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LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 12:30:50 PM   
myobedience


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Status: offline 		Suppose you were in a long distance relationship with your sub.  I mean something like 1200 miles.
1) Would you demand your sub to go online (in local chat rooms) and fetch a man to suck off so you could watch on cam?
2) Would you demand she find a Dom from a site such as CM to serve once or twice?
3) Would you demand your sub to seduce a man at a bar or any other public place and have sex with him?
4) Would you find a Dom for her to serve in your place?
 
In your own opinion, is this a dom or this just a sexual control freak?  Yes I know doms can be sexual control freaks....I didnt want to ask, is this a "real" dom.
How would you provide for her safety?
Any other thoughts on this?

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 1:32:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		We are closer than 1200 miles apart and my Master does not demand such things of me.

I had a friend who lives on the East Coast and her Master is in Europe.  He did demand such things of her (always with condom use) as he felt it would fill her need to serve someone in person, and satisfy her sexual hunger.  He made arrangements with a Dom local to her, and she would come serve his parties, and present herself for physical use by him as well.  He made arrangements with other men to use her, also.  He also had her pick up girls in bars and play with them, and report back to him.

His reasons for doing this were to give her physical pleasure while away from him and to exercise his control over her.  She enjoyed it at first but after awhile began to grow tired from it.  After all, it was her Master she craved.

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 1:41:00 PM   
myobedience


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Status: offline 		She enjoyed it at first but after awhile began to grow tired from it.  After all, it was her Master she craved.

Did your friend express this to her Dom and what became of it?  Not to pry, just curious.
Was there any plans of uniting or was this only to be a LDR?

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 2:35:02 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Yes she expressed it.  It did not change.

No, he had a life and business and children in Europe.  She has kids and grandkids in the States, and is raising her granddaughter.  They have occasional visits.  The emotional aspect of their relationship is fulfilling enough to them both to keep going. 

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 3:11:01 PM   
jaunty1


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quote:

Suppose you were in a long distance relationship with your sub.  I mean something like 1200 miles.

Hello myobedience
 
the relationship that melissa and I have can sometimes be referred to as long distance seeing as how we very rarely are in the country at the same time
 
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  1) Would you demand your sub to go online (in local chat rooms) and fetch a man to suck off so you could watch on cam?


I could if I was so inclined to do so. However, I am actually very possessive and have no desire to ever see her with another.
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  2) Would you demand she find a Dom from a site such as CM to serve once or twice?


Same answer as above.
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  3) Would you demand your sub to seduce a man at a bar or any other public place and have sex with him?


Once again, same answer as the first.
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  4) Would you find a Dom for her to serve in your place?


Rinse and repeat.
 
We have talked about this before; and though I know she would like for me to find others for her; it just is not something that I feel inclined to do at this time. Perhaps in the future, it may change.
 
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  In your own opinion, is this a dom or this just a sexual control freak?  Yes I know doms can be sexual control freaks....I didnt want to ask, is this a "real" dom

I have no opinions on it at all. Everyone controls the flow of their relationships differently; just as I control mine differently. People do what makes them happiest; who am I to say that it is right or wrong?
 
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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 3:50:43 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		almost describing my D/s relationship with Daddy however with minor exception ...He didn't demand that i find another to serve in His place.  Daddy will always be my DaddyDom and has earned that title/role in my life.  i'm allowed to meet and date (with His approval) other men and/or Doms who are interested in ltr.

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 4:13:52 PM   
myobedience


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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i'm allowed to meet and date (with His approval) other men and/or Doms who are interested in ltr.


I am not sure I understand the last part...  the other men and/or doms are interested in long term relationships....thus you "date" them?
If so, does this mean you and your daddy will only be long distance? 
just curious  

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 4:18:29 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		men as in nillas and yes, i do date and/or have date both ends of the spectrum.  it also means Daddy and i plan on being a ldr for reasons i don't wish to disclose (no, He's not married)

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 5:25:59 PM   
minnetar


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Status: offline 		i almost thought it was a sexual fetish rather than D/s.  Yes i have been approached to do it but wouldn't consider it.

