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A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 5:36:42 PM   
needDomme


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Status: offline 		Do Femdommes enjoy dominating a male slave more if he is muscular and has an athletic body? I would think so, but I'd like to hear what the Femdommes have to say about this subject. Thanks.

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 5:42:00 PM   
MistressRouge


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Status: offline 		Not at all, I see beyond the outer layers, and I do mean it.

Physical appearence, is not of importance to Me.

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 5:43:36 PM   
rc4otkVA


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Status: offline 		To each her own, but I know I do. For me, the more muscular, and masculine a sub is, the more powerful it makes me feel to dominate him.

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 5:48:12 PM   
dznutzx69


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Status: offline 		I would think so too. but not too muscular. If you are obviously the one in physical control I don't think they would like that.

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 6:01:36 PM   
mp072004


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Status: offline 		I am certainly more likely to look across a crowded room and decide that I want to approach someone who is fit and well-groomed. In the unlikely situation of having two people before me who are otherwise equal in compatibility with me, but observing that one is physically attractive to me than the other, I would choose the one who is more physically attractive. Being pretty does get you "points" on my likely-to-play-with checklist. Being physically fit gets you two kinds of points for playmates. I generally think fit people are prettier than those who are "out of shape", and I like playing with prettier people, as a rule. But as importantly, physical fitness allows you to do more rigorous bondage, and often enables you to do more intense pain play--both things I enjoy. When I evaluate people for d/s relationships or service relationships, physicality isn't nearly as important as it is for playmates.

What is physically attractive to me, when I look at men? Serious bodybuilding isn't usually my thing, especially with low body fat (i.e. cut). Curves of visible musculature with some body fat over them are nicer. Care in grooming and dress is probably more important to me, and compatibility in play styles trumps both grooming and muscles, but that's not your question.

Monica

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 6:02:07 PM   
rc4otkVA


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Status: offline 		This is very true. I probably wouldn't try to domme "The GoverNator", but I am pretty ambitious.

In response to Rouge, I do take pleasure in subs of all forms, but dominating stronger men gives me an extra boost of ego.

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 6:12:09 PM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		Fox often bemoan how he's gotten fatten but gets pissed if I say that I have gotten fatter (apparently it's ok for me in his eyes or he's just bloody blind).

I actually like both him and Tom with more meat on them. Before, when I could see Fox's ribs, I worried about hurting him. I'd rather have more fat than skinny anyday because I like to play very rough at times.

Lots of muscles just turns me off because I think it looks unnatural.

Plus if he has to work out that much when will he have time for me and to take care of serving me?

I want someone comfty to hold and strong enough to pick me up at the same time.

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 6:40:40 PM   
justLady


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Status: offline 		My boy is amazing.  Agile, athletic, wiry, muscular.  I love him from his sea-blue eyes to his shapely, sculpted thighs and calves.

That said, if he gained 150 pounds and ruined his face in a sporting accident, he would still be my beautiful boy.  His personality, his obedience, his loyalty and sense of humour combine to make him the most fabulous, inspirational, incredible boy I've ever known.

I'll pass any of you a sick bucket who feel you are in need.  :-)  Truth is, love makes appearance immaterial.  As long as the freckles I adore are there on his tummy and inner right thigh, I'll know it's my boy.  And I love him.

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 6:47:52 PM   
TigressFL


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Status: offline 		I am with you on the more meat on their bones comment, TammyJo. It is really skinny that I am not attracted to primarily for the same reasons as TammyJo stated... I want the option to play rough without thinking I am going to damage them easily. I do like muscular and very masculine men (6'4 - 240lbs football player type) is oohhh so delicious to walk them on a leash considering I am 5'3 lol, it is just hot!, however, he certainly does not have to look that way to qualify. I like women to have a little meat on their bones as well for the same reason.

Tigress~FL

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 7:00:57 PM   
MiladyAngelique


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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Lots of muscles just turns me off because I think it looks unnatural.

Plus if he has to work out that much when will he have time for me and to take care of serving me?


