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RE: reading profiles - 6/1/2007 4:59:18 PM

stella40

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Czasami wydaje mi się, że większość osób, którzy czytają profilów oraz postingów znajdujących się na stronie Collarme po prostu mają kłopoty ze zrozumieniem się w języku angielskim.

Mnie się wydaje również, że strasznie dużo Amerykanie i Brytyjczycy gdy czytają profilu lub postingu w języku angielskim tak bardzo się męczą tak jak Wy teraz czytając tego postingu, że wysiłek sam wyklucza jakiegokolwiek zrozumienie tekstu przed sobą. Czasami ciekawa jestem czy, w przypadku odpiszę własnego profilu w języku polskim, bym dostała również message'ów od osób, którzych w ogóle się nie czują bluesa.

However I will translate.

Sometimes I think that many people reading profiles and postings have problems with understanding English.

I also think that many of these are Americans or Brits who when reading a profile have to make so much effort just like you did at the start of this posting that any comprehension of what is written is lost. Sometimes I wonder if I rewrote my profile in Polish (the language above) would I still get messages from clueless people in English.

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RE: reading profiles - 6/2/2007 2:00:44 AM

LadyPaige

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I don't answer all the one-liners either, but I do answer any e-mails that actually show a little thougt. The only two e-mails that really got to me were when I responded to a couple men in other states (my profile clearly states that I'm looking for someone local) with a very polite "Thank you for your interest, but I'm looking for someone local." and I got a "Well then Kiss My Ass." from one and a "You're narrow minded, judgemental, rude, etc....." from the other. By the way, In my quite I improved on the grammar of the second and he stated that he was a "writer". I have to admit that I did respond to him with a judgemental observation AND a rude observation before blocking him.

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RE: reading profiles - 6/2/2007 2:27:51 AM

LadyDominaX

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Why don't people let threads die like aging relatives?

Maybe the thread would die if the behaviour stopped. As it stands, whenever there are people firing off two or more form letters to the same recipient within a short period of time, and not bothering to read the profile at all first, the people on the receiving end are going to get grumpy and want to vent. Human nature, nothing but.

In all honesty I am tempted to take my profile down and start again with the screen name "Read-the-bloody-profile!"

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RE: reading profiles - 6/3/2007 3:54:20 AM

MasterBRD

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I couldnt help but comment when I saw your mention of the "shotgun" method some men use.It appears that some men send messages to anyone whose name shows up in pink. I own two slaves, each of whom has a profile here on CollarMe. Each profile clearly states that they are indeed owned. My alpha's profile even has "owned" in the name, yet both my girls still get messages from idiots who clearly don't read profiles. That just hit the "block" button out of reflex now.

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RE: reading profiles - 6/3/2007 7:52:29 AM

ayip

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The timing of this thread is amazing. Or maybe this is a thread that keeps popping up? I'm new on Collarme so I've no idea which is more accurate.

Late yesterday I signed on with Collarme and created my profile. In it I addressed my one major pet peeve. Crucified net speak. Example: How r u?

Within half an hour I had a dozen messages in my mail. With baited breath and thinking I must have written a profile that was a complete wowzer I opened my mail to find repeatedly.. How r u? Or it's net speak equal. Arrggh.

One however didn't and that was the one in the bunch I responded to. It appeared from the content of the message the author had actually taken a moment to read my brief profile. I was impressed !!!! Isn't that a sad comment? One in twelve and I was.. impressed. Not such good odds I'd say.
In my assumption that person had read my profile I made the offhanded comment.. You can read as well as write. Refreshing. And an offhand reference to "How r u?" It was actually a compliment. The message was signed.. John. So I began my reply with Hello John, as would be typical. I think.

Damn if that didn't backfire !!

I get back a response stating that person isn't John but if he were he wouldn't have appreciated my sarcasm, etc. The etc. was more than a bit rude to say the least and ended with basically a correction on How r u? It's How are you? Oh Lordy....

I've still not figured out who John is since John isn't John although the non-John signed himself as.. John ! I even went back to double check and sure enough.. there it was.. John !
Arrgghhhhhhhhhhhhhh.. again.

Someone please tell me I've just gotten off to a bad start and this isn't what I have to look forward to for all my remaining days on Collarme?

Have a great day !!

ayip

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RE: reading profiles - 6/3/2007 8:05:10 AM

RaynaSub

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Most of the men here do not read profiles.
That has been my experience, I just delete most of them
and keep going.
I don't think you can force anyone to read your profile online,
but you can chose not to read it, respond to it and delete it.

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RE: reading profiles - 6/3/2007 8:08:26 AM

SirDominic

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ayip,
You've just gotten off to a bad start and this isn't what you have to look forward to for all your remaining days on Collarme.

Of course, that is a complete lie, but you did ask for someone to please tell you this. In truth the reality is that you will continue to get a great many emails just like the ones you had. Does the phrase "kissing a lot of frogs before you find your prince" ring a bell? That is nowhere so true as it is on (any) internet dating site.

But, you know, you could just take a very Zen approach. How will you appreciate a really good one when it comes along, if you don't have all those horribly bad ones to compare it to?

Namaste, Sir Dominic

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RE: reading profiles - 6/3/2007 8:18:07 AM

BBBTBW

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I've been guilty of this. If I read something on a post that I would like to comment on to that person, I will email them. It doesn't require Me reading their profile to do so. It might just be a particular thing that I found interesting or funny, or anything other than the "I'm interested in you" kind of thing.

If I find the person interesting, I will read the profile.

This type of mail is acceptable. However, when it is someone obviously wanting something from you and they don't bother to find out who you are and what you are about, it can be irritating. I get a lot of the latter; one liners and chat invites from those that just don't bother. Then they want to write you nasty letters about ignoring them.

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RE: reading profiles - 6/3/2007 8:22:24 AM

Faramir

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The majority of emails I get, aside from regular correspondents here, are very kind, sincere compliments on my profile, on how it spoke to them in some way. I think the women who write to me have universally read my profile with care and attention.

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RE: reading profiles - 6/3/2007 8:48:37 AM

MasterBRD

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Its not just men...but men do seem to transgress more often than women. I personally have gotten so tired of messages from people that have not read my profile that I click "Who's Viewing Me" prior to opening the message. If they can't take a moment or two for at least a brief glance, then I probably don't want to hear what they have to say.

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RE: reading profiles - 6/3/2007 11:42:28 AM

ayip

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Hello SirDominic,

Somehow I had a sneaking suspiscion that was the case. You're exactly right.. I did ask to be lied to.
I feel much better now. Thank you.
My own stupidity so any sarcasm found in that comment is directed to myself.
Funny thing about toads. I've kissed a few, dated a few and, to my chagrin, been one myself and soon realized it doesn't pay to ribbit.
A Zen approach. Good idea but no promises I'll see each message to it's ultimate end !!

Thank you again,

ayip

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