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Rudeness - 5/4/2005 6:23:11 AM   
Iolair


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Status: offline 		I dind it extreamly rude from these so called slaves when you take the time to read their profiles and write a kind introdructry letter and they choose to read it and then ignor it. They should at least have the common courtasy to say thank you but no thank you.
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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 6:33:23 AM   
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I dind it extreamly rude from these so called slaves when you take the time to read their profiles and write a kind introdructry letter and they choose to read it and then ignor it. They should at least have the common courtasy to say thank you but no thank you.


Y A W N.....

And as a so called sub, I find it extreamly rude that a Dom can't bother to spell words correctly or write their native tongue articulately.

Clearly, you have expectations that aren't being met by these 'so called slaves'. Perhaps your expectations are a smidge too high for a free site like this.

Regardless of your assumed station, this is still a free country, and just because you are kinky doesn't mean that because you consider yourself a Dominant, that means anything when you write a note to someone, polite or not.

Everyone has the right to ignore, delete, not read, or what have you any mail they so choose. To complain about the 'rude subs' only helps your stock to drop around here.

Trust me, this topic has been done ad nauseum.

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< Message edited by ProtagonistLily -- 5/4/2005 7:32:21 AM >

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 6:39:41 AM   
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They should at least have the common courtasy to say thank you but no thank you


And then have you write then another 100 letters telling them what a horrible mistake they have made and how you are their one and only and that their partner is clearly a fake because he is not exactly like you? No thanks, I would rather just ignore it from the get-go.


On everything else that I agree with Lily

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 6:44:00 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily

Trust me, this topic has been done ad nausium.

Lily


That's "ad nauseam"

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 7:26:37 AM   
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I dind it extreamly rude from these so called slaves when you take the time to read their profiles and write a kind introdructry letter and they choose to read it and then ignor it.

You've got it all wrong. They are actually being polite -- they must read your note, see the poor spelling, chuckle a bit and then delete it without writing back to say "Sorry, but I'm not interested in ignorant goofs like you." Now THAT would be rude!

But thanks for providing one of the more humorous posts whining about this topic. I'm especially amused that you think they should acknowledge the time you took to read their profile. Now I am expecting a reply because I just wasted time replying to your post and also reading your profile. HA!

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 7:30:00 AM   
kc692


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ORIGINAL: Iolair

I dind it extreamly rude from these so called slaves when you take the time to read their profiles and write a kind introdructry letter and they choose to read it and then ignor it. They should at least have the common courtasy to say thank you but no thank you.



I am Domme, and with all due respect, do you respond to every email that you receive from applicant subs? If you do, then, I daresay you are in the minority of dominants. I will qualify that statement as coming from my experience and other Dommes that I have seen on the boards. The sheer amount of email that we receive from applicants is enormous, and a large portion of those emails were written with no thought, one liners, and MISSPELLED WORDS AND INCORRECT GRAMMAR. I am truly not knowledgable about the amount male dominants receive, or dominant couples, so in your case that may be different, and if you reply to every email you expect someone, especially sub, to do the same.

I feel I must point out, (although a point I'm sure you are aware of) that the subs/slaves are individuals, and as such, do have wants, desires, needs, and lives of their own. For all you know, that particular one you are emailing may have limited time to respond, and a plethora of emails themselves, and have to pick and choose what they respond to, based on their interests. I need to add, that they have the right to pick and choose, as you do, and that right should be respected.

In addition, (and I think this is the main point), although they are subs/slaves, that is in context to their personality and relationship choice. They are not subs/slaves to the dominant population at large, obligated to jump at every dominants call, with no thought as to themselves. That, in my opinion anyway, comes after meetings, discussions, and a conscious choice to begin the process of service to YOU. Only then, do you have the right to expect anything from them according to your wants and desires, even for something as simple as EXPECTING a reply. They deserve to be treated with respect, and not only does that include kind words, but the acceptance of the knowledge that they are free to choose whether or not to answer you. Even if the emails are kind and introductory, as when being introduced to someone in real life, they have the choice as to whether or not to respond and interact with you. In my opinion (and that is all it is), you have the right to hope for a reply, but not expect one.

I have not seen your introductions, and am not making any assumptions, but let me ask you a question. Do your introductory letters state your expectations of a reply? If so, they MAY feel that you are demanding actions that they feel you have no right to so early "in the game", and that is what is partially shaping their choice not to respond.


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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 7:31:36 AM   
kc692


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quote:

ORIGINAL: siamsa24

quote:

They should at least have the common courtasy to say thank you but no thank you


And then have you write then another 100 letters telling them what a horrible mistake they have made and how you are their one and only and that their partner is clearly a fake because he is not exactly like you? No thanks, I would rather just ignore it from the get-go.


On everything else that I agree with Lily


I do realize you are not lumping all dominants in that group, but, you do realize we are not all like that? Any more than all submissives write thoughtless one line form letters....

