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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 4:55:34 PM

Suleiman

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Yes, but not so many as from guys, many of whom seem very hopeful that my wife is actively looking, despite what my profile says. I think their brains go fuzzy half a sentence into the gurdjieff quote at the top of the page, and everything after that is a blur.

It is to be noted that this is the other half of the "no one reads my email" thread which also comes up a lot. The two do seem to be rather synergystically inter-twined. Women get hundreds of Emails per day from various guys. They don't have enough time or attention span to read them, much les reply to each and every one, so most get deleted unread. This makes the guys - already stupid from the vital brain-juices being siphoned off as life support for the little head - bitter and desperate, so they resort to shorter messages, stupid form letters, and one-liners. As the brain-juices are sucked up by the mighty throbbing man-brain, eventually all language skill and cognitive function is lost, and the poor drooling imbecile is unable to do anything more than insert a smiley and click send. This enrages the women, who are already sick of having so much email, and they start filtering everyone, which just speeds up the cycle.

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 5:02:12 PM

daddysliloneds

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Male Doms/submissives, have you had emails from women who obviously hadn't read your profile?

yes, but the newest trick was just sent to me today...

an e-mail from a dom going on and on about his honesty, yet when i read his profile, he had a whole paragraph in it that he cut and pasted directly from my profile; jeezzzzzzz, some people!

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 5:15:11 PM

Satyr6406

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Ya know ... I can honestly say that I have never been guilty of this (on this site). I am a voracious profile reader. There are profiles where the message isn't entirely clear. I know that I have been the recipient of MANY "hey, I'm interested" e-mails from people that haven't read my profile; from both males and females.

I have flirted with the idea of putting something REALLY nonesensical in my profile to see who's really paying attention but snork dot effin siky ignoberhand.

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 6:05:01 PM

petdave

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ORIGINAL: Trampler

*This has probably been posted at least a million times before, and it kinda generalizes, but I just want to rant.*

Twenty-eight million, actually, although only 27,400,112 of them are complaining about submissive men

i'm telling ya- overweight, married submissive male profiles are the way to go. Even the Nigerians leave me alone!

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 6:24:33 PM

BlackWomanSubNJ

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That's annoying. So are the emails from people that your profile specifically bans. For the life of me I don't get it.

If I say black men only, why do white guys contact me? If I say Doms only, why do sub men contact me? Don't they know how absolutely distasteful it is for a sub to be asked to be a domme to a man? YUCK!

If I say local only, who do people across the country and the world contact me? It's just one of life's great mysteries.

So are the emails that only say "Damn" or "I like what I see" or "hi" or my absolute favorite "how are you." My response depends on my mood. I can see it's never going to change.

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 6:26:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: Trampler

i'm telling ya- overweight, married submissive male profiles are the way to go. Even the Nigerians leave me alone!

LMAO

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 6:42:07 PM

Viciousbabe

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Honestly, that is why i took down my pictures. i had too many "Wow you're hot" comments. This i know, what i want to know is more about the person and if they are in fact literate.

When a Dom sends me an email only about himself, i tend to hit delete. maybe it's me being in college and all, but i'd rather have the work of reading the profile and have them say some thing to catch my attention specifically.

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 7:09:16 PM

petdave

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ORIGINAL: Viciousbabe

Honestly, that is why i took down my pictures. i had too many "Wow you're hot" comments.

Boy, that must really suck. If you send me some naked pics of yourself, i'd be happy to provide a comprehensive criticism, and even include some speculative insults of your lineage and personality, free of charge.

Service Subs- whenever a woman is in need, we're there!

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 7:19:06 PM

imthatacheyouhav

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i had too many "Wow you're hot" comments.

oh yes....i am familiar with this problem. .

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 7:29:09 PM

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Note to self: Develop a snazzy, one-line (or less) form-letter to send out to potential subbies

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 8:11:18 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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If you are used to such and have dealt with it in past with no angst ...then I am thinking there is something going on in your personal life that is making what once was a non issue to one that ticks you off..So hence I say look to your life, and see what is the "real" problem...Tempting

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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 8:22:21 PM

Smythe

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ORIGINAL: imthatacheyouhav

Hello, i can fully appreciate your frustration. my profile CLEARLY states i am owned and the e-mails are still rediculous. i just forward them to my Master and He deals with them...

Now that's what I call a well trained master :)
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RE: reading profiles - 4/24/2007 10:04:34 PM

littlesarbonn

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: szobras

Male Doms/submissives, have you had emails from women who obviously hadn't read your profile?
Sure, though they are easily decernable from those that have, and dealt with appropriately. Depends on the content. For me it is not a big issue.

I've been guilty of this. If I read something on a post that I would like to comment on to that person, I will email them. It doesn't require Me reading their profile to do so. It might just be a particular thing that I found interesting or funny, or anything other than the "I'm interested in you" kind of thing.

If I find the person interesting, I will read the profile.

I used to get a lot of email this way, and why would I ever mind something like that? Recently, I removed my profile, but people still contact me through my blog, and that's fine, too.

I used to contact people about their posts, but for the most part, very few ever actually responded to me, which kind of gave me the impression that either they just didn't care or their blocked email features are so discriminating that nothing would get through anyway. So, I just made a note to myself not to comment to that person anymore because that person doesn't seem to care. Not a big deal for me.

