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RE: What Do you Want? - 5/13/2007 7:48:35 PM   
boundkitty


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Status: offline 		1. Sense of humor
2. Patience, lots of patience
3. a steady job. Don't care *what* you do, as long as you are financially responsible for yourself.
4. someone who understands that I have older/elderly parents and will need to spend time with them and keep in touch with them.

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RE: What Do you Want? - 7/23/2007 3:22:36 AM   
JackHammer2000


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ORIGINAL: greeneyes1962

an even temper, can take care of himself ( financially, housekeeping, cooking), neatness, consistency. There's a lot more, that's a good starting point though.


So, basically, you're looking for a mature adult who has no mental/emotional stability issues or anger management problems?

Sounds simple enough, but from my experience, what sounds simple in theory is near impossible in reality...  Then again, maybe some of us have only looked in the wrong places... ;)

For the sake of continued discussion, what else are you looking for in your Dominant/Master/Owner (presuming you've found one who meets your initial criteria, of course)?

< Message edited by JackHammer2000 -- 7/23/2007 3:24:16 AM >

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RE: What Do you Want? - 7/23/2007 4:03:24 AM   
SlND3R3LLA


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Status: offline 		What attracted me to Master was his honesty and how he didn't treat me like I should fall to my knees at his first sentence.  After running into that time and time again, it was very refreshing.
 
I looked for (and found) someone that is caring, kind, has a love of amimals, is employed, has a sense of humor,  intelligent, protective, shares some of the same interests I do, doesn't share me, doesn't treat me as nothing, values me as a person and as a woman, that I always feel I belong to, and that I know would do anything in the world to make me happy.  Probably many more things that I will think of after finishing this.  He is just an great and loving person, I couldn't have asked for, nor gotten better.
 
I just hope and pray I have many, many more years to find out all the other wonderful things he brings to my life.
 
Sin
 
 

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RE: What Do you Want? - 7/23/2007 5:38:51 AM   
ProlificNeeds


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JackHammer2000

What attracts you to a potential or prospective Dom/me?


Keen intelligence, curiosity, sharp wit, and physically, assertive body language. Chin high, shoulders squared and strong eye contact.
quote:


What attributes/qualities would you want your Dom/me to have?
 
Patience, a love for diversity in everything from work to leisure, a good sense of humor (as I tend to be far too serious at times), and the ability to out strip me in intellect, experience, and almost anything else, so that I am constantly strived to try and match that level or exceed it.

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What qualities/attributes would turn you off or drive you away from a potential/prospective Dom/me?


Deal breakers: Intentional lying that is not rectified within 24 hours. Someone who will not explain things (within reasonable parameters), or take a long hard look at themselves from time to time.

Uncomfortable articles include: Intolerance of those who are different in some way, overly aggressive upon others, disregard for those who care for, or depend on them. (These are things I would stick around long enough to see if they could be tempered.)

Just a few of the key ones, there are lots of others too.

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RE: What Do you Want? - 7/23/2007 5:43:30 AM   
SexyRed


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Status: offline 		Someone who proves he is trustworthy by his actions. That is it for me these days after running into someone who lied so well, that they got past my bullshit meter.

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RE: What Do you Want? - 7/23/2007 10:12:52 AM   
SayaNereida


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Status: offline 		What attracts you to a potential or prospective Dom/me?
He has a quiet confidence, meaning no need to beat his chest and say 'I am man, I am in charge, you will obey', a commanding yet not overbearing presence, sense of humor, good hygene, and I'm sure there is more but that is off the top.  Physically I notice the eyes first, then how easily he smiles and does that smile reflect in his eyes.
 
