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Sekhemet -> RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? (4/21/2007 8:31:41 AM)
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I popped a note in the thread before ... and wanted to elaborate for you.
I am a Dame, and My long standing slave of 10 years, came to Me a virgin and remains a virgin to this day, so as it has been said - it IS possible, can be found and does happen. When I met slave it was very clearly put to Me that it had NO INTEREST IN SEX, or being "male" ever and apparently this was THE sticking point for saris to find a suitable Owner, and it was an issue for many would be Ladies ... slave HAD to be slave, not human, not male.
I didn't have a problem with this then, and apparently I still don't now, and no saris has never been "used" by anyone else either, it is still a full virgin. I will say however as the Dominant in question it can get a little frustrating and annoying on occassion, but as Tops We're supposed to have some self-control ... so ... Life goes on - At the same time and on the other hand I would not even THINK of having a significant other with whom I was not sexually involved, so this single aspect manages to remind, show and keep the slave in line, in place, on track, it is NOT a boyfriend, it is My slave.
Also; There have been large stables in My home, on more than one occassion and even then the sex wasn't a big part of it for Me - I have this theory ... you see; it's easy to fuck one, or two, or even 3 ... but when One houses and runs a stable of 30 slaves it is simply illogical and impossible to be screwing them all - So don't get in the habit! It's a sleazy control to use anyway, and it's highly unreliable due to emotional and social conflicts of interest.
Personally I'm just not up for the reputation, the issues, the dramas, the health concerns, the effort, the amount of time, the finanical costs, or the energy doing something like that would result in, never mind the emotional strain!
Now, the Master I mentioned earlier ... oddly ... is My Mate. He too is of this "it's just not worth it" mentallity. For Him initially it will be a matter of comfort, of class, and of delineation as well. In time it will become and issue of morality, of continued delineation and of position. NOW ... in the past when the large stables were doing, My answer to those who were sexually inclined was to open the stable doors, take off the chastity belts and allow for a free for all when and where it was called for. My job? Someone has to oversee the proceedings and make sure whatever rules may be in place are adhered to.
We do allow for body worship, for scenes and types of play where sexual stimulation might be involved; but those are not the first or foremost ones in the bag of tricks.
One of the things you might consider in your searching is people's creativity levels and reading ability. MOST exposure comes from someone, or somewhere else. VERY few people are creative and inventive enough to think of something on their own. Instead we tend to read it, see it, hear about it - from someone or somewhere else, and take it in. Thus people with a narrow band of influence will also have a very narrow spectrum of scenes at their disposal. Those who opt to explore more, will be able to come up with far more possibilties than simple percussion and orgasm oriented sessions.
It is out there, it can be found, it is possible for both genders - But as with all things if you want it you have to find it, you have to stick to your guns about it, and when you find it - you have to chase it down and make sure ... you get it. Top or bottom, makes no difference; stick to your guns, chase it down, and get it.
XxoxX
Sorry it's so long, but ... I wanted to share that with you anyway. Hope there's some insight gained.
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