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leakylee -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 3:47:13 PM)
dungeon sign?!? damn what an idea!! i have been thinking about putting a red light on the porch when things are happenin round here..hehe.. of course i am gonna paint the door red. i wonder if anyone will get it? hehe.. had i known this i would have gone freak yearsssssssssss ago. sheesh.. lee

Aileen68 -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 4:27:29 PM)
I just took down my pictures this morning because of the simple fact that certain other aspects of my life were starting to come a little too close to this secret side of me. Not in terms of names because I only use Aileen68 for this site, but because of the images of my face. I'm also at the point of finding that I'm comfortable in my anonimity here since I've discovered another much safer outlet for my exhibitionist streak.

etherealWillow -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 4:34:12 PM)
My life would not be over if everyone I knew found out about my profile here, so I posted a face picture. I don't currently have a job to be fired from, and if I get passed over for a job because of my preferences, it's their loss anyway. I'm not out, but I am a very, um, "unique" person, so I figure that anyone who would judge me has already done so. That said, I try to go by what my mother told me once before the internet was even a concern: "Don't ever write anything down that you aren't prepared for the whole world to read."

MercTech -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 5:50:14 PM)
If you hold a security clearance; you only have problems if they find out you are on a such a site and you didn't mention anything in the "Other activities tha could come under surveillance scrutiny" block. Hell, I've had a clearance held up while they checked out my SCA membership. It was a hoot too, the interviewing officer turned out to be a VisCount. <grin> Stefan

heydollface -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 6:19:35 PM)
From a general point of view I don't see the problem with it as long as you're comfortable with yourself and your life. As cliche as it sounds life is too short to go through it worrying about what others think. Obviously there are certain people you'd rather not know but as pointed out by other people it's not like they found your profile by complete accident. From a personal point of view I have no problem putting any pictures of myself or associating myself with such a website at all but this is due to the fact that I've done some rather risque modelling in the past in a similar vein and anybody who is going to happen upon my profile here has pretty much saw the more shocking aspects of my life. So, that is why it doesn't concern me personally although its a fairly unique situation.

Aswad -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 6:21:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EasyE I've been a member at collarme for quite a while. I've been thinking lately of the dangers of not remaining as anonymous as possible. Too late. They haven't used the "robots.txt" standard to prohibit crawling and caching, so that means the Internet Archive, as well as Google and Google Images, will have an archived copy of anything you ever typed, and every Avatar you ever used. quote: I mean this in terms of; people outside the lifestyle finding out and getting future employment. That's been a concern for me too, so I use a nick not connected to me, use a picture that is me, and in half-profile at that, but doesn't even vaguely resemble what I generally look like. Additionally, I avoid putting out too much stuff that people might be inclined to search for, and keep the personal stuff to PMs. My work includes ICT security (planning, design and management of comprehensive security policies and measures for e.g. telcos etc.), so it's a sensitive topic, mostly due to prejudices, but also because some might think it'll make me more susceptible to blackmail (bah, that's the least interesting line of attack). quote: My face is my best feature [&:] so I wouldn't want to cover it up if it is not necessary lol. Is this a rational fear or not? I want my lifestyle to remain as secret as possible. No reason to keep it a secret. And that's just not feasible. If someone wants to find out, they will. If they want to do a full go-to on you, they'll probably know as well. Just don't broadcast it. Making it an outright secret, and planning for it to remain a secret for the forseeable future, is just setting yourself up for a fall. Ever wonder what'll happen once Google starts using language pattern analysis to identify nyms and/or licences the "semantic forests" patent? [:'(]

