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CreativeDominant -> RE: A Good Dom... (2/10/2007 8:01:23 AM)
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ORIGINAL: SirDominic
losttreasure, here is one Master who thought your OP was a hoot! As you say, a perfect tongue in cheek response to the Good Wife thread. Both concepts are silly beyond words. Don't Dom's these days have a sense of humor anymore?
Namaste, Sir Dominic
and this post from Raven....
Well looks like its the Brits that are breaking the Domly ranks here. If the OP is looked at as 'rules' then yes I can see where there could be some complaint, but for general tone and some of the tools Doms use to keep things running smoothly... no problems with it AT ALL.
If I say I am going to be home at a set time.... she should be able to EXPECT Me at that set time (Within lattitude for travel delays..) You want your girl to trust in what you say... then when you say 'X'... MEAN 'X' and she WILL come to trust in your words.
When it comes to service... do you want a mindless drone, or an enthusiastic girl who is eager to please? I prefer the latter and expect the right attitude... how to get that, how to help her maintain the right attitude? Don't take her for granted. Sure she has no 'right' to thanks, sh has submitted and is just doing as she should... regardless of 'extra effort'... she should be making extra effort anyhow, I expect her best.... bu I little nod and a smile can just make that diffrence, the words 'good girl' WHEN MENT, carry a lot of weight.
As for taking that deep breath before stepping in.... why wouldn't you, OK maybe not for the reason outlined in the OP, but you have a damn job to do, responcibilitys to uphold... she dosn't get a free ride, she can't 'coast' neither can' you, not if you expect this to work long term. Being in control 'of yourself' is where it starts, composing yourself, getting out of 'office' mindset before walking back in doesn't take much mental discipline.... and it helps that you can have her take those shoes off and come give you a gentle shoulder rub whilst you drink that first coffee and chat about the day and if there is anything she needs to bring to your attention that has happened whilst you here abscent from your 'domain'
Now, MY Take.............
Like these two, this dominant also took this as a "tongue-in-cheek" mirror piece to "The Good Wife"...a humorous, satirical piece. As with most satire, there are grains of truth in it, as aptly noted by Raven.
For myself, in any dynamic I would choose to be in, trying to follow the piece line by line, as if it were a "true" instruction manual wouldn't work. Then it would become, as SM noted, too much like the submissive running the show...but again, that's if I was to take the piece seriously line by line. However, the idea of cultivating respect and courtesy in my submissive by showing her courtesy and consideration makes perfect sense to me in MY world. Am I always courteous? No, sometimes a measure of terseness is called for. But given that I don't want to be terse all the time, then that leaves me with being courteous while still being dominant or just out and out domineering. I choose the former.
****NOTE: The above paragraph(s) by me are an expression of MY views only and not meant to reflect some universal measure of how all dominants feel. Those that take my words out of context or interpret them to be an expression of how all dominants feel or should feel is...to put it simply...WRONG and should be dismissed from serious consideration for today's Grand Prize.
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