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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:16:38 AM

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You know for a group of people who are always spouting off things like "Your kink isn't my kink but they're both ok kinks."a lot of ya'll are certainly really good at putting this couple down for wanting something you guys don't necessarily want ... And you do it with such subtlety too ... Wow, I'm so impressed by how open minded and accepting you are of the thoughts and feelings of others.

i dont think anyone was being mean here. I think that several people are saying that they prefer to use their own names.

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:18:39 AM

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Another thing you can do is think about movies or books you've read and if there are any characters in them you relate to and adopt that name. Again, it really does have to be personal to you. I do use endearments but I don't think that's the same as actually giving someone a slave name or changing their name (even if only for scene purposes). I like earthycouple's idea of using a translator. That can even make an endearment or something you use on each other transform into a a really cute and appropriate name that's also unique.

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:21:14 AM

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usually based on some part of their personality that sticks out the most to you

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:22:18 AM

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I suppose that "name" means two entirely different things to us then, because I never would have my slave change his name or only call him that when I think of him as a slave versus a person...oh wait....He's always a person. He's always my slave. Yes...the names I give are pet names....just like my husband calls me "Babe". I also think of Native American Traditions of giving a Native name to someone. (Mine is "Purple Frog Woman"). There are so many facets of life where a name is given to someone as a sign of love, affection, status, growth, change....It isn't segmenting it is growth and symbolism.

This person came here to get help for a specific reason...why do those who oppose her need bother to respond? Why not let those who appreciate her need reply and those who are negative about it, find a thread that "fits their beliefs"

If her question had been "should we choose names?" then fine...give your opinion...but why try to hurt something that is obviously beautiful to them?

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And I suppose going on and on whining and continuing this sub-thread is productive, right?

I guess you didn't notice that I also explained where my nickname came from (she asked where peoples M/s names came from, and since I didn't have one I figured I would at least try to help by offering where my online nickname came from).

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:28:34 AM

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we never picked any names other than our own lol . We do you use terms of endearment like babe, sweetie, ext actually now that I think about it I never say hey andy it's always hey babe haha

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:28:43 AM

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You know for a group of people who are always spouting off things like "Your kink isn't my kink but they're both ok kinks."a lot of ya'll are certainly really good at putting this couple down for wanting something you guys don't necessarily want ... And you do it with such subtlety too ... Wow, I'm so impressed by how open minded and accepting you are of the thoughts and feelings of others.

i dont think anyone was being mean here. I think that several people are saying that they prefer to use their own names.

It was how it was said ... References to things like split personalities and such ... Tone changes everything.

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:29:52 AM

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My name is my name. I even stopped bothering with screen names. I am who I am, and those who know me in person would readily recognise me in any post I make -even if I didn't have a picture of myself next to it.

Why do you WANT this name? Why does your dominus? Why is it important for the two of you to segregate your M/s selves away from the rest of your lives? Is it simply one of the de rigeur practices of your particular sub-community, or has some online dingleberry told you that that is how such things are done?

Or are you asking for ideas on screen-names to use in chatrooms, to cue in the clueless that the two of you are involved? (IMHO, the clueless shall remain as such, while those who are not idiots may simply ask)

Basically, I don't understand what prompted this question, nor does it seem as though the majority of respondants understand either.

Well, if you must give him a name, how about Lord Runcible VonSporq? I've always liked the sound of it.

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:30:25 AM

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Choosing names can be powerful. I've chosen both my scene name as well as my legal name. I suggest that you each find your OWN name...and don't base them on each other. That way, if the names resonate, you have no qualms about continuing to use them should the relationship end.

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:37:48 AM

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my apoligies grace you are correct

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:40:54 AM

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Also, while it's not an issue for me or mine, there are some people who are very concerned with privacy in the scene and would not want their real names researched or tracked for personal or professional reasons. There are many reasons to do it and it is certainly not odd or uncommon. But I had a hard enough time thinking about names for my Um's without having to figure out a new one for someone who already had one. :P

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 10:42:55 AM

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We just use our given names. Sure I might call him other things in the heat of the moment but thats about it. It's either Master or his birth name.

