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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 8:27:42 PM

smilingjaguar

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I think if you get your master involved in petty things like minor forum sniping it looks bad on you and him/her. I would tell him if someone was harassing me, but it would be for his knowledge and not for him to handle. Ignoring that sort of stupidity is best. My Sir doesn't come to the forums. He knows I have an account, and it does say I have to have his permission to respond to males, but that's basically a cattle gate for pervs.

Of course, if someone's making major allegations that would affect your reputation, I don't think it's out of line for them to back you up. I just don't foresee a need for it in my instance.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 8:37:21 PM

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Great topic spanklette, I see it all the time on here.
It is amusing.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 9:02:23 PM

juliaoceania

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quote:

So, do you really get your Dominant involved in internet conflicts or do you handle them yourself?

we read the boards together and we respond to the same threads in other forums. I have defended him as much as he has defended me. I haven't lately because he definitely does not need my defense... he would say the same thing about me.

On the other side it is a different matter. He prefers to deal with the CHUDWAH . The reason why is because it is unseemly for me to email back anyone and discuss things with them that are BDSM related. I tell them to ask him any questions they have for me. It is rather simple. It is a device that keeps repeat stalkers away because I am not telling them not to contact me, I am just telling them if they want something from me they have to go through him

. I only do that if it merits a response... there used to be a lot of emails asking if my Daddy shared me out and that sort of thing, those people I told to ask my Daddy those questions.

I got a nice email about the sunrise photo on my profile from a dom today. I emailed back a nice thank you, and I try to get back to people that email me (although once or twice it slipped my mind) as long as it is not about my submissiveness...

I do not have any real internet conflicts per se. I mean this isn't real. I think that he wants me to get in the habit of deferring to him in matters of how to interact with people in the lifestyle. It is important that I be obedient when it comes to what he expects of my behavior to those that approach me.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 9:03:02 PM

spanklette

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

Great topic spanklette, I see it all the time on here.
It is amusing.

It is fairly amusing. People use their Dominants like some sort of armor. If I got my Daddy involved with every pervy e-mail I recieved or snarky comment...He'd practically have a second job.

I guess I've been trolling the profiles and that's where the idea popped up. "Don't message me or my Big Bad Uber Dom will cleave you in twain!" Um, yeah...

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 10:25:03 PM

Casie

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No, I don't get him involved. I'm a big girl I can handle my own online battles hehe. However he doesn't really have time to come on her so I sometimes mention things being talked about on the board ext. However in real life there have been people who have made me very uncomfortable and I've asked him to say something to them in private.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/3/2007 11:59:34 PM

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Although Master has a profile on "the other side" I am not sure that he has ever been to the message boards. I come here a lot at the moment as I have time while recovering from illness. I often tell him things that amuse me but I am a big girl and can deal with stuff on my own. My feeling is that is that if I needed help with things here on the boards then I should not be posting. If I am big enough to post here I am big enough to take the consequences of my posts.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/4/2007 4:43:56 AM

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Master...does not for the most part handle online issues he doesn't have the time for that b/s. He will get involved if someone doesn't get the point after a while ...but mostly he asks me not to mention lil stuff to him.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/4/2007 5:21:17 AM

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I can't imagine a scenario where I need to have my dom rescue me from an online baddy. That just seems really weird and somewhat juvenile to me. Of course he isn't a CM member, I see more than a few doms and their subs sort of tag teaming and backing each other up so that could be why it would never even occur to me to ask him. He could not care less about this place, now if I did get my feelings hurt or whatever he would have me take a few days off. That would be the full extent of his involvement with CM or any message board.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/4/2007 7:53:29 AM

littleone35

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Sniping on the fourms he does not bother with but he does like to read my posts. If i get an e mail from someone i know i can respond to it but he still wants to read it. If it is from someone i do not know, i do not open it (per his rules) and he opens it. Reads it then decides if i can respond or he needs to respond. I don't mind he is just protecting me from been annoyed by these guys. I mean he lets me read it at the same time he does. Before i had Master i responded to all my e mails myself. I don't need him to respond to nasty one but i love it that he does.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/4/2007 8:32:27 AM

Wildfleurs

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ORIGINAL: spanklette

I have read some posts that have made me poder this...it's not a life or death question of course and I'm sure it's just a matter of preference.

