Where can I learn about the different protocols??

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

Where can I learn about the different protocols??

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> Where can I learn about the different protocols??

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/2/2007 11:46:17 AM

BlackSakura

Posts: 131
Joined: 7/23/2006
Status: offline

Ok, I am slowly learning about the different “kinds”, “types”, or “schools of thought” on BDSM; such as Old Guard, Gorean, etc. But I am still unclear about them all. Where can I go (online) that will give me a description of the different teachings and protocol?
Thank you all!

_____________________________

Before you criticize someone you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them you're a mile away, and you have their shoes!

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/2/2007 12:03:48 PM

MistressMelissa

Posts: 226
Joined: 11/21/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: BlackSakura

Ok, I am slowly learning about the different “kinds”, “types”, or “schools of thought” on BDSM; such as Old Guard, Gorean, etc. But I am still unclear about them all. Where can I go (online) that will give me a description of the different teachings and protocol?
Thank you all!

Greetings,

If you wish to learn about Gor buy the books and actually read them.

Some debate whether or not Old Gaurd even existed.

Protocol in general can be learned through a book of etiquette such as Emily Post. What you learned in kindergarten will also go along way. If it's not yours, don't touch it. Play nice with others and keep your voice down so you don't disturb others. If in doubt ask.

< Message edited by MistressMelissa -- 5/2/2007 12:07:11 PM >

_____________________________

Melissa
Mistress of Ds Haven
www.dshaven.com

The person who says it can not be done, should not interrupt the person doing it. - Ancient Wisdom

(in reply to BlackSakura)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/2/2007 12:12:20 PM

MstrssPassion

Posts: 2444
Joined: 1/1/2004
From: West Palm Beach, FL
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: BlackSakura

Ok, I am slowly learning about the different “kinds”, “types”, or “schools of thought” on BDSM; such as Old Guard, Gorean, etc. But I am still unclear about them all. Where can I go (online) that will give me a description of the different teachings and protocol?
Thank you all!

There is no universal accepted concept of "protocol" (i.e. rule book) this is why you won't find a book on the shelf or a web site online that claims to be the know all to protocol on any modality.

You can pick any of the modalities, you mentioned two.. Old Guard & Gorean... & you will find one group who identifies as Old Guard & find they don't agree with another group that identifies as Old Guard..... & so on & so on.

There are basic principles that many can agree on & most will agree that protocol is pretty much open to interpretation & is very much based on personal choice.

< Message edited by MstrssPassion -- 5/2/2007 12:13:38 PM >

_____________________________

MstrssPassion

(in reply to BlackSakura)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/2/2007 12:13:31 PM

BeachMystress

Posts: 2156
Joined: 4/3/2004
From: Naples Island- Long Beach CA - Southern California
Status: offline

A Modern Application Of Old Guard Philosophy
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/missyoldguard.htm

AN ESSAY ABOUT "THE OLD DAYS"
http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/olddays.htm

Aspects of Protocol
http://www.leatherquest.com/education/protocol.htm

BDSM Manners & Traditions
http://www.evilmonk.org/A/manners.cfm

Basic Protocol and Etiquette
http://fetishexchange.org/protocol-and-etiquette.shtml

D/s Rituals
http://www.castlerealm.com/library/dsrituals.shtml

Dinner with protocol
http://www.sensuoussadie.com/articles/dovebdsmdinner.htm

Dinner with protocol 2
http://members.aol.com/SRABANDE/MastersDinner.html

Frugal Domme's General Scene Etiquette Tips
http://www.frugaldomme.com/etiquette/default.htm

Old Guard, New Guard
http://www.black-rose.com/cuiru/archive/4-2/oldguard.html

Old Guard? If You say so.
http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/old_guard.htm

One Dom's Protocol for his sub
http://www.westom.com/leather/protocol.htm

Protocol For The boy And The slave
http://www.bearpair.com/slavemike/rules.htm

Sweet Services For Submissives
http://gloriabrame.com/domidea/dompoe.htm

THE OLD GUARD (The History of Leather Traditions)
http://www.tdl.com/~thawley/oldgd.html

The Myth of the Old Guard
http://www.leatherviews.com/kinkyinfo/9930.htm

_____________________________

Beach Mystress
*Do not threaten the weak. Intimidate the strong. ~ Stevenson*
http://beachmystress.jigsy.com
http://www.flickr.com/photos/beachmystress/

(in reply to BlackSakura)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/2/2007 12:14:18 PM

starDF

Posts: 35
Joined: 3/4/2005
Status: offline

Hi -

this site is useful in linking you to many other sites about various lifestyles
http://www.domsubfriends.com/cgi-local/wwwdir/db.cgi?db=rescat&uid=default&category=*&view_records=View+Records&dc=3

Also, i found there is a lot to be learned by asking various Dominants or slaves/subs :)

Hope this helps some
Darkness Fallen's star

(in reply to MistressMelissa)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/2/2007 1:35:18 PM

KnightofMists

Posts: 7149
Joined: 7/29/2005
Status: offline

Sakura

For every person there is a different set of protocals.

