MemphisDsCouple
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Joined: 11/1/2004
From: Memphis, TN, USA
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ORIGINAL: SmilinFSub
I have much more insight and I really do appreaciate all the responses. I will find the man who's shadow I want to stand in and the rest will fall in line, *I HOPE*
What I wonder now is does this site fuel 'the correct' way to live a d/s life? I mean if the masters have it so figured out, why spend time here?
I am an admitted novice, what is your excuse for being online? Shouldn't you hunting or beating your chest somewhere? Why do you care what another, competitive dom is doing?
Is the only way the dominant species can survive is to prey on the inexperienced? <<wink>> Are you so authentically superior that it is your duty to help us confused wenches?
This is meant to make you smile and think...not offend . :)
It does make me (for one) smile.
LOLOLOL I make no "excuses". I'm just killin' time. LMAO Noooooooo.... (for those readers who are overly literally minded). That was a joke. Why am I ('course I can't speak for others) here?........
I play a little music too. I play a little (big emphasis on "little") guitar, bass, conga, harmonica, mandolin (and anything else I can get my hands on that makes a noise I like. (If everyone within hearing will cover their ears I sing a little too.) Depending on whether I like a song, I might play something from just about any genre. (Blues (hey I'm in Memphis!), country, classical, rock, pop, alternative, bluegrass, reggae (and I'm sure I'm leaving something(s) out)). My music making is amateurish. Compared to cello, I'm sure my efforts are primitive at best. (That would probably be a very kind and magnanimous description.) But, as in anything we do (and especially in things we do well) there often comes a time when we want to be heard. After we've practiced long and hard enough to believe we have something to share, we want to share our song. We want to be heard. That is one reason I'm here. To share. And in the process, I am here to learn. I do not claim to have risen to a level of d/s perfection. Indeed, I fully believe it is not something that can ever be perfected. So, I continually strive to improve. Gawd, that's a fun and fulfilling thing to do (not to mention erotic). So that's one reason I'm here.
Another reason I'm here is to participate in the purpose for which this site was created. The right girl might come along to join me/us. That surely won't happen if I/we stay in a cubbyhole somewhere. One never knows....... My girl doesn't much like the online d/s stuff. (I can understand that. It has some pro's. It has some big con's.) So, she only participates online when I instruct her to do so.
Now to the less pleasant:
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ORIGINAL: cellogrrlMK
B., what works for some does not work for others. My Master takes pleasure in attending my concerts and seeing/hearing me play. For me it has nothing to do with serving two Masters. I don't believe he would want me home all the time, but that is up to him to say, not me.
My having a career AND being his wife/slave is not having my cake and eating it too. There are no conflicts with my service to him and my serving my Muse (to be poetic about it lol). They work together in harmony with each other, pardon the pun!
I have read all the posts on this thread, in order. Being patronizing and being smug isn't very becoming to a Dom. There are no rights or wrongs in how different people choose to live this lifestyle. I've learned that from many of the fine people who post on these boards. What works for you and what works for Mercnbeth may not be the same as what works for others. That doesn't make you right and them wrong, or vice versa.
SmilinFSub is new to all this and is trying to see if she has a place somewhere in the lifestyle. What she decides to do or how she decides to live her life is her decision, and the most important thing (to me anyway) is that she remain true to her convictions, whatever they may be. Otherwise she won't be able to be true to anyone else.
cello
Ok cello. I'm going to continue to be patient.
It was not my intent to be either patronizing or smug when I responded to you. It was my intent to drop a *hint*. A hint that maybe you were off on a tangent that wasn't there. So since the hint didn't work - now I'm saying it clearly.
I already wrote:
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ORIGINAL: MemphisDsCouple
There is an exception to every rule, and never say "never".
If you think your relationship is an exception to the points I'm making in the discussion we're having, or to the conclusions I've arrived at after laying the groundwork via some fairly detailed explanations - fine. I'm happy for you.
If, otoh, you want to (which is what it sounds like to me - at least in part) get into some back-and-forth about women's lib you're going to have to find another person to do that with. I'm not interested.
If, I touched a nerve in your own life and relationship (which is what it sounds like - again, at least in part)..... hey, that is unfortunate. I did not single you out in any way or direct anything I said to you except in response to your innuendo-filled request for a clarification of what I wrote. (I note you picked a one-liner as opposed to discussing the broad topic.) I did not and do not criticize your own relationship.
If, you can not see the (common) sense in the conclusion I propound that we can not serve two masters.... well, I've explained it the best I can. If you want further explanations I'll let someone else take a stab at it. In parting, I will simply refer you to the organizational structure that exists all around us in our lives: In business, in the military, hell even in beaurocracies..... in everything we do we create a chain of command. Hell, even the Catholic church has a pope, and the buck stops there. Our personal relationships and familial structures are no different. We need a chain of command. We need an unequivocal place where the buck stops. Both my observation and experience teaches me that it makes for happy campers.
As far as Smilin is concerned:
She has said she came here to explore, to find new ways of thinking of things and to learn. My take on what she has written is that she wants to rethink things that in her life have failed to lead her to ecstasy. The way I read it, that's why she's here. She has said she is very successful in business. My personal opinion is that one of the major things in her life that has failed her and has been an injustice to her on a personal level (where it has succeeded and been a strength on a business level) is the theories of women's lib about how a woman should assess her own self worth. As I said in an earlier post, I think the philosophical societal pendulum has swung to the opposite extreme from oppression of women to teaching women they are only valuable in terms of their careers. Personally, I find truth in a middle ground.
To say, as you do:
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ORIGINAL: cellogrrlMK
the most important thing (to me anyway) is that she remain true to her convictions, whatever they may be. Otherwise she won't be able to be true to anyone else.
cello
....Is to suggest a continuation of the very status quo she has found unfulfilling. I think, on a personal level, this is a destructive lesson to teach to a quester.
cello, I wish you the best. And with that parting note, I suggest we direct no more posts at each other individually. Rather, I suggest we discuss topics and issues on a much broader level.
And now, to finish in a much more positive way:
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ORIGINAL: SmilinFSub
I have much more insight and I really do appreaciate all the responses. I will find the man who's shadow I want to stand in and the rest will fall in line, *I HOPE*
Hope is good. Hope is even a necessary ingredient. But I don't think it will, all by itself, win the day. I think affirmative action is required to go hand in hand with good hope. Succeeding in relationships is not an easy thing. It is quite possible. But it is not easy.
And finally: There is a bluegrass festival today out in the country not too far from where I live. My girl and I are off to hear some pickin' and do a lot of grinnin'.
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B. (the male half of MemphisDsCouple)
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