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Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 12:33:26 AM

urspaul

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I’d like to ask the Mistresses here if they could please take a minute and give me some advice on my profile please. While I realise that there are loads of male subs out there, I’ve only received one or two mails/replies, and these have been from different countries.
I’d really appreciate any advice

Thanks

urspaul

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 1:27:41 AM

LadyEllen

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Looks OK to me Paul - in fact pretty good in that you dont start talking about your tastes until halfway down the page and only after talking about yourself as a person first.

My only comments are

1) Plymouth where? UK or somewhere else, as just about every English speaking country has a Plymouth
2) Photo?

You might find your age might hold you back; though there is no evidence to say so, it seems younger guys have a more difficult time here than those slightly older than you.

E

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 2:10:34 AM

urspaul

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LadyEllen,

Thanks for the reply.

I’m not too sure what happened to the photos, I’ve just added some more, but they seem to have replaced/wiped the old ones!

Does the country not appear next to the city at the top of the profile?

Thank You once again

urspaul

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 2:40:52 AM

LadyEllen

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Hi

When I looked at it, the profile didnt display country.

New photos take a few days to be approved, so I wouldnt worry unless its been over a week and they still dont show.

E

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 8:21:33 AM

Politesub53

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Its ironic that i should read this just after having done my profile. I am new to BDSM so i ticked the curious box a fair bit.
I would suggest that whatever you write, honesty has to be paramount. A Mistress would read your profile and think if you had said you like this or that, then you really do like it.

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 9:07:09 AM

urspaul

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LadyEllen,
Thanks for Your time again:)

Politesub53,

Lol! Sod's law mate:)
I agree wholeheartedly! My intention is to meet a Mistress/Goddess to serve in real-time. Not only would it be pointless to lie about something and then have to recant it later, but how could I ever accomplish my wish of total love, worship, and adoration of a Goddess if the whole foundation is based on lies!
Also gone through the utter $*%$ of lying to myself and others before, nowhere near worth the pain, for all concerned.

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 9:25:18 AM

Trampler

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Personally I love your profile, if you lived in Michigan I would snatch you up before you could blink!

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 9:28:56 AM

TigressFL

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My suggestion would be to use proper capitalization.

Good Luck!

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 10:28:58 AM

MistressRouge

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Hello paul,

A very enjoyable read, and great pics too, love the tattoo's.

I like your descriptive about watersports, and your experiences, very good!

Regards,

Mistress Roug'e.

http://mistressrouge.webeden.co.uk/

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 1:37:07 PM

urspaul

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Trampler, MistressRouge,

Thank you both for the input and kind words:)

TigressFL,

Thats something I'm always unsure of, also when writting mails too.
Is this something most would agree with?
From an aesthetic point of view I would completely agree, just presumed it would be “the submissive way of writing”.

Thanks again for the time and advice

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 2:26:50 PM

KaramelGoddess

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paul,

I thought your profile was very well written and you articulated what you wanted to say perfectly. This was also a very coy way to get Dominas to peek at your profile, btw.

My online boy never caps words/sentences that describe himself. He always caps anything related to Me however.

If I still lived in the UK I would definitely be interested. Alas, I only live in one of the colonies.

Oh and LadyEllen, there's no Plymouth in Bermuda, how odd is that???

With Kind Regard,
~Kara

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/7/2007 6:09:47 PM

TigressFL

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quote:

ORIGINAL: urspaul

Trampler, MistressRouge,

Thank you both for the input and kind words:)

TigressFL,

Thats something I'm always unsure of, also when writting mails too.
Is this something most would agree with?
From an aesthetic point of view I would completely agree, just presumed it would be “the submissive way of writing”.

Thanks again for the time and advice

I do not view using lower case as being submissive, I view it as incorrect.

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/10/2007 2:47:47 AM

MistressRouge

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quote:

ORIGINAL: urspaul

Trampler, MistressRouge,

Thank you both for the input and kind words:)

TigressFL,

Thats something I'm always unsure of, also when writting mails too.
Is this something most would agree with?
From an aesthetic point of view I would completely agree, just presumed it would be “the submissive way of writing”.

Thanks again for the time and advice

It is down to your personal choice paul

To cap or not to cap that is the ?

Many subs contact Me and do not use capitals, I am no way offended by this, at all.

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/10/2007 3:10:33 AM

Copulo

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If I look at a subs profile then I ponder on those that are written with intelligence and I think yours is a fairly attractive profile. The fact you are young and fit helps!
Confidence is a very good point to make because it gives the impression that you are in control of your own self worth and again that is very important (certainly to me anyway).
I do get the impression that you have written what you feel a Mistress wants to see. I prefer a little more depth and not so much the rushing onto the ‘I love watersports’

Key things to finding yourself a good Mistress is: never look desperate, never talk the talk (we are not fools) be picky. I love a picky sub, it means so much more to me than a sub that is ready to jump into chains for any Mistress, be proud and remain confident and show your intelligence off to its absolute best.

