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OedipusRexIt -> "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 7:25:53 PM)
With a nod to the posters on the writhing, gasping "intellect" thread, let me pick up on a good thought/question: In a partner, do you seek intelligence on par, higher or lower than your own? What significance do you attach to the answer?

aBondageTop -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 7:33:48 PM)
There is more than one kind of intelligence. I just seek someone intelligent enough to be interesting and interested.

N4SDChastity -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 7:35:07 PM)
I, personally, try to find partners with an equal intellect. Explaining things gets tiresome after a while. BTW, "You mean the R.O.U.S.'s? I don't think they exist..."

OedipusRexIt -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 7:36:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: N4SDChastity BTW, "You mean the R.O.U.S.'s? I don't think they exist..." "Inconceivable!"

moki1984 -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 7:37:35 PM)
I like people that challenge me..motivate me to do more and become more... therefor if someone is less inteligent than I..well that just wont work. It is nothing against them personally, but that relationship would not be a great one with me. My lvl...great...higher than me, even better because I will only strive to match that and improve...

haysup -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 7:42:19 PM)
Comparable intelligence is such a prerequisite I honestly let it go unspoken a lot of the time.

LadyPact -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 7:47:40 PM)
I feel a bit more comfortable answering this question, rather than the former. Comparable intelligence is a much better mindset for Me to deal with. The other thread got too tangled in the "education vrs. intelligence" idea that I didn't see as equal. There were a lot of connotations that weren't especially signifigant as the thread went forward. Having said that, let Me express My particular view on the core issue. Thankfully, to date, I have never considered any of My subs as having a lack of intelligence. They have differed on strengths and weaknesses in different areas, but I have absolutely never considered any of them "stupid". I'm reminded of that old exchange from the movie "The Breakfast Club". (I hope I quote this right.) "Without physics, there would be no math." "Without lamps, there would be no light." If you haven't seen/don't remember the movie, it means that people have different abilities. To Me, that means that intelligence comes in different forms. Different aptitudes for different areas. Someone who is a genius might not be able to construct a lamp. Someone who can constuct the lamp, might not understand how it works. It doesn't make one better than the other. It just makes the abilities different. Considering that I do not know everything, and there are many areas that I also have weaknesses in, who is to say that I might not be fascinated with the ability to explain physics? Or to create a lamp? I believe it is relative to the person. Not what they know, or don't know..... but where they start and how they wish to learn.

topcat -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 7:48:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OedipusRexIt quote: ORIGINAL: N4SDChastity BTW, "You mean the R.O.U.S.'s? I don't think they exist..." "Inconceivable!" joo keep using det word...

RedheadGirlNY -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 7:50:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OedipusRexIt With a nod to the posters on the writhing, gasping "intellect" thread, let me pick up on a good thought/question: In a partner, do you seek intelligence on par, higher or lower than your own? What significance do you attach to the answer? Rather than on par, higher or lower, I'd prefer d.) all of the above. In just the right areas, combinations and permutations. As a matter of fact, I'd also like him to be rather local. A partner who suited me would have talents that exceed mine in some areas while mine would be superior in other complementary areas (really, finding a 'dominant' partner who is more than ok with my strengths, well, that's the rub....) would be ideal. For example, I know that my spatial intelligence is sub-standard (pun fully-intended) and finding that partner who can take my words for redesigning my diningroom/livingroom into a workable plan would be ideal. This fantasy partner would somehow find my ability to find and interpret data, information and research to be, er.....endearing. Ok, fantasy minutes for the week are over. red ("INCONCEIVABLE! You keep using that word. I do no think it means what you think it means." )

spanklette -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 7:51:49 PM)
I, generally, gravitate towards people who know more about a particular subject at parties or discussions, and that sort of thing. One of the things I find the most attractive about my Daddy is that, while He is already intelligent, He's always improving His knowledge. He's inspires me to learn more with His constant knowledge of arcane history and the like. But, in relationships...I look more for wisdom than intelligence. Luckily enough I found someone with both, in spades.

Stazia -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 8:09:40 PM)
If someone is of less intelligence than myself i find it a major turn off. i want whoever my dom is to be stronger than me in most areas. that is what makes me want to submit to someone. if he isnt stronger than me i will just write him off. (LIAR LIAR LIAR!!! Get back witch! I am not a witch I am your wife!!!)

OedipusRexIt -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 8:18:37 PM)
When I start a thread, I try not to overlay my own opinion too early, so I'll say this for now: I can make a case for all three situations...

RedheadGirlNY -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 8:24:06 PM)
"What significance do you attach to the answer? " Oops....forgot this part. Complementary intelligences and compatible value systems make for a good foundation. A good friend calls it "ethical commonality." Like common sense, it's not common. red (Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam... And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva... )

Valentyne -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 8:27:32 PM)
I prefer to be with someone with only slightly less intelligence than myself... that way my delusion that I am the smartest person in the world is not threatened, but I still don't have to lead a blubbering idiot around... "there is a shortage of perfect breasts in the world, it would be a shame to waste yours"

empresschaos -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 8:30:14 PM)
I tend to find myself with people who have one particular kind of intelligence, but when it comes down to it, they aren't the well-rounded sort of Mensa-sexy I wish I could find. Lucky duck, Spanklette. :) And of course it takes all types, but I once dated someone who, I rationalized, could fix cars like craaaaaaaazy. And I couldn't do that. But when it comes down to it, I'll pay someone to change my oil, but I can't hire someone to talk literature and politics at supper.

Asraii -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 8:35:53 PM)
I seek conversation with those who are capable of holding their end of a conversation; no matter the topic. Intelligence itself has little or no influence as long as the other person is interesting.

MySweetSubmssive -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 8:42:01 PM)
I purr for intellect, but I want emotional intelligence even more. It's not a quality you can look for, but something that is revealed over time. What I really want is kindness, consistency and receptivity -- qualities related to emotional intelligence. In that regard, my partners have had this in greater quantity than myself. My best friend has a similiar intelligence to myself, and I think he is polymorphously fertile -- he's more intelligent than I am. My partners tend to have a complementary intelligence. I do well with men who are a bit drier than myself and more dispassionate. Upon reflection, they've been intelligent, but not as intelligent as myself (though I always think it sounds like hubris to say so). MSS Aaaaaaaaaaas yooooooooooooou wiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiish !!!!!!

minnetar -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 8:57:51 PM)
i would say that i have a preference for someone who is more intelligent than myself. minnetar

juliaoceania -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 9:28:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OedipusRexIt With a nod to the posters on the writhing, gasping "intellect" thread, let me pick up on a good thought/question: In a partner, do you seek intelligence on par, higher or lower than your own? What significance do you attach to the answer? I prefer someone on par. I would not want to bore him, and if he could not keep up with me I would be bored. I feel I am well matched with the person I am with. He is smarter about some things, and I have my areas where I excel. I prize wisdom above intellect... and I do not see them as being the same thing either.

Jevousadore -> RE: "Comparable intelligence" (4/22/2007 9:33:50 PM)
Hello, OedipusRexIt..... I would need someone equal to or of greater intellect, tied in with wit and a sense of humor. Someone who appreciates my strengths within the same, and would love to guide and teach me in my areas of weakness. Lesser intelligence, to me, does not mean knowing less than me in any given area. What I have learned and experienced will not be the same as another. Rather it is the ability to learn and communicate, to reasonably debate your beliefs, to be able to give facts or relay experiences to back your statements, and to be prepared to be proven wrong and learn from it. Otherwise, there is never any growth. Oh, and someone who will laugh, shake his head, and understand me when I say "I need the thingamajig for the watchamacallit". That's right up there. jevousadore

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