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RE: Objectivity - 4/26/2007 11:35:21 AM

behindmirrors

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I, personally, think that objectivity is possible, and that the emotional response someone gets from another is based on their value judgements of that person- and that those value judgements made of a potential partner are determined by the person's own moral code- i.e. their own system of values, what they consider their own worth to be, etc. I will detail this further later on.

I also think the key to this is not so much staying objective, but instead, staying rational and adhering to reason would be the better term. Objectivity requires an adherence to reason, to the ability to think and to rely on that capability. Thus, I would say that the root of objectivity is reason and rationality- and a claim that objectivity does not exist is a claim of irrationality, a claim to not consider one's self able to think.

When a person loves another, they are making a statement about their own moral code, their own sense of worth, and their philosophy of life. When you think of it in these terms, it makes perfect sense why those who have little regard for their life and little value ascribed to their own self get into relationships with those who reflect that, often leading to an even lower sense of self, due to a lack of fulfillment and a reinforcement of negative self-image. It also makes sense as to why people look for partners that embody a "higher" sense of life then themselves, and seek out those whose value judgements of their lives reflect and reinforce the positive self-image they hold. It would also be perfectly logical to determine that those who are fulfilled in a positive way by their relationships also have a high assessment of their self-worth, wheras those who are not fulfilled positively, but instead experience negative reinforcement from their relationships have a lower sense of self-worth. It can explain that "destructive cycle", if you will.

So, to explain fully what I am saying here:
A person picks a relationship partner based on their own sense of self-worth, morality, and values.
They make value judgements of those they encounter based on these things, and pick a partner who is compatible with them in an objective evaluation of these elements, be it fully conscious or not.
Emotional response to another person is a response to these moral values, sense of self-worth, and the value judgements one has made of their (potential) partner.
Objectivity is possible because being non-objective would require a deviation or exception from one's own morality. For most people, it is my thought that though many may not recognize how objective they are being, they are fully capable of this objectivity.

When we decide "yes" or "no" to a person, we are giving a judgement and/or a sanction, based on our own system of values and morality. To claim objectivity in this is impossible is to claim that one is without rationality or morality.

behindmirrors.

(in reply to dawntreader)