That being said, I see so many submissives say that they will ask their Dominant to become involved on their behalf in e-mails, on the forums, or in chat.

I consider myself a moderately intelligent person who can turn down HNG's with barely a flick of the wrist. If someone insults me, the block button is only a few inches up on the top. If I got my Daddy involved in every little thing that inappropriately was cast before my eyes...we'd spend all day going through this seemingly meaningless process.

So, do you really get your Dominant involved in internet conflicts or do you handle them yourself?

No, I never get him involved in internet conflicts, to me its really just pointless. My owner does tend to look at the threads I post to, and sometimes posts on the same threads but thats about it.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/4/2007 12:29:54 PM

Celeste43

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I read this at first as computer problems and there, yes, I have asked for help a lot. I'm technologically challenged to the extreme.

I have asked for advice about how to handle something someone says in the fora to me, but that was back at the beginning before I knew about block and ignore. I did say I am technologically challenged, didn't I?

And he has felt the need to step in upon occasion. Back before I knew about the block email button, I was getting a series of creepy emails from somebody. I did not respond to any of them but he kept sending. The Man read one when he was in the same room while I was checking the email and asked me about the sender. When he heard it was the latest in a line of strange mail, he kicked me out of the chair and fired off an email to the creepy writer. I'm not sure what he said but whatever it was, it worked. I was grateful. Of course he then showed me how to block for which I was more grateful.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/4/2007 2:41:57 PM

MasterNdorei

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The One i serve is not interested in online forums, or who i chat with online. If there was a problem where i felt threatened physically, or stalked, or some such, i am sure He would intervene, but no, He could not care less what happens online.

We were originally on CM to find a beta, but we prefer real time from the beginning now, so He has no interest whatsoever. If i was to be emotionally affected by something He would probably order me off that venue forever, as He would find it frivolous.

Master's dorei

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/4/2007 7:01:51 PM

sintralgasub

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I feel I am quite able to take care of things on my own, He and I talk about everything, so if there was an issue about something and He feels need to intervene, then He will do so. Luckily, this has never been an issue.

sgs

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/4/2007 8:38:00 PM

rebelminx

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being a newbie and never having someone to "protect me" i have always had for fend for myself... well a personal threat was made towards me or to me today... (jealousy can be such the bitch ...LOL) i told my Dom about this in casual conversation not expecting him to come to my aid or protect me since i have always fended for myself.... but he told me that a line was crossed and if the threats continue he is going to handle this situation... i have to admit it is a comforting feeling having someone who wants to protect me... as for cyber issues those are mine to deal with but he has told me real threats made in person or on the phone are his to deal with... by stepping up to the plate for me i was made to feel special and cared for... they are both nice feelings...

rebel minx

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/4/2007 9:04:32 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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I guess I don't understand how there could ever need to be protection because I don't take anything online that seriously. You have to take it seriously before you consider it something you have to deal with.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/4/2007 9:28:23 PM

MasterGremlin

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quote:

ORIGINAL: spanklette

I have read some posts that have made me poder this...it's not a life or death question of course and I'm sure it's just a matter of preference.

That being said, I see so many submissives say that they will ask their Dominant to become involved on their behalf in e-mails, on the forums, or in chat.

I consider myself a moderately intelligent person who can turn down HNG's with barely a flick of the wrist. If someone insults me, the block button is only a few inches up on the top. If I got my Daddy involved in every little thing that inappropriately was cast before my eyes...we'd spend all day going through this seemingly meaningless process.

So, do you really get your Dominant involved in internet conflicts or do you handle them yourself?

I have spent a fair amount of time online over the past 10 years. In the very begining of O/our relationship, Master did not want me talking to others who identified themselves as Doms because I was not experienced enough to tell the difference between trolls, players, predators and "real" people and invariabley I would get extremely upset and aggitated. He would simply advise me to put them on ignore or have me get off the computer completely.

