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ORIGINAL: bowandserve

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ORIGINAL: BeautifulRacket

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Demanding anything--especially a phone call or meeting--will also weed out women like me. I usually will not allow someone from online to get my phone number until right before a meeting, or after a meet has gone well. I don't want anyone who turns out to be a nutcase to have my unlisted number or harrass me. I had a close call with that last year, and have since been very careful about giving out my contact info too soon.

So, the phone call won't work for me (and I'm guessing quite a few others), but I'm more than happy to meet someone in a safe place relatively soon, or arrange for them to come to the playspace I'm a member of to meet. I doubt I'm compatible with anyone who won't take it on faith that I'm one of the reliable people who won't stand them up without a very good reason.

I agree with this. Turns me right off when someone begins to insist that I'm a fake, etc. I choose not to put my pic up. I also won't give out my number and I hate the phone - that doesn't lead to any less confusion. I offer a peak at my webcam and to meet for dinner - not a drink. That, to me, weeds out the ones that want to kick the tires, so to speak.