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Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 6:46:26 AM

MHOO314

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A lesson in servce and submission----I put this in this category as I do believe this is a huge lesson in service and submission, I am sure the Dom/minas will see it and comment, however submissives need to take this a bit to heart--

We here, always list, comment, berate, and try to teach submissives what service is--and it seems for most it still ends up being the fantasy--here is My story--I have many boys local and otherwise who are vying for My attention---begging to be seen as THE one, the perfect rose out of them all---Thursday evening I injured My neck badly---severe muscle spasms--the worst pain I have ever had---a miserable night led to a miserable next day--couldnt work, couldnt see My horses, couldn't drive to get meds or lotion, or even ice cream if I wanted it--that pain moved to My lower back--again severe spasms--heating pad and movies was about all I could stand---today, the neck is so so, but the back is in severe spasms again---I am not one to cry at pain, but this hurts like a SOB--everyone knows about it, My IM status indicates, My blog talks of it, I have spoken of it when we chat---and yet no one, not a single boy has offered a bit of help--not an errand, not an offer of grabbing to go food, get meds, not even a card, not even an e card,--this is the very thing we have discussed in other posts, would you still serve Me when...and today I feel the answer is--I guess not.

Yes I am sure this can be said it is a self centered rant--but there are hundreds of roses out there, and yet it takes very little effort to be an extraordinary rose--or maybe its just too much effort if you don't see your benefit.

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 7:03:31 AM

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Mistress Hathor, I am so sorry you are in pain.

And I'm even more sorry that none of those who claim to want to serve you have stepped up to actually serve you when it's needed the most.

Personally, I feel sad and empty inside if I'm not allowed to do things for Him when I know He could really use the help, or to make life easier on Him, or just to spoil Him!

Sending you healing thoughts and I would send hugs, but those might hurt!

Monica

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 7:04:58 AM

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I hope your back is feeling better soon. I know back issues are probably the most irritating, since it limits your physical abilities.

As for not finding a rose....I guess i never expect those that i haven't created a deep relationship with to want to do anything for me. It has always been those i call friends who do. Poopoo on those who obviously don't care, and time for servents who want something more then to just serve.

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 7:12:18 AM

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I can say I am saddened that none of your potentials made any offers of assistence, even just as friends and not as D/s interests. I think it takes a special kind of insensitivity to ignore someone's need or pain, whether it's simply being depressed and needing some chocolate overdose and tissues, or something more involved such as "Let me get something for you, or come play body servant for a day." Unfortunately that insensitivity to others seems to grow by the year. To me anyone who isn't willing to give forth some time or effort to help anyone(within reason), even a stranger in need, isn't really a rose at all.

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 7:21:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrazyC

I hope your back is feeling better soon. I know back issues are probably the most irritating, since it limits your physical abilities.

As for not finding a rose....I guess i never expect those that i haven't created a deep relationship with to want to do anything for me. It has always been those i call friends who do. Poopoo on those who obviously don't care, and time for servents who want something more then to just serve.

<edited because i sounded shallow thie early morning.>

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 7:38:09 AM

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I dunno, my partner drove over an hour and a half in rough traffic after a long day at work when I called him at 5 just to give me a hug after my mom's surgery. This was before we'd really gotten serious together.

In your case it's probably just an obvious sign that no one is really interested in you or feels that you aren't a good match for them.

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 8:14:53 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I dunno, my partner drove over an hour and a half in rough traffic after a long day at work when I called him at 5 just to give me a hug after my mom's surgery. This was before we'd really gotten serious together.

In your case it's probably just an obvious sign that no one is really interested in you or feels that you aren't a good match for them.

Well thanks LA, that makes Me feel a whole lot better.

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 9:16:30 AM

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Sometimes it gets tiring to jump and jump through hoops to get in good graces with someone. It appears that maybe since you didn't want their attention when things were good that they've decided to distance themselves. Perhaps they see it as they are only worthy of your attention when you have troubles and aren't good enough for you when your life is smooth. That may not be the kind of relationship they seek.

