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RE: Talking - 4/25/2007 1:57:43 PM

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i agree on the domly utterances

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RE: Talking - 4/25/2007 2:10:57 PM

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Greetings kaie,

I generally will answer during scenes but it's mostly reactive auto pilot with fragmented sentences to a question being asked.

I don't actually remember a lot what is said on either part, but undoubtedly I am responsive.

I do remember once yelling Chicago is a state..so I may answer, but I can't promise you it will be the right answers ..have no clue why Chicago came up because I live in the Carolinas...I must have been flying over it (smile)..

Now there is another primal language and it's called screams....but that's another story too.

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RE: Talking - 4/25/2007 3:28:32 PM

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The basic rule is that unless he states otherwise, I am not to speak unless spoken to. I can moan, scream, whatever, but words aren't allowed. Spontaneous outbursts such as "you sick bastard!" are dealt with according to his mood. Sometimes he laughs, sometimes it's good information, and well, sometimes it's not me being a good slut.

We have the nights when he asks endless questions, and I really get to the point where I think I'm going to lose my mind if he asks another. I told him how much it drove me crazy, and he just smiled and said he knew. He also said that I was only flying with clearance from him, so apparently it's totally intentional.

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RE: Talking - 4/26/2007 12:52:00 AM

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Just curious after reading this threadthis morning and then posting myself. It seems as though the majority like quiet during a scene.....

When i was a pro Domme, prior to being a slave, after having been in an on again off again relationship with a newbie Dom, i would always talk to the submissive during play. Not in a questioning kind of way, but in a "get into their head" kind of way. They told me that the way i did things was unique to them and they were always appreciative of my "style". The way i did things was directly because it was what had worked like a charm for me in the past and helped me go into subspace and then after getting such a great response it became my way.

Okay, after saying all of that, what's been running around in my head is is it just customary for a Dom/me to be quiet during a scene/play? Do most "s" types (gawd i hate to generalize but it seems so far, by this thread, the norm) prefer or need quiet to go deeper into space?

i have been so reluctant to say anything to my Daddy about it because i felt like i'd be topping from the bottom or make him feel like i was critiquing him...i really don't intend to do either, but i do need to address it and after reading this thread it has helped me, maybe, understand why he is quiet during play.

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RE: Talking - 4/26/2007 5:52:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: charismagirrl
Okay, after saying all of that, what's been running around in my head is is it just customary for a Dom/me to be quiet during a scene/play? Do most "s" types (gawd i hate to generalize but it seems so far, by this thread, the norm) prefer or need quiet to go deeper into space?

It's not so much about the quiet as much as saying the right thing at the right time. When he's chatty, it's generally because he wants me "there" for whatever he's doing. There are times he just leans over and whispers a nasty little one liner in my ear, and I'm gone instantly. But generally, I seriously don't like it when he's chatty and wants me talking back.

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RE: Talking - 4/26/2007 7:38:51 AM

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One of our rules is I have got to be making noise....not faking it, not reciting french verb conjugations....but any sort of indication of pleasure or pain. If Im quiet, he'll ask where my headspace is, if he doesnt get an answer he'll stop and see if im quiet from pleasure, pain, or boredom.

I once got a talking-to for not mentioning that what we were doing wasnt quite doing it for me. I figured if He was enjoying it, what the hell. Apparently it doesnt work that way, for us. *chuckles*

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RE: Talking - 4/26/2007 8:12:12 PM

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I don't really scene separate from having sex. For me it is all sex. We talk all the time. To each other. Feedback about how we are responding. Egging each other on. Weaving fantasies together. Moans of pleasure and cries of more Daddy, harder Daddy, and the like. We like that a lot. We don't do gags or blindfolds or restraints. It is part of our ongoing dance.

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RE: Talking - 4/29/2007 11:41:04 AM

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I, personally, love to hear my lover. Whether they are talking, laughing, begging, commanding, or just worshipping the Lord, I love it all.

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RE: Talking - 5/1/2007 7:33:56 PM

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During a scene, there are two things i like to hear. First its Master's voice and the sound of the flogger on my skin

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RE: Talking - 5/1/2007 7:48:59 PM

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I absolutely adore to hear Him talking to me during a scene...I just hate to answer. He ask questions in the beginning of a scene, mostly during the binding portion. Is this or that too tight, too loose? That sort of thing is par for the course.

Generally, though, once we're starting to reach our respective head spaces...there is much less talking. He will from time to time make me look Him in the eyes to check how I'm faring...but for the most part, silence is golden.

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RE: Talking - 5/2/2007 10:32:58 AM

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I usually don't talk during any scening unless I'm asked a question, or I really need to get something across, or if I need to let her know I'm alright when she can't see my face. I'm sort of shy that way, I guess...but I prefer that she do any talking she wants to do/feels necessary.

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RE: Talking - 5/2/2007 9:38:32 PM

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It would depend on the play, during play I am encouraged to react naturally weither it's to scream, cry, swear, fight back.

Being spoken to while being played is a big part of the scene, of sharing. Words are incredibly powerful and can build you up when you are at the most vunerable state.

I bottomed to a Domme once who did not like to talk or be spoken to and it took something away from the play, I found I spent more time craving to hear a voice, anyones voice,that I missed out on alot of the experience of the scene( it was wax/mild mummification with saran wrap to a table )

I'm a very chatty person naturally and it carries through.

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RE: Talking - 5/2/2007 9:56:35 PM

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greetings kaie,
i guess it depends on who is doing the talking and what kind of scene it is.
There were moments where "dirty talk" can enhance the scene. Silence and the standing order of not to speak make a sound, or utter anything at Masters whim was also fun.
At parties or public play events, sometimes its difficult to drown down the idle chatter among guests and passerbys.
Remember one time this one was tied down to a table being tortured and teased by her Master, a man's cell phone rings, and he loudly answers it talking about how when he gets out of here he wants to order chinese food. (talk about horrible scene ettiquette)
Personally a girl feels there are ups and downs to a scene where it is intense and then eases a bit, there are times for talking and reflecting, and for those like her who can have a scene that lasts 4 or 5 hours possibly longer then yes, talking will occur.

Music definately ads a dynamic to a scene, she has a collection of new age, instrumental and depending on mood even something like rob zombie, pink floyd, peter gabriel, mozart, heavy metal can all add to it.

she is guilty of talking to much, but hope some of this offers some help.
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RE: Talking - 5/3/2007 4:27:06 PM

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My Sir and i like to talk to each other (in short fragments) in Japanese. Simple things like "watashino" (mine), "anatano" (Yours), or simple commands. It's very hot to us, though it gets funny looks when we play in public. :)

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RE: Talking - 5/4/2007 7:20:21 PM

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For me to get in the right headspace, music is good - talking is bad. Well, I should qualify that by saying, talking that requires an answer from me is bad. Sometimes He talks to me just to keep me on edge, making me yearn for that headspace.

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RE: Talking - 5/10/2007 8:26:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: denika

Being spoken to while being played is a big part of the scene, of sharing. Words are incredibly powerful and can build you up when you are at the most vunerable state.

You are an excellent example of a person that turns words into visual within your mind. If a Top understand this about their bottom.. it would be foolish not to use this to increase the enjoyment for both in the play.

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