Aswad -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 6:28:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MercTech If you hold a security clearance; you only have problems if they find out you are on a such a site and you didn't mention anything in the "Other activities tha could come under surveillance scrutiny" block. Hell, I've had a clearance held up while they checked out my SCA membership. It was a hoot too, the interviewing officer turned out to be a VisCount. Very good point. What they're really worried about is usually someone using it for blackmail, or someone using your activities for blackmail. At least for the places that have serious security clearance routines. If there's something one feels one has to hide on a clearance check, one should feel compelled to turn down the position as well, IMHO. Of course, there's also the issue of incriminating photographs sent to the kids' teachers of some hairy lump of muscle in a corset taking a 3-course meal from Veronica Moser or something. But that's a different, albeit related, headache. The frequency of such events makes them worry less about it, though (i.e. acceptable risk).

zindyslave -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 7:12:01 PM)
I don't think it would matter to me much if someone found out I live in a small rural town currently but if I was outed and everyone found out I would just move and if I had problems at my job or they fired me I would sue even tho this is a right to work state they can't fire you because of your lifestyle. It is no different in my eyes than firing someone for being gay. If you have a problem with it then don't put your pic up but chances are more people will look at your profile if you have a pic up.

Aneirin -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 7:20:50 PM)
I did worry for a while,my last job I knew my area manager visited here because I accessed his computer,so I did not post a pic.Even now my pic is kind of vague,something which may change soon.Those that contact me,always get if asked a pic which is more revealing without being obtuse.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 8:05:26 PM)
Ach!...Besides not wishing for my parents to find out. I care not otherwise.Why no pic then? Well I did have one up for a bit.And actually ,crazily enough,my particular profession in health care seems to be the norm in BDSM/D/s..so many health care professionals within this realm..Makes one kinda wonder..~wink~Tempting

adoracat -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 11:04:37 PM)
i've had incriminating pictures of me floating about the internet for some 10 years now. i dont care. the pic i have here, its a nice one of me. i'm told it doesnt do me justice, but i like it. yes, i got a lot of email at first...but things have quieted down now. and i met Sir here, which made everything else worthwhile. i WISH i could get rid of a lot of the relatives as easily as some of you have...cause OH GODS there are some i would love to set on their collective ears...... kitten, who grins at this thought

MaamJay -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (4/30/2007 11:36:00 PM)
I have chosen NOT to post a pic, because My job sees Me sometimes visiting schools, and any perceived "taint" could see Me out of work. No, they couldn't use this as a REASON ... but where there's a will there's a way to get rid of someone. A few years back, I was responsible for a whole state and My work pic was sent to every school! So I was rather well known and I don't think the "mutual risk" concept is necessarily protective enough. Well, I didn't want to rely on that anyway. I'm also well known in many other circles to do with My hobbies, and so feel that safety is the best policy. However, I am "out" to the people in My life who I care about and who understand Me, so the main damage that could be done would be to employment prospects. Can't afford that ... so I play safe! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

LadyPact -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (5/1/2007 6:00:02 AM)
I agree with both things Tammyjo said on this discussion since I posted last. Of course, it is everyone's personal choice of whether to post a pic of themselves or not, but I will have to say in My case, a real face pic, combined with an interesting post on the boards, rates number one in how to catch My attention. The cute little cartoon pics and images are fun and all, but somehow, a face pic is much more appealing. The other comment about the overwhelming urge to be wearing the black leather bit. No, a lot of Us don't wear either leather or black all of the time. Even the coolest outfits would become boring after a while. If I wore black constantly, a lot of people would probably think that I was in mourning. Edited to add..... There was actually one that was smart enough to ask if I bought the outfit and the weapon at the same time, since they are almost a perfect match to the same shade of blue.

SirDominic -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (5/1/2007 6:29:57 AM)
I wasn't able to read all the posts, so this may have been covered. Anything you put on the net is public domain. You have already put your pic up, so it is out there. Still, you can minimize the issue by removing it from the site. Doesn't change what is out there, but at least your current profile couldn't be tied directly to you. On the other hand, the reality is that if you ever hope of getting any response, a picture is almost a must on sites like this. Women can get by only with a description, but it is the kiss of death for men. Because you are young, and very likely don't know what way life might lead you, and especially if you are asking this question, you are obviously concerned about this. If it causes you concern, you should pull the pic. Because as long as it is up there, there is always the chance that you will be found out. Personally I think the likelihood of that is less than most fear, but the possibility is real. Especially if you see in your future any high profile job, like politics, for example. Namaste, Sir Dominic