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 11:10:04 AM

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My Master NChaka gave me my name when He collared me. It means "beloved one" in French. It was also the name I chose for myself when I was in the SCA, but I had chosen it mainly because I liked the sound of it. Master gave it to me because it is true*. I also tend to use it a bit differently within the community. When emailing those who know me r/l; I sign my emails 'His given name's' amicia --'my given (or 'nilla nick) name', so there is no question of my submissiveness being separated from my complete identity. I answer to amicia or my given and nick names readily and He also calls me sweetie, lil girl, lil devil... or whatever suits His fancy in the moment.
* HAH!!! I used the word true and won't get flamed for it!!

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 11:14:58 AM

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I chose domiguy cause "Cuntusing'motherfucker" was taken. In real life I am referred to as "kai doi."

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 11:16:27 AM

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my former slave, ka-yin, was given his name because he is strong, and beautiful like bamboo...which is what his name means.

i am me, and he is he, of that we were always clear, it was not fantasy or role play.... and yet the giving of a name, is a very sexy element of d/s to me...it is the stripping of the persons former idenity, and the recapitulation of the evolving person, it fosters intimacy because it is a special aspect of his identity only shared by very few.

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 11:47:38 AM

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you know... there is no way what I'm about to say is going to come out sounding good...

yup, sounded real shitty.... nevermind

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 1:23:22 PM

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hi
We have nicknames for each other that have become our 'special' names for each other. We came up with them as a fun thing when we were first chatting but we began to use them when we met in person and they have stuck. As we were both born in different countries thats where we found our names. Its great because both our families know that we have nicknames for each other and are not surprised when they are blurted out. Of course, they dont know the significance or the 'effect' these names have when heard or spoken

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 1:39:12 PM

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First I haven't read everything posted so far but wanted to just say this...

In my experience, pet names and nicknames have usually just evolved as the relationship deepens. Almost all the guys I've dated or even just played with have come up with pet names for me. wierdly enough it tends to be a similar one from each of them lol.

As for my screen name on here which is the same name I use for any profile I have online I just came up with it because I liked the way it sounded and it just felt right.

Picking or finding a pet name for someone is not difficult, go with what comes to mind when you think of them. Bingo, you have name ideas. (by the way, dumbass and pain in the ass are usually bad one hehe

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 2:16:31 PM

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guesses i must have a split personality ... because for me it is really important to use "soft" as a nickname

all my life i have been called one nickname or another .. my christian name was only ever something that was used by people outside my inner circle of intimates .. even as a child

i first got called "soft" when i was about 12 .. and its the one that stuck .. i answer to the name in the street when friends call it to me, its a name so mixed into my identity as an adult tht it makes perfect sense to me to use it as my "slave name"

What people call me has particular energy for me, at work i get called ... "Miss " or "Ma'am" .. i have to create a professional persona for work, that is not really me at all, all the crap and stress and the often negative emotional energy that goes with my job, links itself up to that persona ... so its nice to be able to put the persona aside totally when i come home ....right down to not be called the same things

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 2:47:43 PM

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Kyra is the name I was going to give to my daughter if I ever had one. I have never desired children but I loved the name. In entering the relationship with my Lord, it essentially closed that path forever. When I was told to come up with a name that I what I wanted and he liked it. I now use it almost exclusively, even my employees at work know that I go by Kyra at times. It is just another name that is used in reference to me. I will not use my birth name in conjunction with the lifestyle because it is unique enough that someone could google it and find out more about me than he wants them to know.

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RE: **Names??** - 5/1/2007 3:33:54 PM

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I don’t have a “sub name”, as in Sir does not refer to me by any name. I asked him once what he would call me (I like my given name and it’s meaning is interesting), after a while he told me he would let me know what he chose when he came next. I asked if he thought I would like the name. He said he thought I would like it because he chose it for me. I haven’t dared to ask what name he chose, again.

As far as my CM id. The name Keira is what I would have named my daughter if I had another *smiles at Kyraofmists*, that is until the exes girlfriend used on her kid… sad thing is she pronounces it wrong.

Anyway, I’m all set in that department, so, it became the name I used for the main character in a story I am working on. My id is the title of the first chapter. Sharing that story led me here.

When I got a new profile after getting together with Sir, I suggested it along with another, and he picked this one. (His suggestions were something like Betty boob and stuff like that)… that’s why I stopped asking for a name.

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