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What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 6:57:13 AM   
KaramelGoddess


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Status: offline 		Ladies/Dominas/Mistresses,
 
When playing, what is the safeword you most commonly use?  Do you have varying degrees of safewords?
 
When I play I use "blue" as a safeword.  All play stops immediately, bondage is removed if there is any and the submissive and I have a heart to heart.. usually in each other's arms.  The subs I play with haven't had to use it much, but I always feel reassured that it is there.
 
Thanks in advance for your responses,
 
~Kara

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 7:03:44 AM   
Jasmyn


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Status: offline 		Kara, use 'Mercy' but it's use is reserved for situations that are scene specific, ie mercy during spanking, a mindfuck, cock & ball torture, a caning ... everything else ... like their hand is starting to numb from a tight bondage, or they are going to faint, etc ... then they need to tell me ...'Mistress I feel like I am going to faint'.
 
 

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 7:10:42 AM   
MiladyAngelique


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Status: offline 		my preferred one is safeword, simply because it is not commonly used in speech if they were to ask for mercy then I would slow down ask if this is what they wanted but for me to stop they need to say safeword.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 7:17:18 AM   
indybbwsubbie


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Status: offline 		This slave has not and is not granted a safe word by her Master.  Instead - since W/we have both done Martial Arts in the past - if things go beyond what the slave can no longer handle - she is allowed to tap out.  But that has only happened maybe once or twice - as this slave would never want to try to control or stifle her Master's intentions. 

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 7:31:40 AM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		When I use them I use red for stop, yellow for slow.  Standard stoplight safewords.  Boring I know but it's easy to remember.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 7:37:51 AM   
MasterNdorei


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Status: offline 		Before becomming enslaved my safeword was "safeword". i had a tendency to go really deep during heavy play, and this word was easiest to remember.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 7:39:13 AM   
LaMistressa


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Status: offline 		I use red as a safeword. I guess it's the industry standard? lol

If I haven't played with someone before and I'm using my singletails, I will also ask them on occasion to give me feedback on a 1 (easy) to 3 (unbearable) scale so I can gauge their tolerance to pain. I find it helpful.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 10:05:36 AM   
MariaB


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quote:

ORIGINAL: indybbwsubbie

This slave has not and is not granted a safe word by her Master.  Instead - since W/we have both done Martial Arts in the past - if things go beyond what the slave can no longer handle - she is allowed to tap out.  But that has only happened maybe once or twice - as this slave would never want to try to control or stifle her Master's intentions. 

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But surely thats the same as having a safe word?

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 11:52:15 AM   
LadyMarmalade1


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Status: offline 		we agreed on red to stop and yellow to slow down, but coca hasnt had to use them yet.  I admit I push his limits sometimes just to see if he will use them:)

I think the the traffic light safewords are the best, yes a bit boring, but it's too hard to remember anything more.  coca found an ad online about this, where some kids are in Eastern Europe and one finds a ProDomme and she gives him a piece of paper with the safe word written on it.  the young man, thinking he could handle it, just sticks it in his pocket without looking or asking anything about it.  She begins the session, and he quickly realizes its too much for him and pulls out the paper to say the word, but its got about 50 letters and is in another language that he cant read.  the next day his friends find him and hes covered in bruises and limping :)

Easy safewords are nice. 

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 4:06:43 PM   
undergroundsea


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ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

When I use them I use red for stop, yellow for slow.  Standard stoplight safewords.  Boring I know but it's easy to remember.


Whether I use the red, yellow, green concept has varied with whom I have played. I have not had to use a safeword and have been able to rely on body language and regular conversation.

However, I see value in the safewords. Like any other subject, there is terminology specific to the subject that quickly conveys an idea. I think safewords play that role in BDSM. And within safewords, I favor the red, yellow, green approach because it is easier to remember even in an altered state of mind, and because of its somewhat universal meaning.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 4:13:08 PM   
barefootprincess


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Status: offline 		Some of us rely strickly on a Dom/mes judgement. Not the norm, i understand but why have someone want that type of contol? Trust is a big issue with me, i imagine.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 4:46:52 PM   
flightinthenight


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Status: offline 		red stop
yellow slow down

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 4:47:27 PM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		I am not trying to be funny, but at this time my safe word is
STOP it.
It is easy to say and not hard to remember.
I am also of the camp of really NOT needing safe words.

< Message edited by MzMia -- 4/22/2007 5:20:53 PM >

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 4:53:10 PM   
MistressRouge


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Status: offline 		I never use safewords, I have never had the use for them, and My subs most definately do not request them.

However, I do use signals when My subs are mummified, total body restriction, hooded and gagged

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 5:03:38 PM   
myobedience


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With Sir, I have no need of one.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 5:20:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		I too find the stoplight system the best with a new submissive.  Although I also find little need for it.  I enjoy pushing limits and stopping just before a limit is reached.  A good reader of body language may not need safewords but it is a good fallback.  Likewise for non-verbal safewords or signals.  As the relationship deepens,  safewords may become totally unnecessary.  As is often the case, opinions will vary.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 6:01:05 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I must seem to attract the same type of submissive over and over, because the have all used "red" for stop.  Good thing about that is it is a word that a submissive can easily be reminded of when they are in deep.  (As in, what is the color of My hair.  They always have auburn for a choice of description if they are doing well.)  Yes, as was said before, industry standard I suppose.  I've never used Mercy or Stop or anything of the like, because I've been known to have some interest in fantasy/interrogation play and those type of words are often fun for the submissive to use when in their "role".  Going along the color scheme, "yellow" has just made sense as the slow down word.  Blue has been known to be used for an activity change.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 6:19:12 PM   
DommeChains


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Status: offline 		I have 1 play partner who has many years experience.  He uses Spanish conjugations to help him process the pain.  Whenever I hear him muttering in Spanish I know he is close to yellow.  When the Spanish conjugations get loud its time to crank down the intensity.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 7:39:53 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: KaramelGoddess

When playing, what is the safeword you most commonly use?  Do you have varying degrees of safewords?
~Kara


The only time I use safe words is with someone new and inexperienced. It has been my experience that most can't safe word even if they wanted to. Once they start drifting off to subspace...well it's like asking a drunk for an intelligent conversation..useless! Other times I've tried to push and find a limit. Asking every few minutes, tell me your safe word and they will, only to see a blank lost stare in their eyes a few seconds later and that sinking feeling...crap...that can't be good. Oh, they know what their safe word is...it just never occurred to them that they should actually use it.... 

I honestly find them useless except for a newbie that has not been to never, never land...aka subspace.

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RE: What is your safeword? - 4/22/2007 8:46:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DommeChains

I have 1 play partner who has many years experience.  He uses Spanish conjugations to help him process the pain.  Whenever I hear him muttering in Spanish I know he is close to yellow.  When the Spanish conjugations get loud its time to crank down the intensity.


Made me giggle..... I mutter and grit my teeth and sometimes speak in Shona just to get the pain off my mind........  one time he stopped spanking my ass and told me to speak my mind.... i told him i was...i got more swats....

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