angaothsi -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (5/1/2007 6:54:13 AM)
Ed, I think you have gotten many very good replies already. But I will add mine anyway. Through my unmentionables, I am invloved in some very "moral" organazations. Once upon a time this caused me some trepidation about posting pictures of my face. Now however I have gotten comfortable enough myself and my sexuality that I don't care. If I get "outted" I will take my lumps and hold fast to my own belifes. I will also make sure whomever outs me also gets judged by the same rod they happen to measure me with, because if they find my picture on here they too are "guilty" For you, I would suggest that you do whatever is comfortable to YOU. You said you are young and in college. If I were you I would look to this, do you one day plan on being in a position of employment where skeletons in your closet could really hurt you? Do you plan on being a politician or elderman or something of that nature? If you plan on something like that I would suggest that you do not take risks now that will affect your future. If you dont plan on being invloved in something where the moral majority would be decideding or voting on your lifes plan then I would say don't worry about it. Only you know where you are going in life and only you at this point can decied what steps and measures will help or hurt you.

IrishMist -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (5/1/2007 6:57:32 AM)
/shrug each to their own. If you want to put a picture up, put one up; if you don't dont.

aidan -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (5/1/2007 7:41:19 AM)
I'm a young college student too, and I don't think I have one friend who isn't aware of my "lifestyle". I don't walk around with a giant banner that says "I ENJOY BEING PADDLED UNTIL I CRY", but I don't make any attempt to hide it either. It's a part of my sexuality, and if it comes up in conversation I'm not going to shy away from it. Never been ashamed of who I am, what I am and what I do. Never saw the need to be. I don't look down on anybody who feels the need to remain anonymous though. I just kinda feel bad. That's all.

Missokyst -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (5/1/2007 8:06:08 AM)
I suppose it is ok when your job is ok with what you do out of the office. I do think people are ok with the gay/lesbian thing, it is much more acceptable than say, 20 yrs passed. But people have odd ideas about kink, and in particular bdsm. Shoot, look at the way it is portrayed in the media. I would find it very uncomfortable to have those sort of expectations about what this is, in the mind of a man whose home I am visiting on a new client call. There are just way too many misconceptions about sexuality, I sure do not need some strange guy to think I might be easy. I do not expect anyone who I am not involved with to be comfortable with who I am sensually. Nor do I feel the need to educate them. Let them learn on their own. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: Dastardly I work on the premise that if I can't be comfortable being who I am then how can I expect anyone else to deal with it, to become educated. This is easier on the lesbian side than the perve side admittedly but then I've never felt the need to be explicit about what I do.

sublizzie -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (5/1/2007 8:59:10 AM)
I don't have a full-face pic on my profile. I figure if someone wants to see my face they can ask. Having the pic on my profile means I don't have to list my weight, which is no one's business, but still lets people know that I'm not a small woman. Enough of my face is showing to give people a general impression of what I look like without clearly defining me. Luckily I have a common enough face that many people look like me...or I look like them. I could deny the picture is of me if I thought it was imperative that I do so but the important people in my life know about me, other than my parents who would be scandalized. This is the only place you'll find this nick. I am well-enough known in certain areas of the Internet that I prefer not to know about this side of myself that I made sure my nick was totally different here.

domiguy -> RE: Showing your face in CM.com pics? (5/1/2007 9:08:44 AM)
This is a fact. You do not need to post a pic to meet someone off of this thang....I have met folks from this w/o putting out to much of an effort....Maybe it's luck?...Maybe it's because the majority had only one eye?...Or perhaps they caught wind of the Domidong? Either way I think it has much more to do with how you conduct yourself...Being able to seperate yourself from the masses.....And it probably helps not to really care one way or the other....Until you meet someone all they are to me are a compilation of words on a screen.....

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