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Do you really get your Dominant involved with a virtual... - 5/3/2007 6:19:08 PM

spanklette

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I have read some posts that have made me poder this...it's not a life or death question of course and I'm sure it's just a matter of preference.

That being said, I see so many submissives say that they will ask their Dominant to become involved on their behalf in e-mails, on the forums, or in chat.

I consider myself a moderately intelligent person who can turn down HNG's with barely a flick of the wrist. If someone insults me, the block button is only a few inches up on the top. If I got my Daddy involved in every little thing that inappropriately was cast before my eyes...we'd spend all day going through this seemingly meaningless process.

So, do you really get your Dominant involved in internet conflicts or do you handle them yourself?

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 6:28:57 PM

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Master lets me handle my battles on my own. Only if I feel something is beyond me I will ask him for help. On the forums people get nasty all the time. I ignore that. Only once have we had someone be threatening in an email to me. So its never really been a problem. I guess some doms feel they have to handle their subs problems and maybe some subs think they need a dom to handle it. To each their own I guess. People online just aren't worth getting in a big arguement over. Block button works for me.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 6:32:55 PM

hisannabelle

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greetings spanklette,

sometimes i will discuss stuff going on in my online communities with Him, but i don't ever ask Him to get involved in any kind of spat i'm having or talk to anyone that's making me uncomfortable. i can deal with those things myself.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 6:37:56 PM

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I love carving out my heart and eating it in chatrooms. I am VERY dangerous online...

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 6:39:06 PM

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Well, we discuss stuff on the forums too...something we've been wanting to try, or a new technique that seems intriguing...stuff like that. Every once in a blue moon we'll talk about someone, but mostly it's just discussions begeting discussions.

I guess, I've never felt threatened enough to have Him come to my "rescue". He does read my e-mails...but that's mostly because He's nosey in a Domly sort of way.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 6:41:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I love carving out my heart and eating it in chatrooms. I am VERY dangerous online...

With a spoon? That would be very dangerous indeed. Of course, then would you use the spoon to eat your heart or just tear into it like a {insert something that eats it's own heart}?

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 6:48:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I love carving out my heart and eating it in chatrooms. I am VERY dangerous online...

From your statement i take it that it's happened more than once, which brings me to the assumption that your heart can regenerate itself, sort of like a newt's tail or a chopped-apart nightcrawler? Ohhhh, or maybe like a ChiaHeart. Now ~that~ has awesomely high retail marketing possibilities.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 6:51:05 PM

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No..there is absolutely no point in involving him in things that don't really matter. Online is strictly just for kicks for me. Most of the people in chatrooms live so far away anyway.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 6:51:57 PM

spanklette

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveish

quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I love carving out my heart and eating it in chatrooms. I am VERY dangerous online...

From your statement i take it that it's happened more than once, which brings me to the assumption that your heart can regenerate itself, sort of like a newt's tail or a chopped-apart nightcrawler? Ohhhh, or maybe like a ChiaHeart. Now ~that~ has awesomely high retail marketing possibilities.

I wonder if you could Ebay that sort of thing...or would he be stuck selling it online at Second Life?

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 7:07:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: spanklette

I have read some posts that have made me poder this...it's not a life or death question of course and I'm sure it's just a matter of preference.

That being said, I see so many submissives say that they will ask their Dominant to become involved on their behalf in e-mails, on the forums, or in chat.

I consider myself a moderately intelligent person who can turn down HNG's with barely a flick of the wrist. If someone insults me, the block button is only a few inches up on the top. If I got my Daddy involved in every little thing that inappropriately was cast before my eyes...we'd spend all day going through this seemingly meaningless process.

So, do you really get your Dominant involved in internet conflicts or do you handle them yourself?

I don't get him involved in internet conflicts. However, if someone is being a jackass about wanting to steal me/fuck me/etc, I will reach a point where I tell them "I am no longer talking to you. If you have anything to say, contact Valyraen".

