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RE: how do you know? - 5/2/2007 8:11:23 AM

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Since most heterosexuals don't enjoy cruising and prefer the more traditional vanilla courtship rituals, the hanky code doesn't have as much prevalence or practicality- but chances are you can see at least a few "flagging" at big events.

Actually, this may be starting to developing into a trend with younger club or metrosexual guys who haven't a clue as to where the practice came from. Daddy approached one who he saw flying colors in the mall. He grabbed a business card from a nearby kiosk, wrote the URL of the local sex positive community center on it, and also "Hanky Code?" and handed it to the guy.

The next time he saw the guy a few weeks later, the guy had no bandanas on him and looked significantly more mundane all around (no hair dye, etc). After a brief chat, Daddy found out that the guy's friends had to explain to him what the hanky code meant and what he'd been signaling.

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RE: how do you know? - 5/2/2007 8:13:34 AM

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Flagging is the practice of wearing specific clothing, insignia, or accessories to indicate a particular BDSM or interest . In the Leather Culture the Hanky Code provides a way of declaring interests using different coloured handkerchiefs worn in a back pants pocket (eg gray = bondage). Although the use of flagging has declined, it is conventional for tops to wear the hanky on the left, and bottoms to wear it on the right.
There is no universal flagging code however it is a good indication to watch what they wear and where they wear it!

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RE: how do you know? - 5/2/2007 8:39:07 AM

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Yes the gay male hanky code was very elaborate, with the color and area displayed indicating all sorts of action the wearer sought to give or to recieve to others met in that gay bar or event.

Many small and large events these days use a similar symbolism to display that one is a top/dom seeking a sub, a sub seeking a top/dom, or a switch seeking either or both power levels. Some events use colored ribbons, some use wrist bands, and some have pins or buttons a person can wear. There is no standard color scheme that covers different events, but most use red or orange to indicate top or dom.

One may see a person wearing all three "flags" if they are open to play any role.

One must bear it mind that most events only use these to indicate someone seeking play, so many who have partners and are not looking may not wear the "flags".

In any event, wearing the "flag" does NOT commit anyone to play with anyone claiming to be what they seek, one still needs to negotiate a scene and respect the limits of others. "No thank you" is appropriate if one is not interested in someone.

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As always, your mileage may vary!

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RE: how do you know? - 5/2/2007 9:29:32 AM

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Btw, if you're looking for more answers on flagging, they can be found in the book BDSM 101. If I remember correctly, there is a short section on flagging and what the different colors signify. It's old fashioned, but before the net, W/we had books.

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