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ORIGINAL: MistressLorelei

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

What I would expect more than anything is that most women would want a submissive who is interesting, self-confident in what he brings to a potential Mistress and engaging enough to keep her interest.  How can he be that from the sidelines?  What is his submission worth to a woman if he hasn't sufficient self-confidence to approach you or even make the right kind of eye contact to indicate his interest in getting to know you and potentially becoming yours?  He doesn't have to be an overconfident ass to approach a woman with confidence; only a gentleman using proper manners along with a bit of humor and charm.  Knowing he's not desperate for your company has to make him more attractive to you.
 
 - pixel

I can't tell if you are re-stating in agreement the point that I made that, or if you are taking part of my post out of context and  misunderstanding what I have said.

Ah, the limitations of on-line communication...

I wa neither restating, nor was I disagreeing.

I was expressing a similar point of view that was slightly different, yet congruent with yours.    The main difference being the reference to an ass that approaches vs. a gentleman that approaches with charm, confidence, humor and respect. 

It's been my experience that women of all kinds still like to be appreciated and flirted with while being treated like a lady.  When meeting a lifestyle dominant for the first time, she is neither my Mistress nor is she a woman that I'm to be intimidated or order around by.  I'm not her submissive.  She's just another woman who I expect to treat me as my equal until such time as we decide otherwise.