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 7:17:37 PM

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Oh, HELLS no

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 7:23:17 PM

MasterFireMaam

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From the flip side: if its an argument/conflict that could have a kickbakc on me or my repuation, I expect to be involved. How I handle it, of course, is up to me. Otherwise, I expect my slaves/subs to handle things on they're own. They're smart and can deal with most things. It's a trait that I look for.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 7:23:50 PM

tricia

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I don't ever get my Master involved in anything that goes on here - unless its to tell him about a funny message i received or something like that.

Hmm, one time i kept getting messages from some bitter women here who, at first glance, seemed to know alot about me - she insisted my Master was seeing her friend and didn't really want me at all...

It seems so silly now but i had a few spiraling moments - eventually got my ass kicked for continuing to ask him about it after he told me that it was silliness - and that was the end of that. She only had an active profile long enough to irritate me - and then she was gone. And i learned a few valuable lessons.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 7:32:22 PM

spanklette

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

From the flip side: if its an argument/conflict that could have a kickbakc on me or my repuation, I expect to be involved. How I handle it, of course, is up to me. Otherwise, I expect my slaves/subs to handle things on they're own. They're smart and can deal with most things. It's a trait that I look for.

Master Fire

Okay, that makes sense. I can see the validity in getting you involved...especially, when you're talking about your reputation in the community itself. That makes me see the big picture, I guess.

So much of our community interaction is online, even in our local community. We meet, but between face to face interactions we're back to our virtual selves.

I wish being smart was a trait that most people looked for.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 7:38:10 PM

slaveluci

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quote:

ORIGINAL: texancutie
No..there is absolutely no point in involving him in things that don't really matter. Online is strictly just for kicks for me. Most of the people in chatrooms live so far away anyway.
Ditto...though we do discuss interesting things from the boards, i would never ask Him to "step in" on my behalf in a debate/disagreement with someone from the forums. i'm a big girl and if i get embroiled in something, i should be able to handle it fine. As far as e-mail, He had me to put it in my profile for doms not to contact me simply because that's just honesty. i am not seeking a dom so there's no need for them to contact me in that manner. He had me put that in there so i don't usually get emails i do not want. When i do on occasion, i just say "thanks but no thanks," mention it to Him, and that's it...............slave luci

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 7:40:36 PM

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the only time i would involve Daddy with my virtual conflicts if the person has a request to be something more than friends. other times, i handle them quite well with my mighty wit and quick sharp tongue in my replies back.

so far i don't have that problem since no one's interested in being friends with me. oh well - off to play on the cruise ship...

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 7:51:45 PM

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Oh we see it here all the time- a subs dom comes around to defend their poor darling sub being so viciously attacked.

Personally I don't get having a master come to deal with ANYTHING, online or off, unless it really is beyond the subs capabilities- their job is to make my life easier, not make me deal with crap that any mature responsible adult should be able to deal with.

BUT, people love playing out their fantasies- so subs become helpless and doms get to be rescuers against mean nasty bad cyber men. It's even better when BOTH the sub and dom are assholes and the sub uses the "my dom likes it and if you have a problem, go talk to him" as an excuse to be an asshole.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 7:55:16 PM

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I do not involve him in any of my online spats, or emails or anything. I tell him sometimes if something amused me or something, or one time when someone local and in the group I am was incredibly insulting and nasty I told him, because I felt upset, he said do not ever point that women out to me or I will give her a serious dressing down for being so nasty and hateful, and he said I was to forget what she said end of story.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 7:59:44 PM

slaveish

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He checks my CM mail, reads my posts, and hasn't seen the purpose to edit my words or to respond to anyone who's messaged me here. He knows I'm an adult, he knows I have given myself to him, and he knows I wouldn't do anything to break his trust. Besides, this medium is relatively anonymous and there would be no reason for him to waste his time "protecting" me from a big bad glass box and keyboard.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 8:06:03 PM

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I would never ask him to "defend" me with an online spat. I have a natural ability to put some jerk in his or her place, so why bother him with it. Now if it were real life situation that I can't handle, he would step up in a heartbeat. But only if it were something I couldn't deal with on my own.

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