For every relationship there is a different set of protocals

For every community there is a different set of protocals

You learn by interacting with others. But remember.. what works with one... may not be the case with another.

_____________________________

Knight of Mists

An Optimal relationship is achieved when the individuals do what is best for themselves and their relationship.

(in reply to BlackSakura)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/2/2007 4:33:14 PM

minnetar

Posts: 1272
Joined: 4/11/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

Sakura

For every person there is a different set of protocals.

For every relationship there is a different set of protocals

For every community there is a different set of protocals

You learn by interacting with others. But remember.. what works with one... may not be the case with another.

Very well said. Regardless of what you learn and read, someone will misinterpret it lol.

minnetar

(in reply to KnightofMists)

Profile

Post #: 7

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/3/2007 1:11:09 AM

BlackSakura

Posts: 131
Joined: 7/23/2006
Status: offline

Thank you all!!! Yay ^_^

_____________________________

Before you criticize someone you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them you're a mile away, and you have their shoes!

(in reply to minnetar)

Profile

Post #: 8

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/3/2007 1:32:51 AM

Kalbar

Posts: 33
Joined: 2/28/2007
Status: offline

Contrary, probably, to Melissa, I would suggest buying the Gorean books but not paying too much attention to every detail within them. They are in the end 25 fictional novels that are poorly written. Pay more attention to the core beliefs within them.
As KnightMists said, when it comes to positions/protocol or what not, each Master will expect you to learn whichever positions/protocols he has use for. I'll also echo that the best way to learn anything is to interact with those that are in the know.

Edit
Oops. I was foolish enough to make the assumption that you were a sub. Sorry.

< Message edited by Kalbar -- 5/3/2007 1:35:25 AM >

(in reply to BlackSakura)

Profile

Post #: 9

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/3/2007 1:45:04 AM

Dastardly

Posts: 58
Joined: 5/30/2006
Status: offline

And hey BlackSakura, just when you think you've got it down pat and you know what the right way is, someone will come along and disagree with you LOL. So read as much as you can but be aware that in all this ultimately you find your own road.

Good luck on your travels

_____________________________

'Out of sorrow entire worlds have been built
Out of longing great wonders have been willed'
Nick Cave

(in reply to Kalbar)

Profile

Post #: 10

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/3/2007 4:40:15 AM

Elorin

Posts: 970
Joined: 8/22/2004
From: San Antonio, TX
Status: offline

http://www.amazon.com/Protocol-Handbook-Leather-Slave-Practice/dp/1887895159/ref=sr_1_4/103-6566472-4101413?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1178192386&sr=8-4

A book that is written on Leather protocol.

~E

_____________________________

'cause when i look down /i just miss all the good stuff / when i look up / i just trip over things

(in reply to BlackSakura)

Profile

Post #: 11

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/3/2007 5:56:36 AM

MadameButterfly

Posts: 29
Joined: 6/17/2005
Status: offline

It is great to read about protocols however but interaction others is a vital part of growth and understanding of what you want as a Top or as sub/slave/bottom. Anyway there is an NLA chapter in Austin here is the link for you. http://www.nla-austin.org/
Good Luck

(in reply to Elorin)

Profile

Post #: 12

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/3/2007 7:51:19 AM

SimplyMichael

Posts: 7229
Joined: 1/7/2007
Status: offline

Midori says it best in her book Wild Side Sex "A successful set of protocol serves the greater purpose and needs of the relationship and the community that the relationship functions within."

(in reply to MadameButterfly)

Profile

Post #: 13

RE: Where can I learn about the different protocols?? - 5/3/2007 6:46:10 PM

Elorin

Posts: 970
Joined: 8/22/2004
From: San Antonio, TX
Status: offline

Madame Butterfly
Thanks for the link. The book I linked to was written by one of the members of NLA Austin. Unfortunately, NLA Austin folded about 3 years ago. Prior to that I enjoyed attending many of their meetings.

~Ms. Elorin

_____________________________

'cause when i look down /i just miss all the good stuff / when i look up / i just trip over things

(in reply to MadameButterfly)

Profile

Post #: 14