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I Was Just Browsing... - 4/21/2007 9:32:25 AM

lookinforsomeone

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And I saw that many Dommes here want to keep their subs in chastity. It made me wonder what Mistresses do for sex, do they give it up? I want to become very active in this lifestyle but I really enjoy vanilla sex and getting oral sex. Is this looked down upon by Dommes?

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RE: I Was Just Browsing... - 4/21/2007 9:37:35 AM

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And I saw that many Dommes here want to keep their slaves in chastity. It made me wonder what Mistresses do for sex, do they give it up? I want to become very active in this lifestyle but I really enjoy vanilla sex and giving oral sex. Is this looked down upon by other Dommes?

Well, I frankly don't find no sex attractive nor do I have an interest in controling a slave's sexuality when it isn't directly to me.

As for vanilla sex, I think in general women tend to approach sex more cautiously -- after all we are the ones who might get pregnant but disease should be a concern for everyone. There are lots of ways for women to enjoy sex without a man and without another person at all, too.

I never promise anyone I train that he/she will ever become my slave, training is partly to figure out if there's mutual interest and compatiblity. I never promise my slaves that they will be used for my sexual pleasure. On the other hand, even if I don't use them that way I don't limit their own self pleasure unless there is what I consider to be a very good reason.

As always this is an issue that needs to be discussed before you enter into a Ds relationship with anyone so that your expectations are in line.

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RE: I Was Just Browsing... - 4/21/2007 10:03:23 AM

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HI there,
I think nothing bad with sex, i also support chastity for some reasons. Firstly to keep the slave in loyalty when hes out for work ,secondly to remind him that he's under control anytime and anywhere. Thirdly is to control their sexual drive. It doesnt mean dommies give up sex, depending on Ladies ,the ways they enjoy are different.
Everyone loves sex, even if they 're dommies and subs. Noone'll look down on you if you love it. I often put the kep of chastity locker together with my anklet sothat he can remember he has been owned whenever he kiss my feet.

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RE: I Was Just Browsing... - 4/21/2007 10:25:26 AM

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I am an extremely sexual being. A sub must prove themselves with servitude first before more intimate acts might occur. Many don't seem to have the patience for chastity but it turns Me on to deny and control. A sexual slave is a wonderful thing but not all there is.

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RE: I Was Just Browsing... - 4/21/2007 11:35:34 AM

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Just because a sub is in chastity doesn't mean they don't get used for sex.

I used to use my former submissive all the time :) and when I was done, he was put back in the cage. He wasn't allowed to cum.

Chastity doesn't mean I deny myself :)

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RE: I Was Just Browsing... - 4/21/2007 11:47:38 AM

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Hmm....Chastity used to ensure your slave is loyal? That seems silly. I wouldn't have a slave I can't trust. Chastity for fun...denial and torment...sounds like a plan to me. Chastity because it can be humiliating? fun fun fun. Chastity because it remind the slave to whom he belongs? Absolutely. But because I don't trust him while he's at work? Never happen....don't want him if I can't trust him.

As far as my pleasure....I take my pleasure when I want it. Chastity or no....keep in mind those things are removable for a reason.

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RE: I Was Just Browsing... - 4/21/2007 7:18:22 PM

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A sub can still use his tongue while locked in a cage....

I find chastity and teasing & denial to go hand in hand. When I hear of men locking a CB-3000 on themselves and enforcing their own chastity I have to shake my head, or when they are in relationship with a disinterested woman and con her into putting him in chastity, only to watch the days roll by. The entire point of chastity, for me, is to make the man desperate to cum. That means teasing - -daily -- so that he's driven to the edge and willing to do anything. Then, the fun really begins.

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