guilty. Our lifestyle is one that should require exceptional communication skills, and the foundation of quality communications is honesty. A truly dominant man is very secure in himself and has no need to portray himself in a false light. Most doms want respect, some demand it, but why would you demand something you don’t deserve. If you are a liar and fuck with people minds what makes you think you deserve any respect at all. True respect is earned not given because someone demands it. I have more tolerance for a sub that is a liar, they can be trained to be honest. How could you discipline a sub for the same character flaw that you have, isn’t that hypocrisy? I have a question for those of you the didn’t like my post. What do you have to lose by being honest? I certainly don’t consider myself an authority, just someone with a point of view. I’ve been in the lifestyle for over thirty-five years and continue to learn all the time. However the more I learn the more I realize there is still much more to learn.
*swoons and sidles up next to the dom..."ooh, save me! Save me!"* (not)
Wait a sec...you mean that's NOT what you were trying to do?
Ok, let's see where you went wrong.
First of all, someone that can't respect someone else is really not very attractive at all. A dominant expecting respect from the submissive in his life, at the very least, should not be belittling someone else just because he can. It's a class thing I suppose. I expect the dominant in my life to have some (a lot) of class. Calling other dominants "little boys" and all that because you're angry seems... well... tacky to say the least.
Second, you are correct when you say that capturing someone physically is easy but capturing their minds is more difficult. However, a dominant who attempts to capture minds by insulting is doing more to repel than to capture. Remember what your grandma said, "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar." It's a good lesson.
Third, I think you would have made people actually think about the damage done by liars out there (as if we didn't know) by preparing and submitting a succinct post that dealt with the problem on an entirely unemotional plane. When dealing with an emotional issue unemotionally, the impact is there without arousing everyone's ire against HOW you said what you said.
Fourth, I believe there might just be a lot of hurt submissives out there who, on some level agree with you, except for one thing. I think you'll find (or already should have found if you've been around as long as you say you have) that we submissives are big girls - grown women even. We don't need saving. There are many who like to make men think they do, but on the whole, we don't need saving. Presuming we do need saving is just as insulting as the names you've called the dominants, and coincidentally, the liar you're angry about.
Lessons are learned, no matter what the experience. And while in any group, there are always some who continually gravitate to those who will hurt them (I know a few people who always seem to make the wrong choices), the fact is, whether you like it or not, they will continue to do this and there's nothing you can do about it anyway. They are simply not learning the lesson of their experience. On the whole though, we're generally a pretty smart group and can handle ourselves thank you very much.
And fifth (last), It sounds as if you have been working on a relationship and some of her baggage came up and bit you. It happens. Yelling at everyone else and calling them "little boys" because you're angry says a lot more about you than it does about the generalized group you've attacked. You might want to think about that.
juliet
< Message edited by julietsierra -- 4/21/2007 3:41:58 AM >
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