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Wickad -> RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? (5/12/2007 12:29:14 PM)
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ORIGINAL: jimbo747
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she will have a hard time finding a Dom to top her for the sake of her enjoyment only. what does it get out of it? most Doms want some form of sexual "pay back" or "thank you for your time and energy".
If not, why would they bother?
'what does it ( I assume you meant 'he') get out if it?' - If the only reason you are playing with someone is so you can have sex then you really need to take a long hard look in the mirror. Vanilla sex can be found just about anywhere and it certainly is more work for a guy to have to learn how to 'play' BDSM than to simply 'hook-up' with a vanilla chick.
My male Dominant partner does not fuck the people he plays with. He beats them, he tortures them, he scares them, and he is controlling - these are the things he gets out of playing with someone. If another male Dominant finds these types of things to be 'not enough' then I guess that is for him to take up with his play partners and does not effect how my SO plays with his 'toys' at all.
I would also like to mention that a 'relationship' does not have to be a life long, partner, romantic style relationship. It does not have to be sexual. I have a relationship with people in my family and in my extended Leather family - I am not having sex with any of these people. Just something to think on a bit.
Wickad
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