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ORIGINAL: igor2003

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I always like to point out all the male doms who require their subs to dress a certain way, present themselves in a certain way when they first meet.  Somehow that's ok, but requiring a specific physical gift or money isn't. 

I understand why that is, but I don't understand why so few see the ridiculous double standard here.

Sorry, but i don't see the double standard either.  First, i don't think the two scenarios compare.  One is requiring a fee or some other "gift" that actually changes hands, the other is requesting a show of compliance.  That is two different and seperate things.  (at least in my perspective it is.)  In either instance the sub has the option of telling the dominant to get lost if they don't like the idea.

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The morality is coming from those who hide or rename their profession because they have problems with words. There is no morality in the words used to describe concepts, people bring the morality with them.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I always like to point out all the male doms who require their subs to dress a certain way, present themselves in a certain way when they first meet.  Somehow that's ok, but requiring a specific physical gift or money isn't. 

I understand why that is, but I don't understand why so few see the ridiculous double standard here.

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Sorry, but i don't see the double standard either.  First, i don't think the two scenarios compare.  One is requiring a fee or some other "gift" that actually changes hands, the other is requesting a show of compliance.  That is two different and seperate things.  (at least in my perspective it is.)  In either instance the sub has the option of telling the dominant to get lost if they don't like the idea.

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I am with Em part way.  I am not speaking just about dressing well, or looking nice.  Tribute is about complying as well - there are male doms who request a certain colour of clothing - specific underwear, or none at all even.  These are no different to asking for a gift of any kind.  Both are for personal gain and both are asking the s-type to comply, it can even be seen as a test to see a persons commitment - but of course in the male vs. female world - there is often double standards.

 

Peace

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ORIGINAL: igor2003

I am with Em part way.  I am not speaking just about dressing well, or looking nice.  Tribute is about complying as well - there are male doms who request a certain colour of clothing - specific underwear, or none at all even.  These are no different to asking for a gift of any kind.  Both are for personal gain and both are asking the s-type to comply, it can even be seen as a test to see a persons commitment - but of course in the male vs. female world - there is often double standards.

 

Peace

 

There is no difference in being asked to give a cash or gift tribute or in being asked to dress a particular way?  Hmmm....Great!  Next time i see a Domme asking for a cash tribute i'll just tell her i'll dress nice for her instead since you said there is no difference.

 

I stand by my earlier words...a cash or gift tribute is an item of some value and substance that is changing hands.  Being asked to dress a certain way is an act of compliance.  Big difference. 

 

A slave might comply and give a tribute.  Or a slave might comply and dress a certain way.  Or a slave might comply and stand still while being whipped.  They are all acts of compliance, but they are not all tributes unless you want to stretch the meaning of tribute even more than it has been already.

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ORIGINAL: Copulo

This is all getting a bit silly now.
We are talking money tributes here! She may ask for a tribute of cash or she may ask for the tribute of a gift that is going to cost cash. We are talking ‘you want me to domme you darling and your going to have to give me financial payback one way or another’
We are not talking about a dominant asking for a carefully written letter or a flower or asking a sub to dress in a particular way. Any reasonable dominant will take heed if the sub replies that she/he has no such outfit and if he/she has anything about them, then they will compromise.
We can split hairs all we like and argue this out till the cows come home but at the end of the day a dominant that asks for a financial slave or a tribute is touting herself professionally.   
Actually its not really a tribute at all, just sounds better and less greedy to use that word. A tribute is something you can give if you feel like giving and not something that can be demanded.

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

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ORIGINAL: Copulo

This is all getting a bit silly now.
We are talking money tributes here! She may ask for a tribute of cash or she may ask for the tribute of a gift that is going to cost cash. We are talking ‘you want me to domme you darling and your going to have to give me financial payback one way or another’
We are not talking about a dominant asking for a carefully written letter or a flower or asking a sub to dress in a particular way. Any reasonable dominant will take heed if the sub replies that she/he has no such outfit and if he/she has anything about them, then they will compromise.
We can split hairs all we like and argue this out till the cows come home but at the end of the day a dominant that asks for a financial slave or a tribute is touting herself professionally.   
Actually its not really a tribute at all, just sounds better and less greedy to use that word. A tribute is something you can give if you feel like giving and not something that can be demanded.

One Woman's silly, is another boy's serious, i'm not looking for anyone to
"Domme" me. Is that a particular outreach progam i haven't heard about?
We're "talking" tribute here, not "arguing" about it, an exchange of views
related to the topic i believe. Not looking to "split" hairs either, being a
chia* pet, i already possess my fair share, simply offering my take on
subject as i see it. Oh wait, was that "moo", guess i'm done here.

With Love and Respect, chia* (the pet) 

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ORIGINAL: DreamyLadySnow

MsSonnet is absolutely right.
I've wasted more time on no-shows, poof boys, do-me boys and greedy boys who just want their kink satisfied. I've even had a boy tell me that he wouldnt meet me for coffee, only for play, because getting to know me would be a waste of his time.
Nice, eh?
I totally understand the concept of tribute now. I never used to.
Most Dommes I know are decent, warm-hearted caring people. Most want to know the boy before they do anything with him. Most are tired of the whiny, incessant demands from strangers (and no, vanilla guys do NOT go up to totally strange women with a list of sexual demands because they know what the response would be. They'll take them on a date, take them to dinner, a movie, a club, whatever. What is the difference?)
I see no problem with a woman wanting to get something for all of the effort that she puts in. Then if the guy is a poof boy, at least she knows she hasn't been used again.

LS
Yes, I am cynical. It happens.

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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

I guess this means that our Physicians, who charge an office fee just for seeing them, Doctors, Surgeons, Psychiatrists, Psychologists, ENT's, ALL are prostitutes, too.

We already knew Lawyers were.

Oh, that makes Accountants, Veterinarians, Ski Intructors, Art Teachers, Piano Teachers, and anyone else who charges a fee for teaching their expertise a slut and a prostitute as well.