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ORIGINAL: njlauren

A military commander who was such a stickler for details would probably not be well respected by the people under them, for the same reasons I think most slaves would have trouble with it, it almost totally puts the burden on the slave to figure out how to navigate complex, rigid rules in the face of what 'real life' throws at them. In the military, especially in combat or near combat conditions, the idiot officer who rants and raves because soldiers aren't maintaining proper shaves, shines and haircuts and other things not exactly related to staying alive, is likely to end up with a revolt, if not being likely to end up killed by his own troups, because in doing so he is totally ignoring reality.

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ORIGINAL: avena

While the posted list would definitely not do it for me, I do agree with what Kaliko said:

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I don't think I would ever, ever expect my dominant to have as specific a list of responsibilities as I do. Though I wouldn't feel comfortable with a list like the OP has, I would certainly be comfortable with some sort of "list" of expectations, even if not written down in list form. The whole point is that I want a relationship in which I am serving his needs, first and foremost (which, ultimately, satisfies mine). Certainly, it needs to be the right match, with the right man, and with the right communication, and the right amount of fun and laughter and love and lightness, but...no, I would not expect that his responsibilities toward me need to be as specific and expected past what the OP listed, such as taking care of me and keeping me safe, etc.

And in fact, D and I do have a fairly detailed list of my responsibilities. Included on that list are the household chores that fall under my 'domain', as well as dress expectations and other miscellaneous rules. There are also some specific details on the things that are his 'domain' (which happens to include all the outside chores, except for gardening), however there are a lot more vague items on his list than there are on mine.

The most important thing on our list is a statement that "The above list (referring to out list, not the OP's list) is a starting point ONLY and is expected to flex and change as the relationship evolves". Our list is really just a starting point...the relationship has already grown well beyond the initial list, and we no longer bother writing things down. We do however have discussions about 'where things would fit on the list' whenever we encounter a new situation.

Also, like Kaliko, I LOVE lists...I make a to do list for myself every day. D thinks it's hilarious, but he's almost as bad as I am, making weekly to do lists instead of my daily to do lists.

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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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My bladder subs to no one.

Indeed.

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i can understand the allure of that kind of control, but at the same time, the guy has to be willing to be contacted at any time. is this "ask to potty" rule only in place when he's home, or does it stand all day no matter what? does he have a cell phone that will never go on silent, ever?

but also, i think there's a lot here that, as he said, was established over time, and the way it's been presented to us is "hi person i don't know, check out this list and then sign on the dotted line if you want to come live with me."

so there are probably nuances and such that are left out.

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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

I wasn't really interested enough to read the full list UNTIL 2 posters mentioned the bracelets so I did a search (still not interested in such a complex list) then almost choked on my lunch while laughing.  Really, a red bracelet AND a brown bracelet?  Where in the world did you come up with THAT one?

I must admit that my curiosity got the better of me so I finally gave in & read the list in its entirity and again had to laugh at the suggestion that she find way to "stay curious" about sex.  I'll repeat my question above..."Where in the world did you come up with THAT one"?

On the flip side when my girl moved in w/me I too created a list but it was more a list of chores to do.  We were still very new in the relationship so I wanted her to know what was expected of her on a daily basis.  She moved in because she lost her job/housing all at the same time so this was an emergency situation, we hadn't had time to really get to know each other.  The list was a guideline for her to follow and once I presented it to her I never really gave it much thought as real life got in the way so my wants/needs & her availability changed so we did the best that we could.

Lists aren't necessarily a bad thing but OP you had some way out there suggestions that I felt compelled to post on your thread.
The end result in this lifestyle....to each their own.  If we can accept swallowing fecal matter w/o blinking an eye why should lists bother us this much?  Do what works for you, OP but I'd still love to know where you came up w/the idea of the bracelets!

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

OP - have you tried looking for subs with a military background?

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: revmick82

Here's a  working list of "House rules" I've had since the first time I invited a woman to live with me; about a decade ago. Since then, she left and two others have come and gone, all stuck around for 2-3 years (yes I know it's a pattern, I'll address that in later posts) Let me know your thoughts.  
 
My promise to you

I am here for you, to adore and endure you.

I will stay curious and discover any way I can make your life better.

You mean more to me than any metaphor can express.

I am a poor communicator when I am stressed, but I’m working on it.

You have a space in my heart that will never grow cold.

I invited you to live with me because I love you deeply.

I intend to give you a happy, healthy and safe place to live.

I will stay curious and open minded about your mental and physical needs.

I will communicate honestly and openly with you.

I will help make this space a home for us.

Our Quality time

Make sure music, food and drink are ready for my homecoming.

Express yourself openly, but always respectfully.

Request permission to leave when you have need, make lip to skin contact if granted.
“May I go pee”, “May I go to work”, “May I check on dinner”

Your Binder

Keep your binder in the middle drawer beneath the fish tank.

Write titles and guides in block letters.

Write content in script.

Practice exceedingly neat and elegant penmanship.

Illuminate  each page after I review it’s content.

Type and email me each page of content.

Keep a list of Home Rules.

Journal daily, 250 word minimum.

Keep an evolving section of best practices that we make up together.

Your Communication

Speak freely, but respectfully.

Observe courtesies in all phone and written communication with me.
“only if it pleases you”, “not unless it pleases you”,  “your obedient servant”, etc

Lips to foot, verbally surrender your mind and body each morning.
“I love you -------. My body and mind are yours. Your wish is my command.”

Grant me all that is yours each morning.
“As I am yours, all that is mine is yours.”

Your Correction

Recognize that I am correcting behavior, not the inner you that I’ve grown to love.

If my correction causes physical or emotional distress, express this in a respectful manner.

Bear corrections with grace and dignity.

Your Dress and Hygiene

Shave your body daily

Wear a red bracelet on your left wrist when menstruating.

Wear a brown bracelet on your left wrist when you are having colon trouble.

House clothes have an open bottom, no panties unless menstruating

No street clothes beyond the curtains unless company is present

Paint all your nails the same.

Mark “POMS” on your body daily.

Your Household duties

No dirty dishes left overnight.

No garbage in the home overnight.

Do laundry as soon as there is a full load.

Hang our next days apparel out the night before.

Write the next days weather forecast on the bathroom mirror in dry erase.

Tables, counters and floors are clean and clutter free before bed.

Keep a grocery list on the refrigerator.

Plan meals in advance.

Make the bed each morning.

Iron my clothes immediately after wear (if not soiled) or wash.

Make coffee each morning. Pour one cup and one thermos full.

Your sexual duties

Find ways to stay curious.

Maintain absolute availability.

Maintain fidelity, whatever we decide that means.

Recognize the cycle of our sex drives as they rise and fall.

Offer oral sex more than twice daily.

Attempt good morning and good night, blow-jobs daily.

I would have dropped you at line 4.