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ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne

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ORIGINAL: Unrepentant1

I am a single sub male, who quite often wonders if he is really submissive. I see many activities that make me nervous and wonder if I could do that, then think of the things I have done that I would not a year ago.
My biggest concern I feel is trusting someone enough and that I feel is the issue to my self doubt. I am not someone who can submit to anyone, in fact I doubt I could submit to many Dommes to be honest, I seek something I do not even know what myself.
Am I being to fussy or asking the impossible? I know I would travel to the ends of the earth for that special person, but I am not sure if it is me asking too much or I am not really a sub. Any genuine advice would be welcome

I've heard it's not a matter of not trusting others, but a matter of not trusting yourself to make good choices.  The more I think about this, the more I can see how this concept my have some credibilty.

We all falter from making good choices from time to time, and sometimes what we WANT isn't in our best interests, and most of the time we know this deep down but chose to ignore it in search of immediate gratification.  Anyone who says this doesn't happen to them, I'm assuming is a liar.

I think to be aware that there is always the chance to cave into our pleasure impulse, helps us to make better decisions.  As for the very least, we are being honest with ourselves and realise there may be dues to pay when we indulge.  At most, we'll try to reign in our hunger and wait for what we've probably known was best from the beginning.

LBO