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RE: reading profiles - 4/25/2007 8:03:40 AM

Trampler

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It's always bothered me to an extent. I guess the frustration is stemming from having trouble finding not only people that I want to play with, but also those that I would want to consider having a relationship with. For me, I cannot play with someone that I don't have some kind of connection to. Usually a sexual connection, but would play with someone that I have an emotional connection to. Don't know why, but it just doesn't work. And I have been in the same boat, sending out alot of emails, (and yes some of them do sound alike, so I try to change them by adding details that show that I have read their profile.) and only getting 1-3 replies back. And like I said in my OP that this was just a rant, and that I wanted stories,comments and opinions of other people. Once I got done ranting I felt better

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RE: reading profiles - 4/25/2007 2:00:58 PM

Nogimmicks

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In my experience, most of the emails I get from women (where they initiate the conversation) are pretty good and well thought out. I chalk that up to the fact that my profile has no picture, they have to rely entirely on what is written, those that don't read the profile would have no interest in me at all. That is not to say that if I posted my picture I would get rave emails from thousands of shallow women all dreaming of an opportunity to get to know me for my boyish good looks and powerful features. Actually, come to think of it, it probably wouldn't change much, my brain is probably my best quality; although I have been told I have nice teeth (comes from drinking a lot of milk as a child).

As for the one-liners, I have a rant in the opposite direction. When I run across a profile of someone who might appeal to me for various and sundry reasons, I tend to write a long and well thought out introduction, offering questions about things on her profile and establishing multiple "catch points" from which a discussion can begin. As often as not, the email is deleted unread. Frequently it is read and simply unresponded to. To my mind, if someone takes the time to send you an email, they ought to get some sort of response, even if it is "sorry, not interested". Unfortunately, given that there are so many men sending out "trollers", women frequently find their boxes completely cloggeed with email that they never even really get a chance to read. I don't really blame them, but it is still annoying.

Even more annoying, I frequently get back unresponsive gibberish like "I like your profile, let's chat sometime". I sent an introduction, not a chat invitation, if I want to chat I will let you know. What I want is to see if my efforts are worth reciprocation.

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RE: reading profiles - 4/25/2007 2:06:52 PM

LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: szobras

Male Doms/submissives, have you had emails from women who obviously hadn't read your profile?
Sure, though they are easily decernable from those that have, and dealt with appropriately. Depends on the content. For me it is not a big issue.

I've been guilty of this. If I read something on a post that I would like to comment on to that person, I will email them. It doesn't require Me reading their profile to do so. It might just be a particular thing that I found interesting or funny, or anything other than the "I'm interested in you" kind of thing.

If I find the person interesting, I will read the profile.

I used to get a lot of email this way, and why would I ever mind something like that? Recently, I removed my profile, but people still contact me through my blog, and that's fine, too.

I used to contact people about their posts, but for the most part, very few ever actually responded to me, which kind of gave me the impression that either they just didn't care or their blocked email features are so discriminating that nothing would get through anyway. So, I just made a note to myself not to comment to that person anymore because that person doesn't seem to care. Not a big deal for me.

(Somewhat inadvertant hijacking here.)

Funny you mentioned it, because I was going to write you an email regarding another post you recently made. Now THERE'S anticipatory for you!

Actually, I haven't had that issue when emailing about particular posts written. Could be the type of posts/posters that generally make Me want to send the original email in the first place. I generally find them pretty responsive, and I tend to think it's because of the topic that started the whole thing. It's even better when it gives the opportunity to go a bit deeper than what might have been said for general public view.

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RE: reading profiles - 5/30/2007 9:50:01 PM

Trampler

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Actually I like emails from people who want to comment on something I said in the forums. Sometimes I will do the same. Though I usually read their profile and anything else they have on there. <grinz>

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RE: reading profiles - 5/31/2007 9:00:41 AM

slaverosebeauty

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You must have missed my profile on here the last few years, I was VERY specific 'no one or two liners,' 'no form emails,' 'no poly,' etc, my own preferances as well as a very exact profile as to who I am and whom I was seeking at the time, yet I STILL got emails from people who had NOT read my profile then got pissed when I called them a 'troll.' I call'em like I see'em. I also set my settings so that anyone under a certain age, over a certain age, couples, etc would go into my bulk mail, which I only checked once a week or so; people got pissed when I didn't respond to their email in a few hours. Oh well.

I think most people just don't care and they are so lazy that they will email any and every one. Heck, just last week I got 2 back to bakc emails form someone saying how it was a 'shame' that a slave like me was still 'free and uncollared.' In the next email he 'congratulated' me on having a mistress. I was in such shock, I asked 5 or 6 friends to look at my page, I thought I had missed something {friends confirmed nothing was posted anywhere about a mistress}. I emailed the troll back and NEVER heard from him again.

My bottom line, people are lazy and don't put effort into reading; I can't count how many people I delete in a week on myspace because they dont put a subject in the subject line, my page says 'no subject in the subject line = deleted unopnened.' Just like on here 'only here for furms and to meet and keep in contact with friends' OBVIOUSLY (sp?) means 'hit on me.. please..I beg you' {rolls eyes}

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RE: reading profiles - 5/31/2007 9:37:49 AM

lovewithoutfear

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Suleiman, Satyr, and petdave, thank you for your humorous takes on this thread! You guys have me laughing!

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RE: reading profiles - 5/31/2007 9:44:28 AM

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Why don't people let threads die like aging relatives?

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