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 10:11:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Sometimes it gets tiring to jump and jump through hoops to get in good graces with someone. It appears that maybe since you didn't want their attention when things were good that they've decided to distance themselves. Perhaps they see it as they are only worthy of your attention when you have troubles and aren't good enough for you when your life is smooth. That may not be the kind of relationship they seek.

An interesting perspective, however their attention has been much appreciated in the good times---it is all lessons learned.

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 10:21:24 AM

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I am very sorry that you are in such pain. I currently have a rotator cuff injury, and though it is not a back or neck injury, it does limity mobility and I can sympathize in that respect. I hope you heal quickly!

As for your roses not being there for you, there is no excuse. If they claim to wish to serve you, they should be there when they are needed and I am sorry they are not. I do not know your exact relationship with them or what have you, but it seems that these roses cannot be trusted when the chips are down. In my experience (outside the BDSM world at least) these are not the people I wish to have in my life.

Again, I do hope you heal quickly!

~Fledgling

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 10:52:38 AM

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Well, that pretty much sucks. I'm not close to you at all, but I can pick up a phone and find out if there's a Simon's located near you to have some grub delivered to you. Also, lots of pharmacy's deliver now as well, and I've got some great fingers that google pdq, so if you need someone to do some research for you to find out what can be done for you long distance, such as animal care, temp maid service etc. let me know and I'll be more than happy to help.

In the meantime..

... I hope you get to feeling better very soon.

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 11:10:23 AM

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I'm sorry you're feeling so crummy, and hope you feel better soon.

Often times, people just don't know what to do. Particularly when used to being directed. Is there a possibility these subs may be waiting for some sort of instructions from you? It could be that while you're bothered that they're not offering to help, they're bothered that you're not asking for help.

And at the risk of offending some, it has been my experience that much of the male species doesn't think of stuff like cards and such.

Still, I'm sure it's disheartening.

My best to you.

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 11:17:32 AM

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I'm so sorry you are hurting...if i lived close to you i'd baby you!...and i don't even want sex!!...LOL....feel better soon...

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 12:31:30 PM

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I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. With submissive men, those lining up to serve you, the surefire way to get them to act is put this in your blog, "Slaves, insert a large, well lubricated plug in your ass, jerk off until you are about to cum then stop, and then go out and find me a suitable get well present." They don't understand any subtle hints or respond in a selfless way - you have to connect it to obeying an order and make sure you put them in panties. Sad but true.
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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 2:36:54 PM

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AAkasha that is just not fair, that is too funny!!! I have tears rolling down My face!---

Thanks so much to all of you---Bita and goodpet you sweeties for your emails---what a darlin---I am actually feeling better, My UM put My happy happy butt down on the heating pad with a glass of sweet tea, My laptop and a good book with that "if you move you're dead look"--(wonder where she gets that!)--it DID help the back and I am sure with a good evening, hot bath and good sleep, I may be better tomorrow---now as for the boys, no roll call from them so "off the buddy list!"---

that is just too funny AAkasha.

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 2:54:07 PM

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A while back when my ex Dom was ill, I called him up and asked him if there was anything I could for him. He told me that he needed a few things from the store. I didn't have problem going to the store for him. Now if I did that for someone that I used to serve, why can't those who are wanting serve do the same...hmmmm

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 3:25:30 PM

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I have to agree with Aakasha.....it seems like the younger males of the species needs to be told exactly what to do and when and how to do it....you'll probably have to send out some direct orders!

I've been laid up for two months with a torn achilles tendon....I hear ya!

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 3:27:30 PM

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 3:30:02 PM

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thank You Mistress in sharing Your thoughts here with this posting....
may You find some peace in Your quest.......

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RE: Just an Ordinary Rose - 8/13/2007 3:32:52 PM

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This is a great example of why it takes me months to become involved with someone or to
"play" with them.
Most of these submissive's are really only submissive when it is fun or it suits them.
As you have stated the real test, is when things are not so much "fun".
I hope you feel better soon, and if I were you I would not consider any of the "potentials"
you have now.
I would think, it is time to perhaps start from scratch.
Sad thing is, I can think of so many vanilla men that would run over to your home and do
so many things to help you out.

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