I have known Dominants online who insisted on knowing and being involved in any problems, disagreements, drama etc that their subs were involved in for a couple reasons. One was that they so totally owned their sub that they also owned their actions. They would speak to who ever the other party was and either make it clear where the proverbial line was, or make any sort of amends that were necessary. It also gave them the chance to take corrective action with their subs if necessary, and even administer punishment.

Just a matter of how two (or more) people negotiate a relationship.

Sincerely,
minxy

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/5/2007 6:06:09 AM

sintralgasub

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LA - unfortunately, there are abusers out there. Several years ago, I was part of a small chat room, went there for months, and became friendly with many of the regulars. We became aware of a man who had become very abusive toward any female who was initially kind enough to respond with a hello when he first pm'd them. He created so many screen names, it became difficult to identify him, but we all learned his methods, and his manner of speaking and were quickly able to weed him out and identify the new screen name to the others. He did tend to use the same phrases, twists on names, etc. His profiles ranged from one end of the spectrum to the other. I was lucky, he only tried to access my computer files about 5 times. (Yahoo messenger notified me that he was attempting to access my files - click ok to allow...) He would lock up my messenger by sending so many pm's - you could never close them out, and when you logged back in they were there. There would be numerous requests to add him as a friend under so many different names. It caused me many anxious moments. He knew who we were, we couldn't keep up with who he was. We would be on invisible, but when you would deny one of his requests so you could move onto something else, he knew you were online and it was all he needed to start his abuse.

The unlucky one was a young college aged lady who happened to use her screen name for vanilla and kink activities. She also happened to cam for him, and happened to show her face. He followed her into a vanilla family oriented room, and located her father - and showed him the stills he took of the cam session. You can imagine the fall out.

It took several tech savvy men who tracked him down by IP addresses and such, found out he was a college student in North Carolina, long story short, they got his parents involved, his internet provider involved and threatened legal action. The tormnet stopped.

Yes, most things are not serious and can be laughed off, but I know from this experience that scary things can happen. I know I have learned which things to be on the alert for and I feel perfectly competent to roam around in chat rooms or on message boards. I would not hesitate to ask my Dom to intervene should I feel like I got caught in another situation as mentioned above.

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/5/2007 9:32:27 AM

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I do not involve my Dominant in such silliness...

To the poster who wrote about the stalker college kid..Such would be the only be the exception to my rule.and even still I would deal with it as you did..find computer savvy tech to search and then destroy!!....Tempting

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/5/2007 3:01:21 PM

shyinini

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quote:

ORIGINAL: spanklette

So, do you really get your Dominant involved in internet conflicts or do you handle them yourself?

We talk about ALOT of stuff that happens to me ... he just needs to know...
sometimes he'll say ~~ "tell em...."
I have learned NOT to say it was His idea, esp here!

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RE: Do you really get your Dominant involved with a vir... - 5/5/2007 3:09:22 PM

shyinini

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ORIGINAL: MasterGremlin

I have known Dominants online who insisted on knowing and being involved in any problems, disagreements, drama etc that their subs were involved in for a couple reasons. One was that they so totally owned their sub that they also owned their actions. They would speak to who ever the other party was and either make it clear where the proverbial line was, or make any sort of amends that were necessary. It also gave them the chance to take corrective action with their subs if necessary, and even administer punishment.

Just a matter of how two (or more) people negotiate a relationship.

Sincerely,
minxy

minxy~ Thank you for sharing this.
Even after we talked about it, I still didnt seem to comprehend, altho I understood; but now the light bulb goes on.
There was a situation ( real childish psycho drama) surrounding an exfuck toy and my Sir. I heard about it, was questioned on how the fucker got his number. I had NO clue ! Sir believed me.
He did however give me corrective discipline ~ that no longer would my cell be out of my presence...ever !!

I get it! Thank you for posting this.

OK back to the scheduled programming

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