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RE: Any chance in hell that it could work out? - 4/27/2007 10:59:19 AM

selfbnd411

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No bulletin board is going to be able to tell you if it will work out, any more than they can tell me if I'll like olives on my pizza.

Just trust your own instincts.

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RE: Any chance in hell that it could work out? - 4/27/2007 2:12:55 PM

LadyHugs

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Dear SweetlySubmissive, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In my mind's eyes I see, that you tried your best to make absolutely sure that there was or was not a "dominant" bone in your body. Its evidently clear the male is "Topping from the bottom," to which no Dominant would touch and found someone who would enable the pleasure for him and his alone. You seemingly know this all by gut feelings but, perhaps just need second and more opinions.

Perhaps in your statement is placed the ansewer. In your posts, you have suggested bringing a Dominant in. The reply of his tells me that he isn't submissive but, a 'do me.'

I would approach this man and plainly speak up for yourself. Perhaps plainly see that you like the person but, its not a good match as both are submissive. Remaining friends is possible but, not as playmates or a relationship as a couple. Seeing that he Tops from the bottom, he will take from your spirit and not give back.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Any chance in hell that it could work out? - 4/27/2007 3:49:13 PM

Griswold

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ORIGINAL: SweetlySubmissve

Hi E/everyone.

I needed a little bit of advice and I was hoping Y/you wonderful people could help me out.

I just got involved with a very sweet and kind man and I was EXTREMLY happy when I found out that he had some "kinks" about him. I am a complete submissive, with some slave tendancies. Only problem...so is he.

He's asked me on several occacions to spank and control him. But, with me being a submissive and a massochist (I don't have a sadist bone in my body) it's hard for me to do such things, even though I have tried. When he talks to me about spanking and controling him, he gets giggly and dances a little bit. In my eyes, this is very emasculating and a complete turn-off (No offence to the sub/slave males out there, but i want the same thing that you do!) and feel as though are positions are backwards. Expecially since I've always kind of dreamed of wearing a collar and being a 24/7 submissive.

I guess what I'm asking is if A/anyone feels as though i can work through all of this with my boyfriend or if I should just cut my loses and call it quits?

Thank Y/you in advance,

-becca

How nice to be asked.

You're submissive...as I understand things...he is as well.

He wants to serve. You do as well. I think your answers are fairly clear.

Ultimately you need to find ways that he and you can serve, together...but...where he feels beholding to you (don't lose that...he wants that).

Only you can provide it.

There's a variety of ways that can be accomplished. You're welcome to contact me to discuss those possible areas. I would feel a bit awkward discussing them here....but they're plentiful.

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RE: Any chance in hell that it could work out? - 4/27/2007 4:27:44 PM

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This is my opinion but it sounds like both of you are submissive. He isn't interested in a poly relationship so i don't see a way you two could ever be happy together. i hope you stay together as friends and wish you the best!!

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