Maria

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/10/2007 3:39:44 AM

Politesub53

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I always thought doing a profile would be simple, i have found the opposite to be true. As i said earlier have only just done one, i have updated it and am still not happy. I think being yourself and open about what you want, and i susspect many submissives dont actually know what they want, is the main ideal to aim for.
As for using capitals, if you have been with a Mistress who insisted on it its kind of second nature, even when you are trying to break the habit. Some Mistress`s will prefer them and some not.
My sister in law still wants to know why she got a card saying Wishing You a happy birthday !!

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/10/2007 9:21:48 AM

Copulo

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This is the kind of thing that would catch my eye

I stand confident as a person, I know who I am and what Im about. My desire to submit is like an inner strength, it holds me up and keeps me going, it is a large part of who I am But I am also and intelligent, good humoured, intellectual person. I have much self respect and I am confident in every day life. For these reasons I will not fall at any Mistresses feet. If I felt that I was ever getting that way then I would hopefully be able to walk away with some ounce of dignity.
Perhaps that special person is out there, the one that can get so deep inside my mind that I will adore her every breath, perhaps not.
I have ideals and I believe to an extent that we all do. Those ideals are not set in stone, that would be ridiculous but I have particular things I wish to give in my levels of pain and submission and other things I have absolutely no desire to do. For a Mistress to expect all without question would equal a game of proving oneself worthy. I will prove myself worthy by embracing the right Mistress with the purest form of submission but to work, that must surely come from good communication skills and the occasional acceptance of compromise.

Oops I got a bit carried away there but I was thinking as I wrote it how lovely it would be to find such a male profile. Fem subs often write such profiles because they can afford to be fussy but that fussiness makes them SO munch more attractive.

When I look for a sub, I look for someone with a mind and who is positive about what he wants. I do not want to hear a man calling me Ma’am after 10 minutes of talking to me, to me this is foolish behaviour and I refuse to play his game. Thinking back, I have never taken on a sub that called me Ma’am or Mistress before he/she became mine.
A man who asks me what will I do to him gets no reply and told to leave. Again I refuse to be someone’s entertainment or wank fodder! I am not here to tickle your fancy for the next 20 minutes or however long you wish to hang around.

A man that is honest, frank in a respectful way and even to a degree opinionated will get my attention. The more normal he acts the more easy it is to judge his responses to certain things I will say to him.

Capitals are not important to me. People can use them or not. They really mean nothing.

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/10/2007 10:54:03 AM

stockingluvr54

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Copulo

I stand confident as a person, I know who I am and what Im about. My desire to submit is like an inner strength, it holds me up and keeps me going, it is a large part of who I am But I am also and intelligent, good humoured, intellectual person. I have much self respect and I am confident in every day life. For these reasons I will not fall at any Mistresses feet. If I felt that I was ever getting that way then I would hopefully be able to walk away with some ounce of dignity.
Perhaps that special person is out there, the one that can get so deep inside my mind that I will adore her every breath, perhaps not.
I have ideals and I believe to an extent that we all do. Those ideals are not set in stone, that would be ridiculous but I have particular things I wish to give in my levels of pain and submission and other things I have absolutely no desire to do. For a Mistress to expect all without question would equal a game of proving oneself worthy. I will prove myself worthy by embracing the right Mistress with the purest form of submission but to work, that must surely come from good communication skills and the occasional acceptance of compromise.

Hope you don't mind that I copied and pasted that to my profile...

just kiddin.....

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/10/2007 11:21:23 AM

joyinslavery

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If you're going to be doing most of your searching online, my recommendation would be to put your energy into a well thought-out, personalized introductory letter.

While it's true that profiles are peeked at (especially anyone posting on the boards here), generally, as a male submissive, you will most likely be the one conducting an active search and reaching out with a first contact so a well-written introductory letter is important and can often overcome 'flaws' in your profile.

And keep in mind that regardless of how well you write your profile, you will never be able to please everyone. Profiles by their nature are general to each reader. An introductory letter tailored to the specific individual is, in my opinion, always the best route, particularly for malesubs whose profiles are unlikely to be seen by many Dommes as many of them are not 'pro-active' profile viewers. A nice profile helps but in my opinion, I think you'll get better results focusing on your introductory letters.

There is a downside of course to spending too much time on introductory letters and for that, I refer you to the 'Long letters of introduction...only to be rebuffed.' thread now playing on 'Ask a Mistress' May be different in the UK but somehow, I doubt it, so be prepared for some of that too.

One malesubs opinion anyway. Happy hunting!

< Message edited by joyinslavery -- 5/10/2007 11:33:31 AM >

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/10/2007 3:17:40 PM

pixelslave

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quote:

ORIGINAL: joyinslavery

If you're going to be doing most of your searching online, my recommendation would be to put your energy into a well thought-out, personalized introductory letter.

Tossing a bone in your direction, how many different ways can a puppy say in a message "Woof, woof, please do me!"??

- pixel

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RE: Profile critique/advice please. - 5/10/2007 6:49:16 PM

WantToBeYourToy

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I am new at this as well and I would like some opinons from Mistresses as well. I was pretty much up front so it does not leave much to be questioned.
*nameless*

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