I had a boy msg me once who said he would devote all his time to me so long as he could go to work + have 2 hours a day 3 or 4 days a week at the gym .... I turned him down... not the least because he was putting his wants in front of my needs... besides what the hell do you do at a gym for 2 hours.... I got for one and I am bored by the end lol

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I want someone comfty to hold and strong enough to pick me up at the same time.


yes exactly







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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 7:04:44 PM   
DianeB269


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Status: offline 		I like normal looking subs.


Diane

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 7:37:01 PM   
KaramelGoddess


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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

I like normal looking subs.


Diane


Define "normal"??
 
I like what mp072004 had to say about a man being well groomed.  To Me this is more important than weight/height/looks.  I am of the old school of cleanliness being next to godliness.  If a man is well-dressed, neat and appears to take pride in his carriage and his clothing, then yes please thank you very much I'll have him.  And *oo* if he has tattoos under the button down shirt...I melt.
 
The man I am seeing now is very well groomed and does the whole gym thing.  But really what I like most about him is his open mind and his sense of humor.
 
~Kara

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 8:37:44 PM   
Aneirin


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Status: offline 		We would all like to think of an ideal,but there is more to a person than looks.I understand the principles of human attraction,and true a well formed and looked after body is desireable,but there is more to a person.Sometimes compromise is the only answer.

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 9:03:50 PM   
joyinslavery


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Status: offline 		This is a very interesting thread.

I've felt for a long time that my beer-gut and (somewhat) slovenly appearance might be one of the reasons for my lack of success here and so many opting to pass on me.

After quite a bit of thought and introspection, I realized I was wrong.  



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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 10:43:16 PM   
latinafina


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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 11:30:30 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		Muscles don't overly appeal to Me, neither does skinny. Slightly plump is fine, but then, My sub side adores Master's "buddha", so I would consider someone overweight as long as they can move and I can do things to them. I don't need "drop-dead gorgeous" faces, but I might be turned off really ugly. (However, the concensus of opinions re My 2 ex-hubby's are that perhaps that particular filter doesn't work too well LOL!). Really, it's more about who they are and what they are offering than how they look.

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/27/2007 11:57:09 PM   
Aswad


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ORIGINAL: TigressFL

I want the option to play rough without thinking I am going to damage them easily.


Same here. Although I would say that muscular definitely fits the bill, as well. Muscles do a very good job of absorbing and distributing the impact of a blow, while not affecting how it impacts the skin. Fat mostly cushions the blow, which reduces the impact (force equals mass times deceleration; deceleration is velocity divided by time; cushioning extends the time, like an airbag).

When we do martial arts practice, we do a fair bit of work on the muscles, particularly the supporting muscles and the ligaments, but also the bulk musculature. The reason for this is that we go full-contact (some call it "hard contact") during practice, and when taking a blow (whether bone clusters, wood or something else delivers it) the muscles serve to prevent injury.

Of course, it does nothing to prevent half your lower arm from swelling and bruising if someone gets a decent hit in.


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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/28/2007 1:49:07 AM   
iwearpanties


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Status: offline 		im a male sub and one problem ive run into alot is the fact that im so much taller then many Mistress es/ Dommes  to me it feels there intimadated by my height  maybe becuase im thin and streched out i look so much bigger then most....and i keep getting turned down more then excepted

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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/28/2007 4:38:02 AM   
Aswad


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ORIGINAL: iwearpanties

im a male sub and one problem ive run into alot is the fact that im so much taller then many Mistress es/ Dommes  to me it feels there intimadated by my height  maybe becuase im thin and streched out i look so much bigger then most....and i keep getting turned down more then excepted


I'm about 6ft (184cm) tall, and I do get a sense that height can be intimidating to some people. These are probably not the ones you're really looking for, though, so keep trying. You might want to have a look at the "how tall do you have to be to ride" thread as well.


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RE: A Slave's Appearance - 4/28/2007 7:12:27 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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Status: offline 		My preference is for tall men (although it's not mandatory).   As far as body goes - I'm more concerned that they're good to cuddle with :-)

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