What attributes/qualities would you want your Dom/me to have?
Is independant, intellegent, able to converse about many things, although not a 'know it all', willing to listen, willing to admit when he doesn't know something and seek information, treats people with respect and compassion, able to display affection, consistant in what he says and does (particularly rules/'punishment'), good hygene, smiles and laughs easily, can laugh at himself as well, sense of humor, knows his own limits and willing to admit when he has reached them, desires more than just D/s relationship, has goals and works toward achieving them, when needed is willing to compromise, can talk openly about his feelings/desires/wants/fears/etc., can be both playful and stern as the situation requires, is flirtatious, is comfortable with and enjoys frequent physical contact, honest communication, actively listens when spoken to, has enjoyments outside of work, family and D/s relationship, is willing to 'loose himself' in something or someone, has passion, can speak of his past and not relive/be stuck in it(past relationships/experiences good or bad), is comfortable with who his is as a person and a Dom; as I read this I realize that I am describing my mate, so I my hope is to find my mate and Dom in one person.

What qualities/attributes would turn you off or drive you away from a potential/prospective Dom/me?
Arrogance, poor communication skills, no sense of humor, lack of compassion, rudeness, bad hygene, where glasses that hide the eyes, showing lack of respect for others/me/himself, easily distracted while talking to someone(gives me the feel of 'looking for someone better' to be talking or spending time; unless of course they actually are looking for someone, as in meeting and waiting for them), that's about all I can think of right now.

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RE: What Do you Want? - 7/23/2007 2:11:43 PM   
atendersoul


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Status: offline 		what attracted this one was His experience, His honesty and His laughter....
WANT....a word not used in being a slave and the second question is out of line to be answered in a correct manner.....He choiced and accepted her into His house....
limits are things that are used within vanilla beyond the moral issues such as involving children.....

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RE: What Do you Want? - 7/24/2007 4:51:16 AM   
boytoy4female


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Status: offline 		What attracts me to a domme? Intelligence, creativity and an open mind. Most people go through life with a narrow vision. They claim to have "limits", but have never tried them or some variation of the limit. For example, most consider on-line to be all role-play. Have you considered any ways to make it more real while still remaining on-line only? Perhaps with a little thought and creativity, you can twist that limit and make it acceptable. Or, maybe you can find a short cut, to take them to the other side of that line in the sand and blow their mind.

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RE: What Do you Want? - 7/25/2007 11:21:41 AM   
JackHammer2000


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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirli had planned a coffee meet and greet with a dom from and when he cancelled our meet, i realized  he was the one who had the problem worrying about what others would think about him being seen with a black woman around town.  i had no problem enjoying a nice cup of coffee or attending a munch with him - i consider myself  "color blind" when it comes to dating even though i have never dated within my own race.

i don't understand why men get so hung up about the opinions of others especially when dating outside their race.  i personally don't have a problem since i have dated interracially many times before. and when i do meet a guy outside my race, the very first thing he asks "you don't have a problem since i'm white and not black"  no, but i do have a problem with those who are too worried about what others will think.


Well, the good news here is that you found someone (apparently) and no longer have to deal with such nonsense.  Good luck to you both! 

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"Democracy must be something more than two wolves and a sheep voting on what to have for dinner."
-- James Bovard, Source: Lost Rights. The Destruction of American Liberty (St. Martin's Press: New York, 1994), p. 333

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RE: What Do you Want? - 7/25/2007 2:30:58 PM   
feastie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JackHammer2000

What attracts you to a potential or prospective Dom/me?
 
Intelligence, charm, wit, kindness, generosity and that certain quiet strength.  A bit of arrogance, provided it is well-deserved and not just in his own head.


What attributes/qualities would you want your Dom/me to have?

See above, and add honesty, being loving, nuturing, good with kids because I come with kids.  Smart and intuitive.  Having integrity.  Notice that I didn't list any "dominant" qualities?  That's because we've already established that he's dominant.  His qualities as a man and a person interwine with his dominance.

What qualities/attributes would turn you off or drive you away from a potential/prospective Dom/me?

Rudeness, disrespect, the expectation of "instant" obedience, the dismissal of my motherhood ... for starters ;)


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Disclaimer: Any views expressed in any post are my opinions only. They may or may not be yours.

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