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 7:37:55 AM   
kc692


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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily


Clearly, you have expectations that aren't being met by these 'so called slaves'. Perhaps your expectations are a smidge too high for a free site like this.



Expectations being too high have nothing to do with this being a free site. People(submissive/slaves) are the same on both paid and free sites, and have the same rights as to whether or not to reply, and it has been my experience that, on both paid and unpaid, you will find the same reactions, which is as it should be.....so, too high is too high, and too low is too low.

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 7:41:13 AM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		I know, I wasn't lumping all dominants into that catagory. Just the ones that feel the need to tell me that I need to leave my two year relationship to come and be their slave (ignoring the fact that I am a switch). I have also heard from very sweet people (both dominant and submissive) that have clearly read my profile (which is quite short) and wanted to make some sort of polite comment on it.

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 7:47:02 AM   
Kindred2Evil


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Status: offline 		Bitch bitch bitch, moan moan moan...Come on get a grip. Simply because someone chooses not to write you back doesn't mean a thing other than they are simply not interested. I receive anywhere from 2 to 15 mails a day on here. Do I write them all back? Nope. Especially not if I see it's a form letter where they don't even address me by name, or the famous one-liners, or where I see we are simply not compatible through reading their profile.
Nor do I get replies from all that I send out either. Quit taking it so bloody personal.

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 8:08:51 AM   
FuriousAngel


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Status: offline 		I can't imagine allowing a minor matter of unanswered mail from a 'profile' ever rent space in my head!

There sure are a lot of threads created on this site with people complaining about correspondence going unanswered!

You can all just call me "Captain Obvious" from now on! LOL!

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 8:11:20 AM   
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You can all just call me "Captain Obvious" from now on! LOL!


'aye-'aye Cap'n!

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 8:13:22 AM   
ruffnecksbabygir


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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 8:38:44 AM   
cellogrrlMK


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ORIGINAL: kc692

I am Domme, and with all due respect, do you respond to every email that you receive from applicant subs? If you do, then, I daresay you are in the minority of dominants.


I think that Domme's get way more email than Dom's do! MrKite and I were talking about that last night. He said in a (put-on) sad/pouty way "I never get any email". I said I thought it was because female subs actually read the profiles and are too polite to proceed any further. I said, well, you could change it if you want mail! LOL He didn't want to do that .

So please females, Domme OR sub, send my Master email, it would make him so happy!

cello

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 8:58:45 AM   
SweetDommes


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ORIGINAL: kc692

I do realize you are not lumping all dominants in that group, but, you do realize we are not all like that? Any more than all submissives write thoughtless one line form letters....


She does realize that not all dominants are like that - I believe her point is that a lot of males (dominant or submissive) see a reply as a positive thing, even if it's a "no thanks, not interested" or "I'm taken" or ... whatever. I can't tell you how many we've had contact us repeatedly after telling the boy that we are not interested for whatever reason (if they do it more than twice, they get blocked, but still ... ), and I can't imagine that femsubs have it any easier ... it's probably much worse because they are submissive, so the same "Doms" who think that the two of us should serve them because he's a male dominant and therefore much more dominant than we could ever be *rolls eye* continue trying to talk to them because they are submissive and don't know what they really need *rolls eyes again*

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 9:11:02 AM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		It's almost worse to be a switch because you get letters from dominants and submissives. Dominants think that you are either "confused" or "need training" and submissives think that because you are a female and wear high heels therefore you must want to dominate them.

And I do know that all dominants (or submissives for that matter) are not like that (see my above post)

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 9:24:34 AM   
SweetDommes


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ORIGINAL: siamsa24

It's almost worse to be a switch because you get letters from dominants and submissives. Dominants think that you are either "confused" or "need training" and submissives think that because you are a female and wear high heels therefore you must want to dominate them.

And I do know that all dominants (or submissives for that matter) are not like that (see my above post)


Heh, yeah ... so many seem to think that switches are switches to get the 'best of both worlds' ... but in reality, what they get is a lot of the worst from both.

I know, siamsa, I just didn't read the whole thread before replying - I know I should, but eh, I'm lazy LOL

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 9:25:32 AM   
siamsa24


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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 9:31:35 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		I think anyone who wants to complain about the email they receive and the email they do NOT receive needs to send me $5 per post.

Wait, am I mixing threads here?

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RE: Rudeness - 5/4/2005 9:41:01 AM   
BeachMystress


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A lot of subs are going to look at your profile and decide you're not worth a reply. First off, you don't say anything that would attract a sub, much less a slave. There is nothing about your experience, the duties you'll expect the "slave" to perform or what you have to offer the potential submissive or slave. You've not done the basic things that are required to get serious responses. Top that off with your demand that the submissive be physically fit (when you and your mate are not) so that the slave will be "able to carry out the tasks of a slave in the home" and it sounds like you're looking for free labor rather than a power exchange dynamic.

Personally, I find it extremely rude when someone's first post on a forum is complaining.

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