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 5:42:15 PM   
myobedience


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ORIGINAL: minnetar

i almost thought it was a sexual fetish rather than D/s.  Yes i have been approached to do it but wouldn't consider it.

minnetar



Now YOU have me LMAO minnetar...
SEXUAL FETISH is truly a wonderful way to describe it 

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 7:12:11 PM   
hisannabelle


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Status: offline 		greetings myobedience,

i could see Him doing this; however, He wouldn't necessarily require the other person to be dominant, and i wouldn't be forced to do it. it's not really that far of a cry from the way things are in our close-distance relationship, though.

annabelle.


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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 7:28:27 PM   
myobedience


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Status: offline 		Interesting ...........
only one dom replied and I really wanted to hear from doms...
 
would you
 
would you not
 
Is this your style of dominance?  control?   power?    authority?

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 7:29:32 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: myobedience

Interesting ...........
only one dom replied and I really wanted to hear from doms...
 


The doms took today off.

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 7:38:16 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 7:46:56 PM   
Trampler


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Status: offline 		I know this is the Master's forum but I wanted to answear anyways, please forgive.  I would not demand those things necessarily, but I would definately be interested in suggesting it to my sub. if he/she is willing. Though I would arrange things ahead of time, and be careful about who sleeps with/serviced by my sub.

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 8:02:22 PM   
Raphael


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ORIGINAL: myobedience

Suppose you were in a long distance relationship with your sub. I mean something like 1200 miles.
1) Would you demand your sub to go online (in local chat rooms) and fetch a man to suck off so you could watch on cam?
2) Would you demand she find a Dom from a site such as CM to serve once or twice?
3) Would you demand your sub to seduce a man at a bar or any other public place and have sex with him?
4) Would you find a Dom for her to serve in your place?


The answer to all four is probably not.

I'm not going to say no, it's my option. But it really doesn't sound like a good idea to me.

I'd be much more likely to tell her to do any of these things with another female. And even that is pretty unlikely.


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In your own opinion, is this a dom or this just a sexual control freak? Yes I know doms can be sexual control freaks....I didnt want to ask, is this a "real" dom.


Can be?

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How would you provide for her safety?
Any other thoughts on this?


That's one issue among many, and of course there are many things you could do to try and make it safer, but nothing that will make it perfectly safe. That said, nothing is perfectly safe anyway. I don't know, never gave it too much thought. Not really my kink.


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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 9:20:37 PM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		1) NO
2) NO
3) NO
4) NO

in a real life relationship
1) maybe
2)NO
3) yes
4) NO


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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 9:46:37 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		No myself as well.  The most I might do would get to know local people, if I didn't already, and encourage them to play with eachother as friends just to be able to gain experience and have fun and not feel left out all the time.

Although frankly at this point, he or she would have to be a truly phenomenal catch for me to embark on a LDR again.

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 4/28/2007 9:47:46 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: myobedience
In your own opinion, is this a dom or this just a sexual control freak? 

Could be both.  Or just a dom with particular preferences.  I know plenty of masters who LIVE with their slaves and still require this.
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How would you provide for her safety?
Any other thoughts on this?

Same way any adult provides for their own safety.

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RE: LDR & substitute service - 5/1/2007 9:29:50 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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ORIGINAL: myobedience

Suppose you were in a long distance relationship with your sub.  I mean something like 1200 miles.
1) Would you demand your sub to go online (in local chat rooms) and fetch a man to suck off so you could watch on cam?
2) Would you demand she find a Dom from a site such as CM to serve once or twice?
3) Would you demand your sub to seduce a man at a bar or any other public place and have sex with him?
4) Would you find a Dom for her to serve in your place?
 
In your own opinion, is this a dom or this just a sexual control freak?  Yes I know doms can be sexual control freaks....I didnt want to ask, is this a "real" dom.
How would you provide for her safety?
Any other thoughts on this?


1. no
2. no
3. no
4. no

These answers are based on my preferences. If sexual control and voyuerism were my things, I might do the sexual things...but probably in a much safer way. I wouldn't find another Dom for my girl to serve...but I'd allow her to serve someone if it was beneficial for her to do so or if her help was needed in a situation of which I approved.

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